Please help me?
Hello Dr.
Yeh: I still remember when I was in school, a good friend came to chat with me.
During our conversation, she had a small habit of swallowing.
At first, I thought nothing of it until I started experiencing swallowing myself, which marked the beginning of a series of unfortunate events.
After I began swallowing during conversations, people found it strange; regardless of gender, they would stop talking to me when they noticed this small action, making it difficult for me to make friends.
It has been six months since I graduated, and in the workplace, whether with colleagues or supervisors, everyone seems hesitant to approach me or even speak to me because of this behavior.
As a result, I have faced consequences, changing jobs multiple times and losing my favorite role in event planning.
I have tried to will myself to control the excessive secretion, but it has been unmanageable.
This situation is something I never anticipated, especially as someone who has always diligently studied with hopes of finding a good job in the future.
Event planning was my passion, but due to this issue, I cannot pursue a career that requires communication.
I have switched jobs several times and am currently working at a hotel front desk.
Initially, I performed well and caught my supervisor's attention, but recently, due to my swallowing, I have been met with cold indifference.
I have noticed that even when I sit quietly with a blank mind, my salivary glands seem to be constantly active, leading me to swallow frequently.
I sincerely ask you, Dr.
Yeh, do I have a mental health issue, or is there something wrong with my brain that has caused this? Four years ago, I did not have these symptoms.
Should I see a psychiatrist? Sincerely, a concerned netizen.
Wang le yi qie, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/01/07
Dr. Ye Baozhuan reply Psychiatry
Hello! I didn't see you swallow, so I can't imagine how strange that action might be! However, based on my medical knowledge, everyone continuously secretes saliva, and to prevent it from dripping, we tend to swallow frequently (just like I am doing now while replying to you, and I don't even know how many times I've swallowed).
Unless someone has severe Parkinson's disease (like Mao Zedong in his later years), which makes swallowing difficult and leads to excessive drooling (do you like that?).
I don't know how exaggerated your actions are that make others perceive you as strange, but I know that many people tend to exaggerate or overly focus on others' reactions.
Perhaps others don't even notice anything; it's just that you are overthinking, feeling anxious, too tense in front of people, or have a tendency towards perfectionism (not wanting to make even the slightest mistake in public), which can make you seem a bit neurotic or compulsive, unable to relax.
Therefore, what others find strange about you is likely the overall impression rather than the act of swallowing itself.
It's similar to someone with an overbite who constantly tries to hide it in front of others, which ironically draws more attention to their overbite.
So, take it easy! I suggest: 1.
You could consult a psychiatrist, who can provide more advice or conduct a deeper assessment of your issues.
2.
Some medications can help reduce saliva secretion, but you might have to endure dry mouth as a side effect.
3.
Perhaps you could keep a glass of water nearby when talking to others, and take a sip when you need to swallow, which would make it feel more natural.
Reply Date: 2005/01/07
More Info
It sounds like you're experiencing a challenging situation that intertwines anxiety, communication difficulties, and physical symptoms related to swallowing. From what you've described, it appears that your swallowing reflex has become a source of anxiety and discomfort, particularly in social situations. This can create a cycle where anxiety exacerbates the swallowing issue, which in turn leads to more anxiety, especially in interactions with others.
Understanding Swallowing Disorders and Anxiety
Swallowing disorders, also known as dysphagia, can manifest in various ways, including the sensation of needing to swallow frequently, difficulty swallowing, or even the feeling of a lump in the throat. In your case, it seems that the act of swallowing has become a nervous habit that is triggered by anxiety during social interactions. This is not uncommon; many people experience physical symptoms as a result of anxiety, which can include increased heart rate, sweating, and yes, even swallowing difficulties.
The Psychological Aspect
Your experience of feeling that others perceive you as "strange" due to your swallowing can lead to heightened self-consciousness and social anxiety. This is a common issue for individuals who have developed certain physical habits or tics in response to anxiety. The fear of judgment can create a vicious cycle where the anxiety about being judged leads to more pronounced physical symptoms, which in turn reinforces the anxiety.
Seeking Help
Given the impact this issue has had on your social life and career, it would be beneficial to seek professional help. A mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist, can help you explore the underlying causes of your anxiety and develop coping strategies. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for anxiety disorders, as it helps individuals reframe negative thought patterns and reduce anxiety symptoms.
Additionally, it may be worthwhile to consult with a speech therapist or an occupational therapist who specializes in swallowing disorders. They can provide techniques to help manage the swallowing reflex and reduce the anxiety associated with it.
Techniques for Managing Anxiety
In the meantime, there are several strategies you can try to manage your anxiety and the swallowing issue:
1. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can help reduce overall anxiety levels. These techniques can also help you become more aware of your body and its responses, allowing you to manage the swallowing reflex better.
2. Gradual Exposure: Gradually exposing yourself to social situations that trigger your anxiety can help desensitize you to those triggers. Start with less intimidating situations and work your way up to more challenging ones.
3. Focus on Communication: Shift your focus from your swallowing to the conversation at hand. Engaging fully in the dialogue can help distract you from the anxiety and the physical sensations you're experiencing.
4. Positive Self-Talk: Challenge negative thoughts about yourself and your swallowing. Remind yourself that everyone has quirks and that your worth is not defined by this issue.
5. Professional Support: As mentioned earlier, seeking therapy can provide you with tailored strategies and support to address both the swallowing issue and the underlying anxiety.
Conclusion
It's important to remember that you're not alone in this experience, and many people face similar challenges. By seeking help and employing coping strategies, you can work towards overcoming these difficulties and reclaiming your social life and career aspirations. Don't hesitate to reach out for support from professionals who can guide you through this process.
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