What should I do?
Dr.
Hsu: Hello! Thank you for your response last time.
I haven't taken any medication for dizziness recently, but my sexual function still hasn't improved.
My wife and I haven't been intimate for over a month, and she is threatening to divorce me, which is really distressing for a newlywed man.
The pressure is immense, and I am very troubled.
I would like to ask the doctor, earlier this year, I experienced some improvement while taking flower essence and mugwort essence at the same time; I wonder if that had any effect? Additionally, I still have two pills of Viagra that you prescribed before, and I am considering taking them again to see if I can regain my confidence.
Kunrao Zhe, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/04/18
Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology
Concerned individual: Hello! Regarding your situation, I still believe it is influenced by psychological factors.
As for herbal remedies, I personally think that as long as they are natural, they may have some benefits for the body or certain specific conditions.
However, I am not sure about their effects on sexual function, so I cannot provide a response.
Medications like Viagra may be worth trying for you, as they could help alleviate your sexual difficulties.
Once you see results and build your confidence, you may gradually find that you no longer need medication and can regain your ability on your own.
Wishing you well.
Urology Department Head, Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai, Response from Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan, concerned about you.
Reply Date: 2005/04/18
More Info
Sexual dysfunction can be a challenging issue, especially in the context of a new marriage. It’s understandable that you’re feeling stressed and anxious about the situation, particularly with the added pressure of your wife expressing dissatisfaction and even threatening divorce. Here’s a comprehensive approach to addressing your concerns.
First, it’s important to understand that sexual dysfunction can stem from a variety of factors, including psychological, physiological, and relational issues. Since you mentioned that you’ve stopped taking medication for dizziness, it’s worth considering whether the initial medication might have had an impact on your sexual function. Some medications can have side effects that affect libido or erectile function, so it’s crucial to discuss this with your healthcare provider.
You also mentioned that you experienced a temporary improvement in sexual function while taking flower essence and mugwort essence. While these remedies are often used in alternative medicine, their efficacy can vary greatly from person to person. It might be beneficial to explore this further with a healthcare professional who specializes in integrative medicine, as they can provide guidance on how these substances might interact with your body and any other medications you are taking.
Regarding the use of Viagra (sildenafil), it can be an effective option for many men experiencing erectile dysfunction. However, it’s essential to use it under the guidance of a healthcare provider. If you decide to resume taking it, monitor how it affects your sexual function and communicate openly with your wife about your experiences. This can help alleviate some of the pressure you’re feeling and foster a supportive environment for both of you.
In addition to medication, consider the psychological aspects of your sexual dysfunction. Stress, anxiety, and performance pressure can significantly impact sexual performance. Engaging in open and honest communication with your wife about your feelings and concerns can help reduce anxiety. Couples therapy or sex therapy might also be beneficial, as these therapies can provide a safe space to explore underlying issues and improve intimacy.
Moreover, lifestyle changes can also play a significant role in improving sexual function. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep can enhance overall well-being and sexual health. Reducing alcohol consumption and quitting smoking, if applicable, can also have positive effects on sexual performance.
Lastly, it’s crucial to approach this situation with patience. Sexual dysfunction is often not resolved overnight, and it may take time to find the right combination of treatments and strategies that work for you. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that many couples face similar challenges, especially in the early stages of marriage.
In summary, addressing sexual dysfunction involves a multifaceted approach that includes medical evaluation, psychological support, open communication with your partner, and lifestyle modifications. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help, as a healthcare provider can guide you through this process and help you find the best solutions for your situation. Remember, you’re not alone in this, and with the right support, it’s possible to improve your sexual health and strengthen your relationship.
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