Managing Emotional Instability: Sleep Issues and Anger Management

Emotional instability can lead to irritability and insomnia?

Hello doctor, these issues have been happening for a long time.
I have visited a mental health clinic, but the doctors just listened and didn’t provide any guidance.
Therefore, I didn’t share much about my insomnia at night (which occurs almost every day).
Before falling asleep, I find myself constantly thinking, and when I can’t sleep, I tend to play on my phone.
It feels like my mind is always racing and unable to rest, making it difficult to get up in the morning.
On my days off, I just sleep and sleep, and even when I have to work, I often oversleep.
I can also get angry suddenly; for example, if I don’t get up, I might snap at my girlfriend, as she usually wakes me up.
I know this behavior is wrong, but I can’t help but have these outbursts.
The same goes for when I’m playing games.
When someone almost hits me while I’m riding my bike, I can’t sit still in class either.
I always feel like there’s something I need to do, even when there isn’t, so I keep looking for things to occupy myself.
It seems like I can never settle down.
I lack patience when doing homework, and at home, I feel lazy—too lazy to shower, tidy my room, or go out.
I often feel a sudden wave of sadness and thoughts of wanting to die, feeling like there’s no meaning in life and that I’m useless.
I used to use drugs and got caught, but I’m no longer involved with that.

Niming, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/10/15

Dr. Wang Hongsong reply Psychiatry

Hello, from your letter, it seems that you are experiencing insomnia and emotional issues that have been troubling you for some time.
The content of your message is somewhat fragmented, making it difficult to systematically understand the entirety of your problems.
I recommend that you visit a psychiatric department at a hospital for a consultation with a physician.
If necessary, a psychological evaluation can be arranged to better assist you.

Reply Date: 2016/10/15

More Info

It sounds like you are experiencing a complex interplay of emotional instability, sleep disturbances, and anger management issues. These symptoms can significantly impact your daily life, relationships, and overall well-being. Let's break down the concerns you've raised and explore some strategies that may help you manage these challenges.

Understanding Your Symptoms
1. Sleep Issues: Difficulty falling asleep and staying asleep is a common problem, especially when your mind is racing with thoughts. This can lead to a cycle of fatigue, irritability, and emotional instability. The fact that you find yourself scrolling through your phone instead of sleeping indicates a struggle to disconnect from stimulating activities, which can further exacerbate sleep issues.

2. Emotional Instability: Your description of sudden anger, especially towards your girlfriend, suggests that you may be experiencing heightened emotional responses. This can be linked to stress, anxiety, or unresolved feelings. The awareness that these reactions are not appropriate is a positive sign, indicating that you recognize the need for change.

3. Lack of Motivation: Feelings of lethargy and disinterest in daily activities, such as personal hygiene or chores, can be symptoms of depression or anxiety. This lack of motivation can create a vicious cycle, where the more you avoid tasks, the more overwhelmed you feel.

4. Thoughts of Hopelessness: Expressing feelings of worthlessness and questioning the meaning of life can be serious indicators of depression. It’s crucial to address these feelings with a mental health professional.

Strategies for Improvement
1. Sleep Hygiene: Establish a calming bedtime routine. This could include activities such as reading, meditating, or practicing deep breathing exercises. Avoid screens at least an hour before bed, as the blue light emitted can interfere with your ability to fall asleep. Create a comfortable sleep environment that is dark, quiet, and cool.

2. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine. Techniques such as meditation, yoga, or progressive muscle relaxation can help calm your mind and reduce anxiety. Apps like Headspace or Calm can guide you through these practices.

3. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): If you haven’t already, consider seeking therapy that focuses on cognitive-behavioral techniques. CBT can help you identify and challenge negative thought patterns, develop coping strategies for anger management, and improve your emotional regulation.

4. Physical Activity: Regular exercise can significantly improve mood and reduce anxiety. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise most days of the week. This could be anything from walking to more vigorous activities like cycling or swimming.

5. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Avoid substances that can exacerbate your symptoms, such as alcohol or recreational drugs. Maintain a balanced diet and stay hydrated, as nutrition plays a vital role in mental health.

6. Open Communication: Talk to your girlfriend about your feelings and struggles. Open communication can help her understand your behavior and provide support. It’s important to express your feelings rather than taking them out on her.

7. Professional Help: Since you’ve mentioned previous visits to a mental health clinic, consider seeking a second opinion or a different therapist who may offer a more structured approach to your treatment. Medication may also be an option worth discussing with a psychiatrist if your symptoms are severe.

8. Support Groups: Connecting with others who have similar experiences can provide a sense of community and understanding. Look for local or online support groups for individuals dealing with emotional instability or recovery from substance use.

Conclusion
Your situation is complex, and it’s important to approach it with a multifaceted strategy. While self-help techniques can be beneficial, professional guidance is crucial for addressing deeper emotional and psychological issues. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and taking the first step towards improvement is commendable. You deserve to feel better and find meaning in your life.

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