Helping a Friend Overcome Fear of Public Transport After Depression - Psychiatry

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Regarding the bus (how could it be?)


Actually, this is not my own issue but that of a good friend (I want to help her).
She developed depression around the first year of junior high school, and I believe it was quite severe! At that time, she was in such a bad state that she contemplated suicide.
However, due to continuous medical treatment and medication, she became more stable, and now she is 17 years old.

A problem has arisen: she is afraid of taking buses, trains, the metro, and even taxis.
I don't know what happened; she says she cannot overcome it.
At night, she suddenly experiences palpitations, and whenever she feels anxious, her whole body heats up...
her heart rate increases, and so on.
I want to know...
what can be done...
so that she won't be afraid?! Thank you for reading my question and providing clarification.

Pangguanzhe, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2008/06/18

Dr. Li Zhengfeng reply Psychiatry


Hello: First of all, thank you for your letter.
According to what you mentioned, your friend is experiencing symptoms similar to panic disorder, which may require medical treatment.
Typically, symptoms improve with a combination of medication and psychotherapy.
Wishing her a speedy recovery, thank you.

Reply Date: 2008/06/18

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Helping a friend who has a history of depression and is now experiencing a fear of public transport can be a delicate situation. It's commendable that you want to support her, and understanding her condition is the first step in providing effective help.

Your friend's fear of public transport may be rooted in anxiety, which is not uncommon for individuals who have experienced depression. Anxiety can manifest in various forms, including panic attacks, which can lead to symptoms such as heart palpitations, sweating, and a feeling of losing control. These symptoms can be particularly distressing, especially in confined spaces like buses or trains, where escape may feel limited.

Here are some strategies you can use to help your friend:
1. Encourage Open Communication: Create a safe space for her to express her feelings without judgment. Let her know that it's okay to talk about her fears and that you're there to listen. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can alleviate some of the anxiety.

2. Educate About Anxiety: Help her understand that what she is experiencing is a common reaction to anxiety. Educating her about the physiological responses to anxiety can demystify her feelings. For instance, explaining that the heart racing and feeling hot are normal responses to stress can help her feel less alone in her experience.

3. Gradual Exposure: Encourage her to gradually expose herself to public transport. This could start with simply visiting a bus station or train platform without the intention of riding. Once she feels comfortable, she can progress to short rides during off-peak hours when the transport is less crowded. This gradual exposure can help desensitize her to the fear.

4. Breathing Techniques: Teach her some relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing exercises. When she feels her heart racing or experiences panic, deep breathing can help calm her nervous system. Encourage her to practice these techniques regularly, even when she is not feeling anxious.

5. Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques: Mindfulness can be a powerful tool for managing anxiety. Encourage her to practice mindfulness exercises, which can help her stay present and reduce feelings of panic. Grounding techniques, such as focusing on her surroundings or engaging her senses, can also help distract her from anxious thoughts.

6. Seek Professional Help: If her fear of public transport continues to interfere with her daily life, it may be beneficial for her to speak with a mental health professional. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for anxiety disorders and can provide her with coping strategies tailored to her needs.

7. Be Patient and Supportive: Recovery from anxiety and depression can take time. Be patient with her progress and celebrate small victories along the way. Your support can make a significant difference in her journey.

8. Avoid Pressure: While it’s important to encourage her, avoid putting pressure on her to overcome her fear quickly. Everyone's pace of recovery is different, and pushing her too hard may lead to increased anxiety.

9. Join Her: If she feels comfortable, offer to accompany her on her first few trips. Having a supportive friend by her side can provide reassurance and make the experience less daunting.

10. Encourage Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Encourage her to engage in regular physical activity, maintain a balanced diet, and get enough sleep. These factors can significantly impact mental health and help reduce anxiety symptoms.

In conclusion, helping your friend requires a combination of empathy, patience, and practical strategies. By providing a supportive environment and encouraging her to seek professional help if needed, you can play a crucial role in her journey toward overcoming her fear of public transport. Remember, recovery is a process, and your ongoing support can make a significant difference in her life.

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