Homosexuality?
I feel like I might be gay because I have certain interests, such as sometimes being attracted to naked men, having random thoughts, and wanting to see my classmates' bodies.
I often find myself preoccupied with these thoughts, and I really hope a doctor can help me.
I truly do not want to become gay, so please, doctor, help me and tell me what I should do.
Thank you.
A-Zai, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/08/16
Dr. Liu Jianting reply Urology
It's still early! Homosexuality is not like that; understanding one's body is a thought that everyone has.
Don't overthink it.
Reply Date: 2004/08/16
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Understanding one's sexual orientation can be a complex and often confusing journey. It's important to recognize that sexual orientation exists on a spectrum and can encompass a range of feelings and attractions. From your description, it seems you are experiencing some conflicting feelings regarding your attraction to both males and the thoughts that accompany those feelings.
First and foremost, it’s essential to understand that having thoughts or feelings of attraction towards the same sex does not automatically define you as homosexual or bisexual. Many people experience curiosity or attraction to different genders at various points in their lives, and this exploration is a normal part of human sexuality. It’s also worth noting that sexual orientation can be fluid; what you feel now may evolve over time as you gain more experiences and insights about yourself.
Your feelings of interest in male nudity and the thoughts you have about your classmates are not uncommon. Many individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation, may find themselves curious about bodies and sexuality, especially during adolescence and young adulthood when sexual feelings and identities are often being formed. This curiosity can sometimes lead to anxiety, especially if it conflicts with your self-perception or societal expectations.
It’s also important to address your concern about not wanting to identify as homosexual. The fear of being labeled can stem from societal pressures, cultural beliefs, or personal values. However, it’s crucial to approach your feelings without judgment. Embracing your feelings and understanding them can lead to greater self-acceptance and peace of mind.
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed or distressed by these thoughts, seeking guidance from a mental health professional, particularly one who specializes in sexual orientation and identity issues, can be incredibly beneficial. They can provide a safe space for you to explore your feelings without fear of judgment and help you navigate your thoughts and emotions.
In addition, consider engaging in open conversations with trusted friends or support groups. Sometimes, sharing your experiences with others who have gone through similar feelings can provide comfort and clarity.
Lastly, remember that it’s okay to take your time in understanding your sexual orientation. There is no rush to label yourself, and exploring your feelings at your own pace is perfectly acceptable. Allow yourself the freedom to experience your emotions without the pressure of defining them immediately.
In summary, your feelings are valid, and it’s essential to approach them with curiosity rather than fear. Seeking professional help can provide you with the tools to better understand yourself and your feelings. Embrace the journey of self-discovery, and remember that you are not alone in this experience.
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