OCD: Coping Strategies for Your Partner's Struggles

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Hello, Doctor: My girlfriend initially didn't seem to have any issues, although I sometimes thought she was a bit anxious.
Recently, she started working in a beauty-related job at my cousin's company, but my cousin later mentioned that she might be under too much stress.
At work, she needs to fold a lot of towels, and while most people can fold them in about half an hour, she takes three hours.
The reason is that she tends to fold each towel multiple times, and she wasn't even aware of this repetitive behavior until my cousin pointed it out.
After that, she started exhibiting other repetitive behaviors at work.
I took her to see a psychiatrist, who diagnosed her with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and prescribed medication.
She has only seen the doctor once, but now she is very sensitive about folding towels.
If she knows she has to fold towels in the coming days, she struggles to sleep well in the nights leading up to it and feels anxious and nervous about going to work.
I feel like she is now avoiding the task of folding towels.
Since seeing the doctor, she has realized that she exhibits repetitive behaviors in other areas as well.
She feels that as long as she is in a visible area, she is less likely to engage in compulsive behaviors, but since she often works alone at the company, these compulsive behaviors frequently occur.
She also feels anxious and nervous when she is alone at work, and I think she is starting to fear going to work.
Doctor, do you think changing her job would help improve her situation? Additionally, she lacks self-confidence and believes her condition will not improve, so how can I help her build confidence? Lastly, can stress trigger obsessive-compulsive disorder?

kk, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/01/19

Dr. Yu Xie Zhao reply Psychiatry

The exact causes of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) are not fully understood, but its pathophysiology is significantly related to an imbalance of neurotransmitters in the brain.
Some believe it to be a hyperglutamatergic disease.
In summary, there are various opinions, and stress also plays a crucial role.
If someone is indeed experiencing typical OCD, they may initially find it very distressing; however, as the condition worsens, they may not recognize the oddity of their behaviors.
At this point, the symptoms may become severe enough to resemble those of schizophrenia.
In conclusion, I recommend that you seek a thorough evaluation and treatment from a psychiatrist, as this is the best course of action.

Reply Date: 2005/01/19

More Info

Understanding Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) can be challenging, especially when it affects someone close to you, like your girlfriend. OCD is characterized by intrusive thoughts (obsessions) that lead to repetitive behaviors (compulsions) aimed at reducing anxiety. Your girlfriend's experience with folding towels is a classic example of how OCD can manifest in daily life.

Coping Strategies for Your Partner's Struggles
1. Educate Yourself and Your Partner: Understanding OCD is the first step in managing it. Learn about the disorder, its symptoms, and treatment options. This knowledge can help both of you recognize the patterns of OCD and understand that her behaviors are not a reflection of her character but rather a symptom of her condition.

2. Encourage Professional Help: It's great that she has seen a psychiatrist. Continuous therapy, particularly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), is often effective for OCD. Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), a specific type of CBT, can help her gradually face her fears and reduce compulsive behaviors. Encourage her to keep attending therapy sessions and to be open about her experiences with her therapist.

3. Support Her in Facing Fears: If she is avoiding situations that trigger her OCD, such as folding towels, gently encourage her to confront these situations. This can be done gradually, starting with less anxiety-provoking tasks and slowly increasing the difficulty. For example, she might start by folding one towel in a controlled environment before moving on to more challenging scenarios.

4. Create a Safe Space for Communication: Let her know that it's okay to talk about her feelings and experiences. Sometimes, just having someone to listen can alleviate some of the pressure she feels. Encourage her to express her anxieties without judgment.

5. Build Her Self-Confidence: Since she struggles with self-confidence, help her recognize her strengths and achievements, no matter how small. Celebrate her progress in therapy and daily life. Positive reinforcement can help her build a more positive self-image.

6. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Encourage her to practice mindfulness, meditation, or yoga. These techniques can help reduce anxiety and improve her overall mental health. They can also provide her with tools to manage her anxiety when it arises.

7. Limit Stressors: While changing jobs might seem like a solution, it's essential to consider that stress can exacerbate OCD symptoms. If she feels overwhelmed in her current role, a change might help, but it’s crucial to ensure that the new environment is supportive and understanding of her condition.

8. Encourage Healthy Routines: Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep can significantly impact mental health. Encourage her to engage in activities that promote well-being and reduce stress.

9. Be Patient: Recovery from OCD is often not linear. There will be good days and bad days. Your patience and understanding will be crucial as she navigates her journey.

Understanding the Role of Stress in OCD
Stress can indeed trigger or exacerbate OCD symptoms. When under pressure, individuals may find their compulsions intensifying as a way to cope with the heightened anxiety. It’s essential to create a low-stress environment for her, especially during challenging times.

Conclusion
In summary, while changing jobs might provide temporary relief, it’s essential to address the underlying issues related to her OCD. Encourage her to continue therapy, support her in facing her fears, and help her build self-confidence. With time, patience, and the right strategies, she can learn to manage her OCD more effectively. Remember, you are not alone in this journey; many resources and support systems are available to help both of you navigate this challenging situation.

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