Pain During Intercourse: Causes and Solutions for Women

Experiencing pain during intercourse multiple times can be concerning. It is important to consult a healthcare professional to determine the underlying cause, which may include factors such as insufficient lubrication, infections, or other medical conditions?

Hello Doctor: I had intercourse for the first time last month, and since then, I've had it over ten times.
Each time, I experience pain at the vaginal opening, especially when there is more vigorous movement, while I feel nothing inside the vagina.
I discussed this with my boyfriend, and he is unsure what to do; now, I have lost interest in sex.

1.
Is this normal? Does it indicate sexual dysfunction?
2.
I’ve heard about vaginal orgasms and clitoral orgasms.
I have only experienced clitoral orgasms, and that was without penetration.
After penetration, I feel nothing inside the vagina.
How can I achieve a vaginal orgasm?
3.
Can I achieve a clitoral orgasm during penetration? What should I do?
4.
I have used YK lubricant, which makes insertion easier, but I still experience pain at the vaginal opening during thrusting! I haven’t bled, so I don’t think there’s any tearing.
Foreplay feels good, but during thrusting, the vaginal opening hurts.
What should I do? I’ve searched many articles online but haven’t found detailed answers.
Please help me or direct me to websites where I can find answers and achieve orgasm.
Thank you very much!

Xiao Zhuang, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2006/07/18

Dr. Zhuang Zhijian reply Obstetrics and Gynecology

The experience of sexual intercourse varies for everyone; by accumulating experiences, you can discover the most suitable approach for you both.

Reply Date: 2006/07/18

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Understanding pain during intercourse is a common concern among women, and it can stem from a variety of physical and psychological factors. Based on the information provided, it seems that you are experiencing discomfort specifically at the vaginal opening during penetration, which can be distressing and may affect your sexual enjoyment and interest.

1. Is this normal? Is it considered sexual aversion?
Experiencing pain during intercourse, known as dyspareunia, is not uncommon, especially for those who are new to sexual activity. It is important to differentiate between discomfort that is a normal part of sexual exploration and pain that may indicate an underlying issue. Sexual aversion, or a lack of interest in sexual activity, can sometimes develop as a response to pain or discomfort. If the pain persists, it is advisable to consult a healthcare professional to rule out any medical conditions.

2. Understanding orgasms: vaginal vs. clitoral
You mentioned experiencing clitoral orgasms but not vaginal ones. This is quite common, as many women find that clitoral stimulation is necessary for achieving orgasm. The vagina itself has fewer nerve endings compared to the clitoris, which is why some women may not feel much pleasure from vaginal penetration alone. To achieve vaginal orgasm, some women may require a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation. Experimenting with different positions, angles, and techniques may help you discover what feels best for you.

3. Can clitoral orgasms be achieved during penetration?
Yes, it is possible to achieve clitoral orgasms during penetration. Many women find that certain positions allow for better clitoral stimulation during intercourse. For instance, positions where the partner is able to apply pressure to the clitoris, or where the woman can control the angle and depth of penetration, can enhance pleasure. Using a vibrator or engaging in manual stimulation of the clitoris during penetration can also help.

4. Addressing pain with lubrication and foreplay
You mentioned using a lubricant, which is a good step to reduce friction. However, if you are still experiencing pain, it may be beneficial to focus on extended foreplay to ensure adequate arousal and relaxation before penetration. This can help increase natural lubrication and reduce discomfort. Additionally, communicating openly with your partner about what feels good and what does not is crucial. If pain persists despite these adjustments, it may be indicative of a condition such as vaginismus (involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles) or vulvodynia (chronic pain in the vulvar area), which would require professional evaluation.

In summary, while some discomfort during intercourse can be normal, persistent pain is not and should be addressed with a healthcare provider. They can provide a thorough examination and discuss potential treatments or therapies. Additionally, exploring your body, understanding your preferences, and communicating with your partner can enhance your sexual experience and help you achieve the pleasure you seek. Remember, sexual health is an important aspect of overall well-being, and seeking help is a positive step towards a fulfilling sexual life.

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