Please help me. Thank you?
I would like to ask you two questions.
I have been in therapy for a year, and I previously expressed to my therapist that during our sessions, I experience feelings of fear and thoughts of aggression.
I mentioned that this was related to events that occurred six months ago.
However, during our session last month, I discussed my feelings of insufficient progress and a sense of stagnation.
My therapist responded by questioning whether his treatment was effective or appropriate, which made him feel anxious.
In our next session, I noticed a change in his posture; he was leaning against the wall and facing to the left, rather than sitting directly across from me as he usually does.
This change made me feel somewhat uneasy, and I am unsure why.
It might be related to my discomfort with the shift in our usual dynamic.
From your professional perspective, could you explain why this might be happening? What does it reflect about his mindset or our therapeutic relationship? In what situations might you exhibit similar behavior with your clients? Thank you for taking the time to read this message; I appreciate your insights.
Māo nǚ hái, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2007/05/26
Dr. Wu Junyi reply Psychiatry
Cat Girl: Hello! Regarding your feelings of stagnation during the psychotherapy process and your discussions with the therapist about the psychological aspects of your interactions, I believe this can create a significant yet challenging impact on both you and the therapist.
It can lead to unpredictable changes in trust and attachment between you both.
The current atmosphere of anxiety is evidently brewing between you and the therapist, indicating your desire for a breakthrough in therapy, while the therapist is also attempting to resolve this impasse.
You can continue to discuss these subtle yet direct inner feelings with your therapist.
Stalemates or delays are common in the psychotherapy process and often signify that therapy has reached a certain depth.
I hope you can gradually understand yourself within the therapeutic relationship and process, seeking a path to a bright future in your life.
Reply Date: 2007/05/26
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Navigating the complexities of mental health treatment, particularly in the context of anxiety and therapy, can be challenging. Your concerns about your therapist's behavior and the dynamics of your therapeutic relationship are valid and deserve careful consideration.
Firstly, it’s important to recognize that therapy is a collaborative process. Both the therapist and the client contribute to the therapeutic environment, and any changes in behavior or demeanor can significantly impact the client's feelings of safety and trust. You mentioned that your therapist's posture and seating position changed during your last session, which made you feel uneasy. This shift could be interpreted in several ways.
From a psychological perspective, a therapist's body language can reflect their own feelings or reactions to the therapeutic process. For instance, if a therapist leans back or adopts a more relaxed posture, it might indicate that they are trying to create a more comfortable atmosphere. However, if this change feels abrupt or inconsistent with previous sessions, it can lead to feelings of insecurity or anxiety for the client. Your perception of your therapist's body language as potentially defensive or disengaged could stem from your own feelings of vulnerability or fear regarding the therapeutic process.
It's also worth considering that therapists are human and can experience their own anxieties or discomforts during sessions. If your therapist felt anxious about the progress of your treatment or about the topics being discussed, this might have influenced their behavior. However, it is crucial for therapists to maintain a professional demeanor and to be aware of how their non-verbal cues can affect clients.
In terms of your feelings of stagnation in therapy, it is not uncommon for clients to experience periods where they feel progress is slow or insufficient. This can be particularly true in the context of anxiety, where symptoms can fluctuate and may not always respond predictably to treatment. It’s essential to communicate these feelings to your therapist openly. A good therapist will welcome this feedback and work with you to adjust the treatment plan or explore new strategies to address your concerns.
If you feel comfortable, consider discussing your observations about your therapist's behavior directly with them. You might say something like, "I've noticed that your body language has changed during our sessions, and it makes me feel a bit anxious. Can we talk about that?" This approach can foster a more open dialogue and help clarify any misunderstandings.
Additionally, if you feel that your current therapeutic relationship is not meeting your needs, it may be worth exploring the option of seeking a second opinion or finding a new therapist. The therapeutic alliance is a critical component of effective therapy, and feeling safe and understood by your therapist is paramount for progress.
In conclusion, navigating anxiety in mental health treatment involves a delicate balance of communication, trust, and understanding. Your feelings about your therapist's behavior are important and should be addressed. Therapy is a journey, and it’s essential to advocate for your needs and ensure that you feel supported throughout the process. Remember, it’s okay to seek a therapeutic relationship that feels right for you, and your mental health should always be the priority.
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