Sexual dysfunction
Hello Doctor: I recently got married, but I've been experiencing erectile dysfunction during intimacy with my wife, which has led to some unpleasant arguments.
I'm really worried.
My sexual function was normal in the past, but earlier this year, I suddenly had a panic attack while driving.
My psychiatrist prescribed Alprazolam (Xanax) and Paroxetine (Seroxat) for me.
Initially, after starting the medication, I experienced delayed ejaculation, but that gradually improved.
I've been on the medication for nearly ten months, and in the last couple of months, I've been tapering off.
My panic symptoms have mostly subsided, although I still feel uncomfortable occasionally, especially while driving.
However, in the past month, during intimacy with my wife, I find that although I want to engage, I seem to be unable to achieve an erection at all.
When I watch my favorite adult films and masturbate, I can achieve an erection, but it feels like the hardness and duration are not as good as before.
Additionally, I hardly experience morning erections anymore, which used to happen occasionally.
I've also had some issues with frequent urination.
I would like to ask the doctor what I should do.
I do have significant work stress and have been feeling more fatigued lately.
But why has my sexual function declined after stopping the medication? Would it be better to continue taking the medication? Is this decline in sexual function due to other factors, or is it another manifestation of my panic disorder that requires ongoing medication? Please provide me with your insights, thank you!
FFF, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/11/30
Dr. Liu Jianting reply Urology
It's really puzzling! Basically, your erectile function should be normal.
I recommend that you and your wife read two books: "Getting the Man" and "Getting the Woman."
Reply Date: 2004/11/30
More Info
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common issue that can affect men of all ages, but it can be particularly distressing for newlyweds who are navigating the complexities of a new relationship. Your situation, where you have experienced a sudden onset of erectile difficulties after a history of normal sexual function, raises several important considerations.
Firstly, it’s essential to understand that erectile dysfunction can be caused by a variety of factors, including psychological, physiological, and lifestyle-related issues. In your case, the onset of panic attacks and the subsequent prescription of medications such as Alprazolam (Xanax) and Paroxetine (Seroxate) may have contributed to your current difficulties. Both medications can have side effects that impact sexual function. Alprazolam, a benzodiazepine, can lead to decreased libido and erectile difficulties, while Paroxetine, a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), is known to cause sexual side effects, including delayed ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
The fact that you can achieve an erection during masturbation while struggling during intercourse suggests that psychological factors may also be at play. Performance anxiety, stress, and the pressure to perform can create a cycle of anxiety that exacerbates erectile dysfunction. It’s not uncommon for men to experience ED in situations where they feel pressure to perform, especially in a new relationship where both partners may have heightened expectations.
Your mention of increased work stress and fatigue is also significant. Stress can have a profound impact on sexual function, as it affects hormone levels, blood flow, and overall energy levels. Additionally, the absence of morning erections, which are typically a sign of healthy erectile function, may indicate that there are underlying physiological issues that need to be addressed.
Here are some steps you can take to address your erectile dysfunction:
1. Consult a Healthcare Professional: It’s crucial to discuss your symptoms with a healthcare provider who can evaluate your overall health, review your medications, and possibly adjust them if they are contributing to your ED. They may also conduct tests to rule out any underlying medical conditions, such as hormonal imbalances or cardiovascular issues.
2. Consider Therapy: Since psychological factors can play a significant role in erectile dysfunction, speaking with a therapist or counselor specializing in sexual health may help. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be particularly effective in addressing performance anxiety and other psychological barriers to sexual function.
3. Lifestyle Modifications: Reducing stress through relaxation techniques, exercise, and a healthy diet can improve your overall well-being and potentially enhance sexual function. Regular physical activity can improve blood flow and reduce anxiety, both of which are beneficial for erectile function.
4. Communication with Your Partner: Open and honest communication with your wife about your feelings and concerns can help alleviate some of the pressure you may be feeling. Discussing your experiences and fears can foster intimacy and understanding, which may help reduce anxiety during sexual encounters.
5. Medication Review: If you suspect that your medications are contributing to your erectile dysfunction, consult your prescribing physician. They may consider alternative medications or adjust your current regimen to minimize side effects.
6. Follow-Up: Regular follow-up with your healthcare provider is essential to monitor your progress and make any necessary adjustments to your treatment plan.
In conclusion, erectile dysfunction can be multifactorial, and addressing it often requires a comprehensive approach that considers both physical and psychological aspects. By seeking professional help, communicating openly with your partner, and making lifestyle changes, you can work towards improving your sexual health and overall quality of life. Remember, you are not alone in this, and many men experience similar challenges. With the right support and strategies, it is possible to regain confidence and improve your sexual function.
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