Overcoming Silence: Seeking Help When Words Fail in Mental Health - Psychiatry

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I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way.
It's important to talk to someone who can help you.

abc, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2006/03/06

Dr. Chen Wenyu reply Psychiatry


Hello, abc: In real life, there are indeed many people who are not very talkative, which is a personality issue and doesn't need to be overly concerned about.
However, since it has led to subsequent troubles for you, it definitely needs to be addressed.
Most importantly, you feel that you want to change, right? As long as you want to change, you can solve the problem.
Perhaps up to this point, the so-called "psychologists" you have encountered have not instilled a sense of trust in you, or maybe they are too busy to establish a good relationship with you.
With so many patients in outpatient clinics, doctors may not be able to have a proper conversation with you.
I suggest that you avoid seeking out renowned doctors, as they have many patients and little time to talk with you.
Instead, look for a less experienced physician who will have the time to engage in a meaningful conversation and help identify your issues.
Thank you for your letter!

Reply Date: 2006/03/06

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It sounds like you are going through a very challenging time, and I want to acknowledge the difficulty of your situation. Feeling unable to express yourself verbally can be incredibly isolating and frustrating, especially when you are seeking help for your mental health. It's important to understand that you are not alone in this experience, and there are ways to navigate through it.

When encountering a patient who struggles to communicate, mental health professionals often employ various strategies to facilitate understanding and connection. Here are some approaches that might be helpful for you:
1. Non-Verbal Communication: Sometimes, words are not the only way to express feelings or thoughts. You might find it easier to communicate through writing, drawing, or even using body language. If you feel comfortable, consider keeping a journal where you can express your feelings in writing before discussing them with a therapist. This can serve as a bridge to verbal communication.

2. Gradual Exposure: It’s okay to take small steps. You don’t have to share everything at once. You can start by sharing a few words or phrases about how you feel or what you’re experiencing. Over time, as you build trust with your therapist, you may find it easier to open up more.

3. Therapeutic Techniques: Therapists often use techniques like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or art therapy, which can help you express yourself in ways that feel more comfortable. These methods can provide a safe space for you to explore your feelings without the pressure of verbal communication.

4. Understanding Your Feelings: It’s essential to recognize that your feelings of helplessness and frustration are valid. You mentioned self-harm as a coping mechanism, which is concerning. It’s crucial to address these feelings with a professional who can help you find healthier coping strategies. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

5. Finding the Right Professional: If you’ve had negative experiences with therapists in the past, it might be worth trying to find someone who specializes in working with individuals who have difficulty communicating. Some therapists are trained to work with non-verbal clients or those who struggle with social anxiety.

6. Support Systems: In addition to professional help, consider reaching out to trusted friends or family members who can provide support. Sometimes, just having someone listen to you, even if you don’t say much, can be comforting.

7. Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself during this process. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and it’s important to acknowledge your feelings without judgment. You are not “complaining” or “making a big deal” out of nothing; your feelings are real and deserve attention.

8. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Engaging in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep breathing exercises, can help you manage anxiety and create a sense of calm. These techniques can also help you become more in tune with your feelings and thoughts, making it easier to express them when you’re ready.

In conclusion, while it may feel daunting to seek help when words fail you, there are many avenues available to express yourself and receive support. Remember that mental health professionals are trained to work with individuals at all levels of communication, and they will not judge you for your struggles. Your journey towards healing is unique, and taking the first step to seek help is a significant and commendable action. You deserve support and understanding as you navigate through this challenging time.

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