Emotional instability
I want to ask why I've been feeling very angry lately.
When I try to explain the reasons for my anger to my partner and want to argue, I end up feeling even angrier and wanting to cry.
Am I suffering from depression or is it just too much stress? This has been troubling me.
Every time I want to yell at him or express why I'm unhappy, I can never say it out loud and just end up crying.
Why is this happening?
Weiwei, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/09/19
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello Vivi: The speed of emotional transmission in the brain is much faster than that of language, so emotions may arise first, causing one to cry even before words are expressed.
Crying is also a form of emotional release; after crying, emotions may be alleviated, allowing for a calmer expression of feelings through words.
If you have tried many times and find it difficult to express your anger face-to-face, you might consider writing down what you want to say and giving it to the other person, so they can understand your feelings.
Wishing you all the best.
Reply Date: 2016/09/19
More Info
It sounds like you are experiencing a significant amount of emotional turmoil, which can be quite distressing. The feelings of anger, sadness, and frustration that you describe are common in individuals who are dealing with stress or depression. However, distinguishing between the two can be complex, as they often overlap.
Understanding Emotional Instability: Signs of Depression or Stress
Emotional instability can manifest in various ways, including mood swings, irritability, and difficulty expressing feelings. In your case, it seems that you are struggling to articulate your emotions, which leads to crying instead of communicating your feelings. This can be a sign of underlying emotional distress, whether it is due to stress, depression, or a combination of both.
1. Signs of Depression: Depression often includes persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and a lack of interest in activities that once brought joy. Other symptoms can include changes in appetite or sleep patterns, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, and feelings of worthlessness. If you find that these symptoms are affecting your daily life, it may be worth considering the possibility of depression.
2. Signs of Stress: Stress, on the other hand, is typically a response to external pressures, such as work, relationships, or life changes. Symptoms of stress can include irritability, anxiety, physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches, and difficulty sleeping. If your emotional instability is primarily triggered by specific stressors, it may indicate that you are experiencing high levels of stress rather than clinical depression.
3. The Connection Between Stress and Depression: It is important to note that chronic stress can lead to depression. When stress becomes overwhelming and unmanageable, it can result in feelings of helplessness and despair, which are hallmark signs of depression. Therefore, it is crucial to address both stress and emotional instability to prevent further deterioration of your mental health.
Why You Might Be Crying Instead of Communicating
The difficulty you experience in expressing your feelings verbally could stem from several factors:
- Fear of Conflict: You may fear that expressing your anger or sadness will lead to conflict or rejection, which can cause you to withdraw and cry instead.
- Overwhelming Emotions: When emotions are intense, it can be challenging to articulate them. Crying may be a natural response to feeling overwhelmed.
- Lack of Communication Skills: Some individuals struggle with finding the right words to express their feelings, especially in emotionally charged situations.
What You Can Do
1. Seek Professional Help: It may be beneficial to speak with a mental health professional who can help you explore your feelings and develop coping strategies. Therapy can provide a safe space to express your emotions and learn effective communication techniques.
2. Practice Self-Reflection: Journaling can be a helpful tool for processing your emotions. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you clarify what you want to communicate to your partner.
3. Develop Communication Skills: Consider practicing assertive communication techniques. This involves expressing your feelings and needs clearly and respectfully, which can help reduce the intensity of your emotions during discussions.
4. Stress Management Techniques: Engage in activities that help reduce stress, such as exercise, mindfulness, or relaxation techniques. These can help you manage your emotional responses more effectively.
5. Talk to Your Partner: When you feel ready, try to have an open conversation with your partner about how you are feeling. Let them know that you are struggling to express your emotions and that you need their support.
In conclusion, your emotional instability could be a sign of either stress or depression, or a combination of both. It is essential to take your feelings seriously and seek support. By addressing these issues, you can work towards better emotional regulation and healthier communication in your relationships.
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