22-year-old with suspected phimosis and premature ejaculation?!
Hello, I am 22 years old.
Let me explain my situation regarding my penis: when I have an erection, my foreskin does not retract automatically.
The tip of the glans is visible, but the glans itself does not fully emerge, meaning that whether erect or flaccid, the foreskin does not retract.
A few days ago, during my first attempt at sexual intercourse, I found that the foreskin was forced back due to pressure, which was very painful and sensitive.
When I managed to insert the glans, I ejaculated immediately! Later, I experimented with a fake masturbation device and noticed that there is a fold under the foreskin that is very sensitive.
Touching it causes a strong reaction (to the extent that touching the device feels like I want to ejaculate, let alone inserting it).
Additionally, the foreskin would retract, causing pain.
Other areas do not have such a strong reaction.
I am now very worried that I might have premature ejaculation! I previously did not masturbate frequently, about once a week, and I rarely stimulated the glans directly during masturbation.
I am really concerned.
I have not engaged in excessive sexual activity, so why is this happening to me? It is really embarrassing! I don't know what to do! Will I have to live a life without sexual activity from now on?
Student J, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2010/06/14
Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology
J: Hello, phimosis and premature ejaculation are not related.
In fact, phimosis can reduce the sensitivity of the glans and prolong erection time.
Pain during intercourse is likely due to insufficient lubrication.
If there are any unclear points, feel free to ask again, and we can discuss and research further.
This response is from Dr.
Hsu Wei-kai, Director of the Urology Department, Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan.
Reply Date: 2010/06/14
More Info
Understanding phimosis and premature ejaculation in young men is crucial for addressing concerns that can significantly impact sexual health and overall well-being. Based on your description, it appears you are experiencing symptoms of phimosis, where the foreskin cannot be retracted fully over the glans (the head of the penis), and you are also worried about premature ejaculation.
Phimosis
Phimosis is a condition that is relatively common in young men, especially those who have not been circumcised. In your case, it seems that the foreskin does not retract easily, which can lead to discomfort during sexual activities. This condition can be physiological, meaning it is a normal part of development, or pathological, which may require medical intervention.
The pain you experienced during your first sexual encounter could be attributed to the tightness of the foreskin, which may not be accustomed to the stretching required during penetration. This can lead to heightened sensitivity and discomfort. It is important to note that many young men experience similar issues, and it is not uncommon for the foreskin to remain tight until later in life.
Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation (PE) is defined as ejaculation that occurs with minimal sexual stimulation, often before or shortly after penetration. Your concern about ejaculating quickly during your first attempt at sexual intercourse is understandable, especially given the added anxiety surrounding your phimosis. Anxiety can significantly contribute to PE, as the pressure to perform can lead to heightened sensitivity and a rush to ejaculate.
Recommendations
1. Consult a Healthcare Professional: It is essential to speak with a urologist or a healthcare provider who specializes in sexual health. They can assess your condition and determine whether your phimosis is physiological or requires treatment. Treatment options may include topical steroid creams to help loosen the foreskin or, in more severe cases, a circumcision.
2. Practice Relaxation Techniques: Anxiety can exacerbate both phimosis and premature ejaculation. Techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness, or even therapy can help reduce anxiety levels, making sexual experiences more enjoyable and less stressful.
3. Gradual Desensitization: If you are comfortable, you might consider gradually desensitizing the area. This can be done through gentle stretching exercises of the foreskin (if advised by a healthcare professional) or through self-exploration to become more familiar with your body and its responses.
4. Communication with Partners: If you engage in sexual activities, open communication with your partner about your concerns can alleviate some pressure. Understanding and support from your partner can create a more relaxed environment.
5. Consider Behavioral Techniques: Techniques such as the "stop-start" method or the "squeeze" technique can help manage premature ejaculation. These methods involve pausing stimulation before ejaculation or applying pressure to the base of the penis to delay ejaculation.
6. Avoiding Guilt and Shame: It is important to remember that many young men face similar challenges. There is no need to feel embarrassed or ashamed. Seeking help is a sign of strength, and addressing these issues early can lead to better outcomes.
Conclusion
In summary, your experiences with phimosis and concerns about premature ejaculation are valid and not uncommon among young men. Seeking professional advice is the best course of action to address these issues effectively. With the right support and strategies, you can improve your sexual health and confidence, allowing you to enjoy a fulfilling sexual life. Remember, you are not alone in this, and help is available.
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