What should I do if a family member exhibits unusual behavior?
My sister has been unemployed at home for a while.
She experienced significant setbacks at her previous job and decided to pursue a public service career, but that hasn't gone well either.
Recently, she has exhibited some alarming behaviors, such as frequently demanding to hug our mother and even forcefully kissing her.
She also gets extremely angry over minor issues.
Previously, she mentioned having suicidal thoughts.
I would like to consult a doctor about what might be wrong with her and how I can help her.
Xiao Gang, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2014/04/14
Dr. Qiu Junda reply Psychiatry
Hello: It seems that your sister is experiencing some negative emotions and exhibiting unusual behaviors, which may require a professional evaluation.
Family members can help by: 1.
Listening (if she is willing to talk) 2.
Providing support and care.
Additionally, I hope you can look up the "Brief Health Scale" online and have her complete it.
If her score is not low (as explained in the guidelines), it is still recommended to encourage and accompany her to a nearby hospital or clinic for a consultation with a mental health specialist for proper management.
Thank you!
Reply Date: 2014/04/14
More Info
It sounds like your sister is going through a very difficult time, and her behavior is concerning not only for her but also for your family. Based on what you've described, it seems she may be experiencing significant emotional distress, which could manifest in various ways, including erratic behavior, mood swings, and even thoughts of self-harm.
Firstly, it's essential to approach this situation with empathy and understanding. Your sister's actions may stem from feelings of hopelessness, frustration, or anxiety, especially after facing setbacks in her career. The fact that she has expressed suicidal thoughts is particularly alarming and should be taken seriously. It's crucial to ensure her safety first and foremost. If she is in immediate danger or has a plan to harm herself, do not hesitate to seek emergency help or take her to a hospital.
Here are some steps you can take to help your sister:
1. Open Communication: Try to create a safe space for her to express her feelings. Let her know that you are there to listen without judgment. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can make a significant difference.
2. Encourage Professional Help: It sounds like she may benefit from speaking with a mental health professional. Encourage her to see a therapist or counselor who can provide her with the support and tools she needs to cope with her feelings. If she is resistant to this idea, you might consider offering to accompany her to the appointment for support.
3. Monitor Her Behavior: Keep an eye on her actions and mood changes. If her behavior escalates or if she becomes more withdrawn, it may indicate that her condition is worsening, and she may need more immediate intervention.
4. Involve Other Family Members: It might be helpful to involve other family members in the conversation. A united front can show her that she is not alone and that her family cares about her well-being. However, ensure that this is done in a supportive manner rather than confrontational.
5. Educate Yourself: Understanding mental health issues can help you better support your sister. Research common mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety, and familiarize yourself with their symptoms and treatments.
6. Set Boundaries: While it’s important to be supportive, it’s also crucial to set boundaries regarding unacceptable behavior. If her actions are harmful or distressing to you or other family members, it’s okay to express that these behaviors are not acceptable and that you need to protect your own mental health as well.
7. Crisis Resources: Familiarize yourself with local mental health resources, hotlines, or crisis centers. If she is in crisis, these resources can provide immediate support and guidance.
8. Self-Care: Supporting someone in distress can be emotionally taxing. Make sure you are also taking care of your own mental health. Engage in activities that help you relax and recharge, and consider seeking support for yourself if needed.
In summary, your sister's behavior indicates that she may be struggling with significant emotional issues that require professional intervention. By approaching the situation with compassion, encouraging her to seek help, and ensuring her safety, you can play a vital role in her recovery. Remember, it’s essential to act promptly, especially given her mention of suicidal thoughts. Your support can make a meaningful difference in her journey toward healing.
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