Premature ejaculation
I have been engaging in masturbation for a long time, and I regret it because now during periods of abstinence, I sometimes take as long as half an hour to an hour to finish, while other times it only lasts a brief thirty seconds to five minutes.
If I go faster, it can be over in thirty seconds.
Is there a way to treat this? It’s very distressing.
Sometimes I think about whether I should just end it all.
I feel very sorry for my girlfriend.
Please, doctor, can you give me some advice?
Ahao, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2007/03/04
Dr. Ye Boshou reply Neurology
Hello: Please visit the urology outpatient clinic.
Thank you!
Reply Date: 2007/03/04
More Info
Overcoming premature ejaculation (PE) is a common concern for many men, and it's important to know that you are not alone in this struggle. The feelings of frustration and anxiety that accompany PE can be overwhelming, but there are effective treatments and strategies available to help you regain control and improve your sexual experience.
Firstly, it's essential to understand that premature ejaculation is often defined as ejaculation that occurs sooner than desired, either before or shortly after penetration. This can lead to dissatisfaction for both partners, but it is a treatable condition. The variability in your experiences—sometimes lasting longer and other times much shorter—can be attributed to various factors, including psychological stress, anxiety, and even physical health.
Here are some approaches that can help you manage and potentially overcome premature ejaculation:
1. Behavioral Techniques: One of the most effective methods is to practice techniques such as the "stop-start" or "squeeze" methods. The stop-start technique involves stimulating the penis until you feel close to ejaculation, then stopping until the urge decreases. This can help you learn to control your arousal levels. The squeeze technique involves squeezing the base of the penis when you feel close to ejaculation, which can help delay it.
2. Pelvic Floor Exercises: Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles can improve your control over ejaculation. Kegel exercises, which involve repeatedly contracting and relaxing the muscles that control urination, can be beneficial. These exercises can help increase your awareness and control over your pelvic muscles.
3. Desensitizing Products: Over-the-counter creams and sprays that contain numbing agents can reduce sensitivity and help delay ejaculation. However, it's crucial to use these products as directed and to communicate with your partner about their use.
4. Counseling and Therapy: If anxiety or psychological factors contribute to your premature ejaculation, speaking with a therapist or counselor can be beneficial. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can help address anxiety and improve your sexual confidence.
5. Medication: In some cases, doctors may prescribe medications that can help delay ejaculation. Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), commonly used as antidepressants, have been found to have a side effect of delaying ejaculation. There are also specific medications designed for this purpose.
6. Communication with Your Partner: Open and honest communication with your partner about your concerns can alleviate some of the pressure you may feel. Working together to explore what feels good and what helps both of you enjoy the experience can strengthen your relationship.
7. Lifestyle Changes: Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can also impact sexual performance. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and reducing alcohol and tobacco use can improve overall health and sexual function.
It's important to approach this issue with patience and understanding. Recovery and improvement take time, and what works for one person may not work for another. If you find that your symptoms persist or worsen, it may be beneficial to consult a healthcare professional who specializes in sexual health. They can provide personalized advice and treatment options tailored to your specific situation.
Lastly, I want to emphasize that thoughts of self-harm are serious and should be addressed immediately. If you ever feel overwhelmed or in crisis, please reach out to a mental health professional or a crisis hotline in your area. Your well-being is paramount, and there are people who care and want to help you through this difficult time. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and there are solutions available to improve your situation.
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