How to Seek Help for Emotional Distress from Harassment?

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My ex-boyfriend has been continuously harassing me with phone calls, using foul language and making threats.
He has also lied to businesses claiming that my family needs to buy or repair something, and has falsely reported domestic violence and illegal transactions to the police.
This has been going on for over a year.
In July of this year, I decided to file a complaint, and I received a letter from the court a few days ago.
I want to see a doctor, but I'm unsure which specialty to consult, as I would like to obtain a medical certificate to use as evidence.
He has blocked me at school and in the dormitory three or four times.
In addition to calling my phone, he has also contacted my classmates and teachers, and even various offices, causing me to feel anxious every day, worrying about being called in for discussions at school.
Whenever the dorm phone rings, I wonder if it's him.
When I hear announcements on the train, I fear I might be mentioned again.
Now, whenever I see an unknown number, I tremble all over.
If I receive a call from him and hear his voice, I feel like throwing my phone.
This situation has caused my parents to argue multiple times, and I feel like I'm on the verge of a breakdown.
I would like your help and advice.
If I have to appear in court, I would feel more courageous facing him; otherwise, just seeing him or hearing his name or voice terrifies me.
I can't stop crying when I think about everything he has done to me.
This has been going on for a year and a half, and my teachers at school have also suggested that I see a doctor to obtain a certificate for court purposes.
I can't continue living like this; my teachers are also fed up with him.
Please tell me what I can do to get rid of him.
Additionally, he has told my parents that I am out with someone else, even when I am at home, and has blamed my dad for not raising me well.
Is this kind of behavior indicative of some sort of mental illness?

qǐ'é, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2006/10/12

Dr. Wang Zhenyang reply Psychiatry

Your ex-boyfriend's various harassing behaviors seem to have seriously affected your family and school life.
It can be very challenging to maintain a peaceful relationship or communicate rationally with someone who is emotionally volatile, difficult to control, or has violent tendencies.
It is advisable for you to calmly discuss possible solutions with your family or teachers while avoiding provoking your ex-boyfriend and preventing opportunities for being alone with him.
If you are experiencing emotional distress or sleep disturbances, it is recommended that you visit a psychiatric outpatient clinic to discuss treatment options with a physician that can help stabilize your emotions.
Wishing you health and happiness.

Reply Date: 2006/10/12

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I'm truly sorry to hear about the distressing situation you're facing. It's understandable that dealing with harassment can lead to significant emotional turmoil, anxiety, and even symptoms resembling post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Your feelings of fear, anxiety, and the physical reactions you experience when confronted with reminders of your harasser are valid and should be taken seriously.

Seeking Professional Help
Given the severity of your situation, seeking professional help is crucial. You should consider visiting a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. They can provide you with a safe space to express your feelings and help you develop coping strategies. A mental health professional can also assess whether you might benefit from therapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), which is effective for anxiety and trauma-related symptoms.

Medical Documentation
Regarding your need for a medical diagnosis to support your case in court, a psychologist or psychiatrist can provide you with a formal evaluation and documentation of your emotional distress. This documentation can serve as evidence in your legal proceedings, demonstrating the impact the harassment has had on your mental health.

Coping Strategies
While you seek professional help, there are several coping strategies you can employ:
1. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process your emotions. It can also help you track triggers and patterns in your anxiety.

2. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can help reduce anxiety and improve your emotional resilience. Apps like Headspace or Calm can guide you through mindfulness exercises.

3. Support Network: Lean on trusted friends, family members, or support groups. Sharing your experiences with others who understand can provide emotional relief and practical advice.

4. Establish Boundaries: If possible, limit your exposure to situations or places where you might encounter your harasser. This may include changing your phone number or blocking them on social media.

5. Legal Support: Since you have already taken steps to file a complaint, consider consulting with a lawyer who specializes in harassment or domestic violence cases. They can guide you through the legal process and help you understand your rights.

Understanding the Harasser's Behavior
Your description of your ex-boyfriend's actions raises concerns about his mental health, particularly if he is engaging in manipulative or threatening behavior. However, it's essential to focus on your well-being rather than diagnosing him. His actions are unacceptable regardless of any underlying issues he may have.

Conclusion
You are not alone in this, and there are resources available to help you navigate this challenging time. Prioritize your mental health by seeking professional help, utilizing coping strategies, and leaning on your support network. Remember, your feelings are valid, and taking steps to protect yourself is essential. If you ever feel overwhelmed, don't hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline or emergency services for immediate support. Your safety and well-being are paramount.

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