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My mother has been struggling with her mental health since my father passed away two years ago.
She usually stays home alone and often claims to see my father returning to disturb her, or she sees "ghost lights." Every day, she is banging and knocking around, insisting that she needs to "kill the ghost lights" because they cause her pain and prevent her from sleeping, both day and night.
This situation has been ongoing for a long time.
Her banging has caused my brother and her to move frequently to avoid disturbing others.

This year, I noticed that my mother started taking other people's discarded fruits and cooking them, which made me realize that something was seriously wrong.
I took her to see a psychiatrist, and after taking medication, she was able to sleep without issues.
However, when she is awake, she resumes her banging and continues to chase away the ghost lights.

When I talk to her, she seems normal and aware, responding appropriately to questions, which makes me wonder if she is just lonely or trying to get attention.
During our conversations, she also talks to the ghost lights, trying to drive them away.
Despite seeing a doctor and taking medication, her condition hasn't improved.
I really don't know what to do anymore.
The doctor, please help me.
We might soon have nowhere to live because we could be evicted again...
Please, doctor, help me.

Xiao Bai Mian, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2008/03/18

Dr. Zhan Hongyu reply Psychiatry


Hello: Based on your description, it is possible that your mother may have a psychiatric diagnosis, such as schizophrenia.
These types of conditions require active pharmacological treatment.
If her treatment at other hospitals has not been effective, you may consider bringing her to our hospital for consultation.
Wishing you peace.

Sincerely,
Dr.
Jan Hong-Yu

Reply Date: 2008/03/18

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I'm sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing with your mother. It sounds incredibly challenging to witness her struggle with hallucinations and the impact it has on both her life and yours. Hallucinations, particularly in the context of grief, can be a complex issue that often requires a multifaceted approach to treatment and support.

Firstly, it's important to understand that hallucinations can occur for various reasons, especially following a significant loss such as the death of a loved one. Grieving can manifest in many ways, and for some individuals, it may lead to experiences where they feel they are seeing or hearing the deceased. This can be a part of the grieving process, but when it becomes distressing or disruptive, as in your mother's case, it may indicate a need for more comprehensive mental health support.

Your mother’s behavior of seeing "ghost fires" and feeling compelled to "fight" them suggests that she may be experiencing a form of psychosis, which can sometimes occur in the context of severe depression or anxiety, especially after a traumatic loss. The fact that she seems to have moments of clarity when conversing with you indicates that there may be fluctuations in her mental state, which can be common in individuals dealing with such distressing experiences.

Here are some steps you can take to help your mother and yourself through this situation:
1. Continue Professional Help: It’s good that you took her to see a psychiatrist. Medication can help manage symptoms, but it may take time to find the right dosage or type of medication that works for her. Encourage her to continue her appointments and to be open with her doctor about her experiences.

2. Therapeutic Support: In addition to medication, therapy can be beneficial. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or other forms of counseling can help her process her grief and develop coping strategies for her hallucinations. A therapist can also work with her to help distinguish between her hallucinations and reality, which may reduce her distress.

3. Create a Supportive Environment: Ensure that your home environment is as calm and supportive as possible. This may include reducing stressors that could exacerbate her symptoms, such as loud noises or chaotic environments. Engage her in activities that promote relaxation, such as gentle exercise, art, or music.

4. Monitor Her Safety: Given her behavior of "fighting" hallucinations, it’s crucial to ensure her safety. If her actions pose a risk to herself or others, it may be necessary to seek immediate help from mental health professionals or emergency services.

5. Encourage Social Interaction: Isolation can worsen mental health issues. Encourage her to engage with friends, family, or support groups. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can make a significant difference.

6. Educate Yourself and Your Family: Understanding mental health issues can help you and your family provide better support. Consider reading about grief, hallucinations, and mental health to better understand what your mother is experiencing.

7. Take Care of Yourself: Supporting a loved one with mental health issues can be draining. Make sure to take time for yourself, seek support from friends or professionals, and consider joining a support group for families dealing with similar issues.

8. Emergency Plan: If her condition worsens or if she becomes a danger to herself or others, have a plan in place for emergency intervention. This could involve contacting her doctor, a mental health crisis line, or going to the emergency room.

In conclusion, while it’s clear that your mother is going through a very difficult time, with the right support and treatment, there is hope for improvement. Encourage her to continue seeking help and remain patient as she navigates her healing process. Your support is invaluable, and taking care of your own well-being is equally important as you assist her through this challenging time.

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