Born without emotions?
I seem to have lived a completely emotionless life since I can remember, for 24 years.
I have neither laughed nor cried, and I feel nothing towards anything.
When I got into my first-choice school, my family was happy, and I just thought, "Oh, I got in." At my grandfather's funeral, while friends and family were crying, I just thought, "Oh, he died." When my father was diagnosed with cancer two years ago, and the rest of the family was anxious, I just thought, "The treatment will end, and we'll just follow up.
Why are you all so upset?" My family thinks I am cold-blooded and difficult to deal with.
In middle school, I was beaten by some bullies, leaving my upper body covered in bruises.
When my parents asked me, "Why aren't you angry? Why did you let him keep hitting you?" I replied, "I don't know how to feel angry; I just don't feel anything." This situation has caused me significant difficulties in social interactions, and although I have tried to change my mindset and use empathy, I find it truly impossible.
Does this require psychiatric treatment?
Nìmíng, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/08/24
Dr. Wang Hongsong reply Psychiatry
Hello, regarding the events mentioned above, feeling troubled is an expression of your emotions.
It does not mean you lack emotions.
Not knowing how to express your feelings in social interactions can indeed make others feel uncomfortable.
You can seek help from a teacher at the school counseling office, or visit a hospital for discussions and evaluations to help identify the reasons behind your feeling of "having no emotions."
Reply Date: 2016/08/24
More Info
Living without emotions, or experiencing emotional detachment, can be a profoundly isolating and confusing experience. It appears that you have been navigating through life without the typical emotional responses that many people take for granted. This can lead to misunderstandings in relationships, as your family and friends may perceive you as cold or unfeeling, which can further complicate your social interactions and emotional well-being.
From a psychological perspective, emotional detachment can stem from various underlying issues, including trauma, depression, anxiety, or even certain personality disorders. It is essential to recognize that while you may not feel emotions in the conventional sense, this does not mean that you are incapable of change or improvement. The fact that you are aware of your emotional state and are seeking help is a significant first step toward understanding and potentially overcoming these feelings.
Your experiences, such as feeling indifferent during significant life events—like your grandfather's funeral or your father's cancer treatment—suggest a possible dissociation from your emotions. Dissociation can serve as a protective mechanism, allowing individuals to cope with overwhelming situations by numbing their emotional responses. However, while this may provide temporary relief, it can lead to long-term difficulties in processing emotions and forming meaningful connections with others.
It is crucial to consider seeking professional help from a mental health provider, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. They can help you explore the root causes of your emotional detachment and work with you to develop strategies for reconnecting with your feelings. Therapy can provide a safe space for you to express yourself and understand the emotions you may have been suppressing or avoiding. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), for instance, can be particularly effective in helping individuals identify and challenge negative thought patterns that contribute to emotional numbness.
Additionally, medication may be an option if your emotional detachment is linked to underlying mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety. A psychiatrist can evaluate your symptoms and determine if pharmacological treatment could be beneficial for you. It is important to approach this process with an open mind, as finding the right treatment plan may take time and experimentation.
In the meantime, there are self-help strategies you can employ to begin reconnecting with your emotions. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation or yoga, can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings in the present moment. Journaling can also be a powerful tool for self-reflection, allowing you to articulate your experiences and gradually uncover the emotions associated with them.
Engaging in activities that promote emotional expression, such as art, music, or even physical exercise, can also facilitate a deeper connection with your feelings. These activities can serve as outlets for emotions that may be difficult to express verbally.
Lastly, consider reaching out to supportive friends or family members who can provide a listening ear. While it may be challenging to share your experiences, having a support system can help you feel less isolated and more understood.
In conclusion, living without emotions can be a complex and challenging experience, but it is essential to remember that help is available. Seeking professional guidance can provide you with the tools and support needed to navigate your emotional landscape and foster a more fulfilling life. You are not alone in this journey, and with time and effort, it is possible to reconnect with your emotions and enhance your overall well-being.
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