Regarding erection!?
Q1: Frequently holding my girlfriend leads to an erection, but since we haven't engaged in sexual intercourse, my penis remains in a state of engorgement.
After a while, my testicles and abdomen become uncomfortable and painful, and the longer it lasts, the more painful it becomes.
However, it usually resolves after a day.
What could be the reason for this? What should I do when I experience this pain?
Q2: Continuing from the previous question, I find that being with my girlfriend easily leads to an erection, but I don't always want to have sex with her.
It feels strange to have an erection, which makes things awkward for us.
What could be the reason for this? Can erections be controlled? Thank you.
Xiao Dou, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2010/03/21
Dr. Lin Hexing reply Urology
Hello, sir: Thank you for your question.
I would like to respond to your inquiry and provide the following suggestions: At a young age, it is common to experience erections due to stimuli from the opposite sex.
It is not necessary to feel the urge to engage in sexual intercourse every time; this is a matter of sexual desire.
There are many factors involved, including the partner's body odor, appearance, and your level of affection for her, as well as physical contact, all of which can contribute to erections.
Prolonged erections may lead to discomfort or pain in the testicles, penis, lower abdomen, or groin.
If you experience such symptoms, it is advisable to take a warm bath in the evening to relax your mind and muscles, which may help alleviate the discomfort.
Regarding how to control this, it is a more challenging topic.
When spending time with your girlfriend, consider engaging in activities that do not involve close physical contact or exercise.
During physical activity, blood flow is directed to other parts of the body, which may reduce blood engorgement in the penile erectile tissue, thus decreasing the likelihood of an erection.
Additionally, participating in the same religious practices may help calm emotions and reduce the frequency of erections.
In fact, there is no need to worry excessively, as you are a normal young man.
Finally, I wish you peace and happiness!
Reply Date: 2010/03/21
More Info
Understanding unwanted erections, particularly in the context of physical intimacy, can be a complex issue that involves both physiological and psychological factors. Let's delve into the causes, implications, and potential solutions for discomfort associated with unwanted erections.
Causes of Unwanted Erections
1. Physiological Responses: Erections are primarily a physiological response to sexual arousal, which can be triggered by physical touch, emotional connection, or even thoughts of sexual activity. When you embrace your girlfriend, your body may interpret this as a signal for arousal, leading to an erection. This is a normal response and is often involuntary.
2. Blood Flow Dynamics: An erection occurs when blood fills the erectile tissues of the penis. If the erection is prolonged without ejaculation, it can lead to a condition known as "priapism," which is characterized by persistent and painful erections. This can cause discomfort in the penis, testicles, and lower abdomen due to increased pressure and blood flow.
3. Hormonal Influences: Testosterone levels play a significant role in sexual arousal and can influence the frequency of unwanted erections. Fluctuations in hormone levels can lead to increased sensitivity and responsiveness to sexual stimuli.
4. Psychological Factors: Anxiety, excitement, or even embarrassment can contribute to unwanted erections. The mind and body are closely linked, and psychological states can trigger physiological responses.
Addressing Discomfort
1. Managing Prolonged Erections: If you experience discomfort from prolonged erections, it is essential to find a way to relieve the pressure. This can be done through ejaculation, which can help alleviate the discomfort. If ejaculation is not possible, engaging in physical activity or changing your position may help redirect blood flow.
2. Relaxation Techniques: If anxiety or embarrassment contributes to unwanted erections, practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness, or meditation can help manage your emotional response. This may reduce the frequency of unwanted erections in intimate situations.
3. Communication with Your Partner: Open communication with your girlfriend about your experiences can help alleviate any awkwardness. Discussing your feelings and experiences can foster understanding and reduce pressure during intimate moments.
Controlling Erections
1. Awareness and Mindfulness: While it may not be possible to control erections entirely, being aware of your body's responses can help you manage them better. Practicing mindfulness can help you focus on the present moment and reduce anxiety about unwanted erections.
2. Physical Techniques: Some individuals find that physical techniques, such as shifting their focus or engaging in non-sexual activities, can help reduce the likelihood of unwanted erections. This may involve changing your position or engaging in a distracting activity.
3. Consulting a Healthcare Professional: If unwanted erections become a frequent source of discomfort or embarrassment, it may be beneficial to consult a healthcare professional. They can provide guidance, assess any underlying medical conditions, and discuss potential treatment options if necessary.
Conclusion
Unwanted erections are a common experience, particularly in the context of physical intimacy. Understanding the physiological and psychological factors at play can help you navigate these situations more comfortably. By employing relaxation techniques, communicating openly with your partner, and seeking professional advice if needed, you can manage discomfort and enhance your overall experience in intimate relationships. Remember, it’s essential to approach this topic with patience and understanding, both for yourself and your partner.
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