Impatience
Hello Doctor: My older brother is a quiet person who doesn't share his thoughts with his wife, parents, siblings, or friends.
I don't know when it started, but he has become irritable, often interrupting others before they finish speaking.
This has been going on for several years, and one day he finally exploded over an unexpected event.
However, instead of feeling angry, he became filled with despair about life, constantly worrying that something bad would happen and fearing he would lose everything.
His mental state has become very negative, making it difficult for him to communicate with others.
Physically, he feels chest tightness, shortness of breath, a tight head, and a sensation of heat in his head.
He has lost his appetite, and most importantly, he feels that life is completely dark.
We all know he might be unwell and have been encouraging him to seek treatment, but he has always been unwilling to go.
Eventually, he realized that continuing like this was very difficult for him, so he agreed to see a doctor, but he chose traditional Chinese medicine.
He took herbal medicine and underwent acupuncture for a while, which improved his physical symptoms and appetite, and he seemed to be in a better mental state.
However, recently, when dealing with certain matters or doing tasks, he often becomes impatient and feels an overwhelming urge to escape.
We have encouraged him to see a doctor again, but he is still reluctant to visit a "psychiatrist."
I understand that individuals with mental health issues can take medication to alleviate panic when they feel overwhelmed, but my brother is very resistant to taking any medication.
I wonder if there are any immediate ways to help him when he suddenly feels mentally unwell.
I'm concerned that if he becomes too impatient and fails to handle tasks well, it could lead to frustration, and prolonged frustration may lead to depression.
I know that any illness should be treated by a doctor, but since my brother is unwilling, I am seeking online advice.
It seems that he only experiences these issues occasionally when faced with certain situations.
Is there anything we can do to help him immediately? Thank you, Doctor.
Xiao Hui, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2007/01/23
Dr. Duan Yongzhang reply Psychiatry
Xiao Hui: Hello! Your brother's panic attacks are likely caused by the accumulation of long-term stress and emotional distress.
It is indeed necessary for him to seek treatment.
Unfortunately, he has not yet been able to receive assistance from a psychiatrist, which must be difficult for you and your family.
Here are a few suggestions for your consideration:
1.
When your brother is experiencing emotional distress, it is crucial to have someone nearby to accompany him or monitor his situation.
There should always be someone available to help him if needed (for example, assisting him to the hospital if he feels physically unwell due to a panic attack), while also ensuring his safety.
2.
Although family members are the closest, familiarity can sometimes lead to conflicts, which may not be helpful.
In such cases, it might be beneficial to involve a trusted friend, teacher, or elder to persuade him, as they may have a positive influence.
3.
Sometimes, reluctance to visit a "psychiatry clinic" stems from concerns about image or stigma associated with mental health.
Therefore, encouraging someone to seek psychiatric care can be an art in itself.
If your brother is experiencing insomnia or anxiety, introducing him to the psychiatry clinic using these reasons might make it more acceptable for him.
Thank you for your question!
Reply Date: 2007/01/23
More Info
Understanding irritability and its underlying causes is crucial for providing effective mental health support, especially when it manifests in someone close to you, like your brother. It sounds like your brother has been experiencing significant emotional distress, which has led to irritability, feelings of hopelessness, and physical symptoms such as chest tightness and loss of appetite. These symptoms can be indicative of underlying mental health issues, such as anxiety or depression, which often require professional intervention.
Firstly, it’s important to recognize that irritability can stem from various sources, including stress, unresolved emotional issues, or even physiological factors like hormonal changes or sleep disturbances. In your brother's case, his history of being a silent person who internalizes his feelings may have contributed to a buildup of unresolved emotions, leading to outbursts of anger and subsequent feelings of despair. This cycle can be exhausting and can lead to a negative feedback loop where irritability leads to isolation, which in turn exacerbates feelings of hopelessness.
When your brother finally sought help, it was a positive step, even if it was through traditional Chinese medicine. While acupuncture and herbal remedies can provide some relief, they may not address the root causes of his psychological distress. It’s common for individuals to resist seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist due to stigma or fear of being labeled. This reluctance can hinder their recovery and prolong their suffering.
Here are some strategies that may help you support your brother during difficult times:
1. Open Communication: Encourage him to express his feelings, even if he finds it difficult. Let him know that it’s okay to talk about what he’s going through without fear of judgment. Sometimes, just having someone listen can be incredibly therapeutic.
2. Normalize Seeking Help: Share stories of others who have benefited from mental health treatment, emphasizing that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. You might also suggest that he consider talking to a mental health professional who specializes in anxiety or mood disorders, as they can provide tailored strategies and support.
3. Coping Techniques: Introduce him to simple coping techniques that he can use when he feels overwhelmed. Deep breathing exercises, mindfulness meditation, or even physical activities like walking or yoga can help reduce anxiety and improve mood.
4. Encourage Routine: Establishing a daily routine can provide structure and a sense of normalcy, which can be comforting during times of emotional turmoil. Encourage him to engage in activities he enjoys or finds fulfilling, as this can help lift his spirits.
5. Monitor Symptoms: Keep an eye on his symptoms and encourage him to note when he feels particularly irritable or anxious. This can help him identify triggers and patterns, which can be useful information to share with a mental health professional when he is ready to seek help.
6. Emergency Plan: If he experiences a severe episode of irritability or despair, it’s important to have a plan in place. This could include having a trusted friend or family member he can call, or knowing when to seek immediate medical help.
7. Respect His Pace: Ultimately, it’s important to respect his pace in seeking help. Pushing too hard may lead to resistance. Instead, gently encourage him and remind him that support is available whenever he feels ready.
In conclusion, while it’s understandable to feel concerned about your brother’s well-being, it’s essential to approach the situation with empathy and patience. Mental health issues can be complex and multifaceted, and recovery often requires time and professional guidance. By providing a supportive environment and encouraging open dialogue, you can help him navigate this challenging period in his life.
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