Overcoming Anxiety: Seeking Help for Mental Health Challenges

I don't want to think?

I recently noticed that I feel very anxious and find my concerns quite amusing, such as worrying when I hear others preparing for the national exam, even though their subjects are completely different from mine.
I think, "What if they pass?" Additionally, since I graduated from a teacher's college and the job openings this year are quite poor, I sometimes wish there wouldn't be any openings at all.
Otherwise, if someone I know gets hired, I feel sad because many of my classmates have already passed their initial and special exams.
I know it's meaningless to think about these things, yet I can't help but dwell on them, which makes me unhappy.

I even find myself feeling down when I see fellow graduates from my college sharing their success stories about passing the police exam, even though I have no intention of becoming a police officer.
It seems to make me more anxious, and I feel like I will never measure up to my classmates who have already passed.
They are accumulating years of service and improving their performance, while some are even graduating from graduate school and getting raises.
My classmates advise me not to compare myself to such people, as it only brings me down.
My parents also express concern, saying that they feel sad seeing me think this way.
Of course, parents have expectations for their children, but they also say it's okay if I don't pass; they just want to see me happy.
How can I stop creating these troubles for myself? It seems like these thoughts are self-inflicted.
Can I go to a psychiatrist and ask for medication to stabilize my mood? Is there a type of medication that would help me stop overthinking and make me feel happier?

chia, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2009/05/21

Dr. Su Zongwei reply Psychiatry

Worrying about unrelated matters and anxiety may be indicative of an emotional disorder or obsessive thinking.
A diagnosis from an outpatient physician is necessary to determine the specific condition, which will inform the appropriate treatment and medication.

Reply Date: 2009/05/21

More Info

It sounds like you are experiencing a significant amount of anxiety and self-doubt, which is not uncommon, especially during times of transition or uncertainty, such as preparing for exams or dealing with career pressures. Your feelings of comparison with peers and the fear of not measuring up can be overwhelming, but it's important to recognize that these thoughts are a common part of the human experience, particularly in competitive environments.

First, let's address the nature of anxiety. Anxiety often manifests as excessive worry about future events, particularly those that are uncertain or beyond our control. In your case, it seems that you are worried about the success of others and how it reflects on your own achievements. This kind of comparison can lead to a cycle of negative thinking, where you focus on what others have accomplished rather than your own journey and strengths. It's crucial to understand that everyone has their own path, and success is not a zero-sum game. Just because someone else achieves something does not diminish your worth or potential.

Your inclination to avoid new friendships or connections due to fear of comparison is also a common reaction to anxiety. However, isolating yourself can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and inadequacy. Instead, consider viewing relationships as opportunities for support and growth rather than competition. Surrounding yourself with positive influences can help you build resilience and provide a buffer against negative thoughts.

Regarding your question about medication, it is essential to approach this topic with care. While there are medications that can help stabilize mood and reduce anxiety, they are not a cure-all. Medications such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) can be effective for many individuals, but they typically work best in conjunction with therapy. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for anxiety, as it helps individuals identify and challenge negative thought patterns and develop healthier coping strategies.

If you decide to consult a mental health professional, be open about your feelings and experiences. A psychiatrist or psychologist can help you explore your thoughts and feelings in a safe environment and determine whether medication might be appropriate for you. They can also guide you through therapeutic techniques that can help you manage anxiety without relying solely on medication.

In the meantime, there are several self-help strategies you can implement to manage your anxiety:
1. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, and yoga can help calm your mind and reduce anxiety. These techniques encourage you to focus on the present moment rather than worrying about the future.

2. Limit Social Media Exposure: Social media can often exacerbate feelings of inadequacy and comparison. Consider taking breaks from social media or curating your feed to include more positive and supportive content.

3. Set Realistic Goals: Instead of comparing yourself to others, set personal goals based on your values and aspirations. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and recognize that progress is often nonlinear.

4. Talk About Your Feelings: Sharing your thoughts and feelings with trusted friends or family members can provide relief and perspective. They may offer support and insights that you hadn't considered.

5. Engage in Activities You Enjoy: Pursuing hobbies and interests can provide a sense of fulfillment and distract you from negative thoughts. Engaging in activities that bring you joy can also help improve your mood.

6. Seek Professional Help: If your anxiety continues to interfere with your daily life, consider reaching out to a mental health professional. They can provide tailored support and strategies to help you cope.

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. You deserve to feel better and to find joy in your life without the burden of constant comparison and anxiety. Take small steps toward self-acceptance and self-compassion, and know that you are not alone in this journey.

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