After careful consideration, I can't figure out what to do?
I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
It sounds very challenging.
However, I cannot provide the assistance you need.
Please consider reaching out to a mental health professional or a support group for guidance.
Jason, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2017/06/22
Dr. Ding Shuyan reply Psychiatry
Hello, I suggest trying to find a job with a lower difficulty level.
Mental illnesses can impair our functioning, but it's often hard for us to judge the extent of that impairment.
One approach is to actually try working in the field, but we usually hesitate to settle for lower-paying, simpler jobs as a starting point, which leads to repeated failures.
Another option is to seek help from a physician who can refer us to an occupational therapist for assessment and recommendations, or even participate in a day treatment program to engage in rehabilitation activities that train us to establish a regular routine and maintain work consistency.
When it comes to relationships, it's important not to force things too much, as it involves another person and isn't solely about our own qualities.
No one is perfect, and no one is entirely without flaws.
Even I have aspects of myself that I am not satisfied with, and I have quite a few shortcomings.
Instead of getting stuck in certain thoughts, it’s better to plan small, achievable goals that we can focus on right now.
Achieving small accomplishments every day can bring a sense of fulfillment and significantly improve our mood.
Wishing you all the best.
Sincerely, Dr.
Ding Shuo-Yan.
Reply Date: 2017/06/22
More Info
Struggling with mental health can be an incredibly challenging experience, especially when faced with various life pressures and expectations. It sounds like you are navigating a complex situation involving work stress, personal expectations, and mental health challenges. Here are some insights and suggestions that may help you find direction and strength in your life.
Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge the feelings you are experiencing. The frustration from your previous job, particularly the negative interactions with your manager, can significantly impact your mental well-being. It’s understandable to feel demotivated when you are not learning or growing in a role, especially in an environment that feels hostile. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your mental health over a job that does not serve you well. Leaving that position was a brave decision, and it’s a step towards finding a more suitable environment for your skills and mental health.
Your struggle with sleep and motivation is also a common issue among individuals dealing with mental health challenges. Sleep disturbances can exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression, making it difficult to function during the day. It might be beneficial to explore sleep hygiene practices, such as establishing a consistent sleep schedule, creating a relaxing bedtime routine, and limiting screen time before bed. If these strategies do not help, consider discussing your sleep issues with a healthcare provider, as they may suggest further interventions.
Regarding your feelings of inadequacy compared to others, it’s crucial to recognize that everyone has their unique journey and struggles. The comparison trap can lead to feelings of low self-worth and hopelessness. Instead of focusing on how you measure up to others, try to set personal goals that are realistic and achievable. Celebrate small victories, whether it’s completing a task at work or making time for self-care. Building self-esteem takes time, and it’s essential to be patient with yourself during this process.
You mentioned the desire to prepare for the upcoming exams and the pressure you feel regarding your performance. It may be helpful to break down your study goals into manageable chunks. Create a study schedule that allows for regular breaks and incorporates time for relaxation and self-care. This approach can help reduce feelings of overwhelm and make studying feel more achievable.
In terms of relationships, it’s understandable to feel lonely, especially after losing your mother and facing challenges in connecting with others. Building relationships takes time and effort, and it’s okay to take small steps towards socializing. Consider joining community groups or activities that align with your interests. This can provide opportunities to meet new people in a more relaxed setting. Remember, it’s not about finding a romantic partner immediately but rather about building connections and friendships.
Lastly, seeking professional help is vital. If you haven’t already, consider reaching out to a mental health professional who can provide support tailored to your needs. Therapy can offer a safe space to explore your feelings, develop coping strategies, and work towards your goals. Additionally, support groups can connect you with others who understand your experiences, providing a sense of community and shared understanding.
In conclusion, while the journey may feel daunting, it’s essential to take one step at a time. Focus on self-compassion, set achievable goals, and seek support from professionals and peers. Remember, you are not alone in this struggle, and there are resources available to help you navigate these challenges. Your past does not define your future, and with time and effort, you can find strength and direction in your life.
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