I am not sure if I need to see a doctor?
Hello Doctor, I am currently a first-year master's student studying away from home.
A few months ago, I discovered that my father has cancer, and I often need to travel back and forth.
Additionally, I haven't yet adapted to graduate student life, and I found out that my boyfriend is particularly close to another girl.
I tend to be jealous and worry easily.
Lately, I've been feeling very anxious, irritated, and often want to cry.
When my boyfriend is not around, I feel anxious; when my father is not nearby, I worry.
I feel rushed because I can't focus on my experiments properly, and I feel embarrassed when I see others making progress.
I've become less inclined to go out, dislike talking, and don't want to socialize.
Even when I force myself to go out with friends, I can feel happy one moment and anxious the next, even when they are still with me.
Sometimes, when I go out shopping and the crowd gets larger, I start to feel nervous, my breathing quickens, and I feel overwhelmed.
I am almost awakened by nightmares every day, and I can't relax by watching TV or listening to music.
I often feel like crying.
Recently, I've had thoughts like "life is really hard," and due to my anxiety, whenever my boyfriend is not around, I start to spiral, which bothers him.
I feel that my situation is causing distress for both myself and others.
I don't want to feel this way, but I know that many people can experience such situations, so I'm unsure if I need to see a doctor.
Thank you for taking the time to respond, Doctor!
Qiuqiu, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/12/30
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: Your situation indeed involves a lot of stress concentrated together, which can make you feel chaotic and irritated.
I suggest that you separate the different concerns and identify coping strategies for each one.
Whether you need to seek medical attention can depend on the severity of your symptoms—whether they are becoming increasingly severe or lessening.
If they are worsening, it is advisable to seek medical help.
Wishing you all the best.
Reply Date: 2015/12/30
More Info
It sounds like you are going through an incredibly challenging time, and I want to acknowledge the emotional turmoil you are experiencing. The combination of your father's illness, the pressures of graduate school, and relationship insecurities can understandably lead to heightened anxiety and emotional distress. Your feelings of anxiety, sadness, and the physical symptoms you describe, such as increased heart rate in crowded places and frequent nightmares, are significant indicators that you may benefit from professional support.
First and foremost, it’s important to recognize that seeking help from a doctor or mental health professional is a sign of strength, not weakness. Many people experience anxiety and emotional struggles, especially during stressful life events, and it’s perfectly normal to seek assistance in navigating these feelings. You mentioned feeling overwhelmed by your circumstances, and this is a common response to stress. However, when these feelings begin to interfere with your daily life—such as your ability to focus on your studies, engage socially, or find joy in activities—it may be time to consider professional help.
In your case, the symptoms you describe—such as persistent anxiety, feelings of being overwhelmed, difficulty enjoying social interactions, and recurrent nightmares—suggest that you might be experiencing an anxiety disorder or depressive symptoms. These conditions are treatable, and a mental health professional can work with you to develop coping strategies, provide therapy, and, if necessary, discuss medication options.
Here are a few reasons why seeing a doctor or therapist could be beneficial for you:
1. Professional Guidance: A mental health professional can help you understand your feelings and develop effective coping mechanisms. They can provide a safe space for you to express your concerns without judgment.
2. Tailored Treatment: Each individual’s experience with anxiety and emotional distress is unique. A professional can tailor a treatment plan that suits your specific needs, which may include therapy, lifestyle changes, or medication.
3. Support System: Engaging with a therapist can create a support system that you might be lacking right now. They can help you navigate your feelings about your father's illness and your relationship, providing you with tools to manage your anxiety.
4. Coping Strategies: Therapy can equip you with practical strategies to manage anxiety in social situations, improve your emotional regulation, and enhance your overall well-being.
5. Validation of Your Experience: Speaking with a professional can help validate your feelings and experiences, making you feel less isolated in your struggles.
It’s also important to consider reaching out to trusted friends or family members about how you’re feeling. Sharing your thoughts and emotions with someone you trust can provide immediate relief and support.
In conclusion, based on what you’ve shared, it would be wise to seek professional help. You deserve to feel better and to have the tools to manage your anxiety and emotional struggles effectively. Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are people who want to help you through these tough times. Taking that first step to see a doctor or therapist can be a pivotal moment in your journey toward healing and emotional well-being.
Similar Q&A
Do You Need to See a Doctor for Anxiety Symptoms?
I have a very rational personality and tend not to express my emotions outwardly, which makes me somewhat repressed. I spend a lot of time working, maintain distance from others, rarely share my feelings, and am concerned about how others perceive me, often trying to align with t...
Dr. Qiu Junda reply Psychiatry
Hello. You have worked hard under the pressures of life, which can inevitably lead to feelings of anxiety and worry. I suggest you search for educational articles on stress management to learn some practical methods that may help. Of course, you can also take the time to visit a ...[Read More] Do You Need to See a Doctor for Anxiety Symptoms?
Do I Really Need to See a Doctor for Mental Health Issues?
Hello, Doctor: I feel that I get anxious quite easily, my social situation is very poor, my emotions are unstable, I have a history of obsessive-compulsive disorder, I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, I have a fear of vomiting, and I tend to have health anxiety. Since...
Dr. Wang Yazhen reply Psychiatry
Hello, based on your description, it is important to consider the tendency towards anxiety. Currently, the most mainstream treatment for anxiety issues is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which can be combined with medication if necessary. The available channels for psychologi...[Read More] Do I Really Need to See a Doctor for Mental Health Issues?
Understanding Anxiety and Stress: A Journey Through Mental Health Challenges
Hello, doctor. During high school, I always felt the urge to go to the bathroom whenever there was an assembly. At that time, the strict environment at school made me feel like I was just there to avoid punishment. In college, I reached a breaking point and sought help from a psy...
Dr. Ding Shuyan reply Psychiatry
Hello, based on your concerns, I cannot conclude whether your discomfort is due to excessive stress. Since you are still young, theoretically, there shouldn't be any major issues with your health, and you have already consulted a psychiatrist. My response may be that autonom...[Read More] Understanding Anxiety and Stress: A Journey Through Mental Health Challenges
Overcoming Fear: Seeking Help for Depression and Anxiety
Hello, doctor. I have a strong intuition that I might have depression, but I am afraid to see a doctor. Initially, it was due to academic pressure, and after graduation, not passing the licensing exam was a significant blow for me. Recently, I've been working for almost thre...
Dr. Su Zongwei reply Psychiatry
Given your situation, it is essential to seek medical attention promptly. If you have any sensitive issues, remember that doctors are neutral and can consider your concerns. Don't be afraid; go seek medical care.[Read More] Overcoming Fear: Seeking Help for Depression and Anxiety
Related FAQ
(Psychiatry)
Anxiety(Psychiatry)
Emotions(Psychiatry)
Ptsd(Psychiatry)
Depression(Psychiatry)
Diagnosis(Psychiatry)
Hypochondria(Psychiatry)
Cbt(Psychiatry)
Self-Injury(Psychiatry)
Breathing(Psychiatry)