Mental
I have a very serious problem.
First, let me explain my family situation.
My parents have a very impatient personality, and I am their only child, which leads to high expectations for me.
I feel the same way, but both my father and I are quite stubborn.
Since I became aware of my surroundings, we have had major arguments every two to three days.
Each time, I shake all over and cry, feeling very wronged.
Two years ago, I realized that I exhibited some obsessive-compulsive behaviors, but they would usually improve after a week or two of rest.
However, starting last week, I suddenly became completely numb to emotions such as happiness or sadness, as if there were no external stimuli.
I find myself questioning why I should laugh or feel sad.
When I think about it, I feel absolutely nothing.
I cannot immerse myself in stories or movies because I cannot feel anything.
Even worse, I struggle to understand simple concepts like why 1 plus 1 equals 2.
I know it is 2, but it feels as if I have lost the ability to comprehend deeply.
I cannot grasp what 50 or 100 means; I just cannot accept it.
I am feeling very anxious about how I have become this way.
I have sought medical help, but I cannot articulate what is happening to me, making it difficult for the doctor to understand.
I have taken some medication, like Xanax, but it seems ineffective.
I am very anxious and hope you can provide me with a detailed explanation and some insight into my situation.
Thank you.
ppp, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2001/10/10
Dr. Liao Dinglie reply Psychiatry
Hello,
I see your letter, and your anxiety is evident in your words.
I imagine you must be quite frightened; anyone in your position would feel the same way.
You mentioned many issues, and it might be helpful to be a bit patient and allow these problems to be resolved gradually.
Typically, during adolescence, a person's worldview undergoes significant changes, and emotions and behaviors become more pronounced.
If these feelings are not expressed or discussed with others, and if one does not understand their situation, unexpected circumstances may arise.
Firstly, regarding what you refer to as obsessive-compulsive symptoms, aside from medication, there is a psychological term called "undoing." This means that you may subconsciously wish for a certain event not to occur.
When you have such thoughts, certain actions may be repeated, similar to rewinding a videotape, because you hope to see a particular scenario that has not occurred, leading to compulsive behaviors.
However, the severity of these compulsive symptoms requires evaluation by a psychiatrist, as some cases may need medication for quicker improvement.
Secondly, you mentioned that since last week, you have been unable to feel joy, anger, sadness, or happiness.
Please reflect carefully on how this began; it may have emerged after a significant emotional conflict.
The symptoms you describe seem to be a protective mechanism from nature, helping you avoid intense emotional shocks, making you feel like an observer of your own emotions.
This can be beneficial for emotional regulation, although it is less common in others.
Compared to others, your emotional experiences seem particularly rich.
I suggest you work on regulating your emotions.
For instance, if you had a conflict with family members, I encourage you to try to document the details of the event as thoroughly as possible and imagine everyone's feelings at that time.
This should help you gain a deeper understanding of both others' and your own emotions.
With these insights, your emotional regulation may become easier, which can be very helpful during this challenging age.
I hope you understand that going through adolescence is a difficult yet meaningful experience; after all, everyone has gone through it.
Finally, I want to clarify how medication can assist you.
From your brief description, it seems your emotions fluctuate more than others and are more intense, and you may be overly sensitive.
Using anxiolytics such as Xanax can help stabilize your emotional ups and downs and reduce feelings of numbness.
However, if you have many worries or exhibit corresponding compulsive behaviors, using an appropriate dosage of antidepressants can help you regulate your emotions more effectively.
Nevertheless, all these situations require extensive exploration of your emotions and inner world to find peace, which will depend on your efforts and the support of your mentors and friends.
Visiting a psychosomatic clinic can ensure that your efforts are directed effectively and can be very beneficial.
You might also consider exploring online counseling resources, such as Psych Park (http://www.psychpark.org/), for more in-depth and ongoing discussions.
Wishing you all the best.
Reply Date: 2001/10/10
More Info
Emotional numbness can be a distressing experience, often characterized by a lack of emotional responsiveness or the inability to feel emotions such as joy, sadness, or anger. This condition can arise from various underlying causes, including stress, trauma, anxiety, depression, and even certain medical conditions. Understanding the root causes of emotional numbness is crucial for finding effective solutions and regaining emotional health.
Causes of Emotional Numbness
1. Chronic Stress and Anxiety: Prolonged exposure to stress can lead to emotional exhaustion. When individuals are under constant pressure, they may develop coping mechanisms that involve shutting down their emotions to protect themselves from overwhelming feelings.
2. Trauma: Experiencing traumatic events, especially during formative years, can lead to dissociation, where individuals detach from their emotions as a defense mechanism. This can manifest as emotional numbness, making it difficult to engage with feelings or connect with others.
3. Depression: Major depressive disorder often includes symptoms of emotional numbness. Individuals may feel a pervasive sense of emptiness or disconnection from their emotions, leading to a lack of interest in activities they once enjoyed.
4. Medications: Certain medications, particularly antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs, can have side effects that include emotional blunting or numbness. While these medications can help alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression, they may also interfere with emotional responsiveness.
5. Personality Disorders: Conditions such as borderline personality disorder can lead to intense emotional experiences followed by periods of numbness. Individuals may struggle to regulate their emotions, leading to a cycle of emotional highs and lows.
Solutions for Emotional Numbness
1. Therapy: Engaging in psychotherapy, particularly cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can help individuals understand the underlying causes of their emotional numbness. Therapy provides a safe space to explore feelings, develop coping strategies, and work through past traumas.
2. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as mindfulness meditation, yoga, and deep-breathing exercises can help individuals reconnect with their emotions. These techniques encourage present-moment awareness and can reduce anxiety, allowing for a greater emotional range.
3. Medication Review: If emotional numbness is a side effect of medication, it is essential to consult with a healthcare provider. Adjusting the dosage or switching to a different medication may alleviate symptoms without compromising mental health.
4. Journaling: Writing about thoughts and feelings can help individuals process their emotions. Journaling encourages self-reflection and can serve as a tool for identifying triggers and patterns related to emotional numbness.
5. Social Support: Connecting with friends, family, or support groups can provide a sense of belonging and understanding. Sharing experiences with others who have faced similar challenges can foster emotional healing.
6. Physical Activity: Regular exercise has been shown to improve mood and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. Physical activity releases endorphins, which can enhance emotional well-being and help individuals reconnect with their feelings.
7. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Maintaining a balanced diet, getting adequate sleep, and avoiding substances such as alcohol and drugs can significantly impact emotional health. A healthy lifestyle supports overall well-being and can reduce symptoms of emotional numbness.
Conclusion
Emotional numbness is a complex issue that can stem from various psychological and physiological factors. It is essential to approach this condition with compassion and understanding, recognizing that it often serves as a protective mechanism in response to overwhelming emotions or stressors. Seeking professional help, whether through therapy or medical consultation, is a crucial step toward understanding and addressing the underlying causes of emotional numbness. By implementing coping strategies and fostering a supportive environment, individuals can work towards regaining their emotional health and reconnecting with their feelings.
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