No interest in sex?!
Hello, Dr.
Hsu:
I have been troubled by a problem lately that has caused me a lot of stress and even affected my sleep.
After being single for a while, I recently started dating a girl who is 10 years younger than me.
After dating for a while, we naturally became intimate, and the first few times were very enjoyable with no issues.
However, two weeks ago, after we had a few drinks together and went to bed, everything started off smoothly, but then I suddenly found myself unable to perform halfway through.
I have had experiences of being intimate after drinking with previous girlfriends, but this situation has never occurred before.
The next day, when I wanted to try again, I couldn’t help but think about the embarrassment from the previous day, which added to my stress.
What’s worse is that while the foreplay was fine this time, I became flaccid before penetration.
We often have sex on consecutive days, and I wonder if that could be a contributing factor.
During the New Year holiday, we didn’t see each other for a whole week, and I thought it might be good for my penis to rest a bit to see if things would improve.
Although we haven’t had sex since the last incident, I found that I am struggling to feel aroused at all! This has really scared me, so I went to a urology clinic this morning.
The doctor prescribed me a few low-dose Viagra pills, saying they are meant to help me rebuild my confidence, as it is more related to stress.
If it doesn’t work, we will continue with further treatment.
I apologize for the lengthy explanation, but I have a few questions:
1.
Since my girlfriend enjoys being on top, could that be putting pressure on my prostate and causing inflammation in the surrounding muscles? (But she is quite light.)
2.
Should I really take Viagra? Will I become dependent on it in the future? I really don’t want to rely on it at such a young age...
3.
Recently, I have been trying to masturbate at home.
My penis can achieve an erection, but it is not as firm as before.
I can ejaculate, but it feels very weak, and the semen has a slight yellow tint.
After ejaculation, I immediately become flaccid.
Is this still considered abnormal?
4.
I have been taking Finasteride for hair loss, but I had no issues during previous relationships while on it.
I have stopped taking it for over a week due to this situation, but there has been no improvement.
5.
I have been experiencing weak urine flow for a while now; could that also be a factor?
I apologize for the many questions, but this is a problem that many men fear encountering, and it has caused me a lot of stress.
Thank you, Dr.
Hsu, for taking the time to respond; I truly appreciate it.
Li, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2011/02/07
Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology
Lee: Hello, the diagnosis remains the same as with the previous physician; it is likely caused by stress.
It is important to relax appropriately.
It is difficult to improve this condition with general medications; adjustments need to be made on a psychological level.
Additionally, at this stage, Viagra is only meant to help restore your confidence, and over time, you should be able to function normally.
Furthermore, there are no reports of dependency associated with Viagra.
If there are any unclear points, feel free to ask again, and we can discuss and research further.
This response is from Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai, Chief of Urology, Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan.
Reply Date: 2011/02/07
More Info
Low libido and erectile dysfunction can be distressing issues for many men, and it’s understandable that you’re feeling anxious about your recent experiences. Let’s address your concerns one by one, while also providing some context and medical insights.
1. Pressure on the Prostate: It’s unlikely that your girlfriend sitting on top of you during intercourse is causing any significant pressure on your prostate that would lead to inflammation or discomfort. The prostate is a gland located deep within the pelvis, and while certain positions can create pressure, it typically wouldn’t lead to the symptoms you’re describing. However, if you experience pain or discomfort during or after intercourse, it’s worth discussing with your healthcare provider.
2. Use of Viagra (Sildenafil): Viagra can be an effective short-term solution for erectile dysfunction, especially when psychological factors like stress and anxiety are involved. It works by increasing blood flow to the penis, helping to achieve and maintain an erection. While it can help rebuild your confidence, it’s essential to use it judiciously. Relying on it too frequently can lead to psychological dependence, where you may feel unable to perform without it. It’s crucial to address the underlying issues contributing to your low libido and erectile dysfunction, such as stress, anxiety, or relationship dynamics.
3. Erection Quality and Ejaculation: The fact that you can achieve an erection but feel it’s not as firm as before, along with a sense of fatigue after ejaculation, can be indicative of several factors. Psychological stress, fatigue, and even hormonal changes can affect erectile quality. The yellow tint in your semen could be due to various reasons, including dietary factors or dehydration, but if it persists, it’s advisable to consult a urologist for further evaluation. The immediate loss of erection after ejaculation is normal, but if it’s accompanied by a lack of interest or difficulty achieving an erection subsequently, it may warrant further investigation.
4. Impact of Finasteride (Propecia): Finasteride, commonly used for hair loss, has been associated with sexual side effects in some men, including decreased libido and erectile dysfunction. However, these effects are not universal. If you’ve noticed a change in your sexual function after starting or stopping the medication, it’s worth discussing this with your doctor. It’s essential to weigh the benefits of the medication against any side effects you may be experiencing.
5. Urinary Symptoms: A decrease in urinary flow can be related to several factors, including prostate health. If you’ve been experiencing weak urine flow, it’s essential to discuss this with your urologist, as it could indicate an underlying issue that may also be contributing to your sexual health concerns.
In summary, your situation involves a combination of psychological and possibly physiological factors. It’s crucial to address the stress and anxiety you’re feeling, as these can significantly impact sexual performance. Open communication with your partner about your feelings and experiences can also help alleviate some of the pressure you’re feeling.
Consider discussing with your healthcare provider about a comprehensive evaluation, which may include hormone levels, prostate health, and psychological assessments. Lifestyle changes, such as reducing alcohol intake, managing stress through relaxation techniques, and ensuring adequate sleep, can also positively impact your libido and overall sexual health.
Lastly, remember that you’re not alone in facing these challenges, and seeking help is a positive step toward improving your sexual health and well-being.
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