Do I Need Therapy? Emotional Struggles After a Breakup - Psychiatry

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Before I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, I was always a cheerful person who laughed a lot.
However, during the period after our breakup, I often found myself crying without any specific reason.
My friends seemed to feel that I was being annoying, questioning why I kept dwelling on the same issues, which made me hesitant to share too much with them.
I've developed a habit of writing down my thoughts in a notebook and having conversations with myself.
As a result, I’ve become increasingly distant from my friends, and we have fewer topics to discuss.
I also lack motivation in my activities, and my social skills seem to be deteriorating.
I hardly laugh anymore, maybe just once a week.
Because of my ex-boyfriend, I tend to misinterpret what my current boyfriend says, always assuming the worst.
I find myself getting easily irritated and often feel frustrated, sometimes taking it out on objects around me.
I really don’t know if I’m unwell right now.

PY, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2017/08/28

Dr. Qiu Junda reply Psychiatry


Hello: Breaking up with your ex-boyfriend must have been a significant blow to you, leading to some negative emotional and behavioral symptoms due to the stress.
If you are still not gradually recovering, I encourage you to seek treatment from a mental health specialist.
If it's not convenient for you to do so in the short term, you can call the counseling hotline at 1980, where they can provide guidance and support to help you address your concerns.

Reply Date: 2017/08/28

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It sounds like you are going through a very challenging time after your breakup, and it's completely normal to feel a wide range of emotions during such a significant life change. Breakups can lead to feelings of sadness, anger, confusion, and even loneliness, and these feelings can sometimes manifest in ways that affect your daily life and relationships.

From what you've described, it seems that your emotional struggles have led to a noticeable shift in your personality and behavior. You mentioned that you used to be an outgoing and cheerful person, but now you find yourself crying unexpectedly, feeling distant from friends, and struggling to engage in activities that once brought you joy. This is a common reaction to loss, as the emotional pain can feel overwhelming and can lead to withdrawal from social interactions.

It's important to recognize that these feelings are valid and that you are not alone in experiencing them. Many people go through similar emotional turmoil after a breakup, and it can take time to heal. However, if you find that your emotional struggles are significantly impacting your daily life, relationships, and overall well-being, it may be beneficial to seek professional help.

Therapy can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings and work through your emotions in a constructive way. A therapist can help you understand the underlying issues that may be contributing to your current state, such as feelings of inadequacy, fear of abandonment, or unresolved grief from the breakup. They can also teach you coping strategies to manage your emotions and improve your communication skills, which may help you in your current relationship.

Additionally, it sounds like you may be experiencing some cognitive distortions, such as jumping to negative conclusions about what your boyfriend says or feeling that you are a burden to your friends. These thought patterns can exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression, making it harder to connect with others and enjoy life. A therapist can help you identify and challenge these negative thoughts, allowing you to develop a more balanced perspective.

It's also worth noting that writing in a journal, as you've been doing, can be a helpful tool for processing your emotions. It allows you to articulate your feelings and reflect on your thoughts, which can provide clarity and insight. However, while journaling can be beneficial, it may not replace the support and guidance that a trained professional can offer.

In summary, while it's normal to feel down after a breakup, if your emotional struggles are affecting your quality of life, it may be time to consider therapy. A mental health professional can help you navigate this difficult period, provide support, and equip you with tools to rebuild your emotional resilience. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and taking that step can lead to healing and a brighter future.

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