Emotional Instability: Coping with Depression and Self-Harm - Psychiatry

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I often find myself trapped in a state of depression, which makes me contemplate giving up on life.
I've been struggling with depression for over a year, and recently I've started engaging in self-harm.
When I'm in a depressive episode, self-harm seems to alleviate my emotions somewhat.
The doctors are aware of this, but they don't seem to think it's a significant issue because my condition fluctuates; sometimes I cry easily, for instance, when I feel emotionally uncomfortable or anxious.
However, I don't understand why this happens, and I find myself crying five to six times a day.

Niming, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2018/03/28

Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry


Hello: It is recommended to find alternative stress-relief methods to replace self-harm, such as reading, writing, listening to music, chatting, or exercising.
Think about the people who care about you.
We live not only for ourselves but also for those around us whom we care about and who care about us.
If discomfort persists, it is advisable to seek medical assistance.
Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Reply Date: 2018/03/28

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It sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult time, and I want to acknowledge the pain and confusion you are experiencing. Emotional instability, especially when coupled with depression and self-harm, is a serious issue that requires attention and care. Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to understand that you are not alone in this struggle.

From what you've described, it seems that you have been dealing with depressive symptoms for over a year, which can be exhausting both mentally and physically. The fact that you are experiencing self-harm as a way to cope with your emotions is concerning. Self-harm can sometimes provide a temporary relief from emotional pain, but it does not address the underlying issues and can lead to further complications, both physically and emotionally.

Crying multiple times a day and feeling overwhelmed by emotions are signs of emotional distress. It’s not uncommon for individuals with depression to feel a mix of sadness, anxiety, and irritability. These feelings can be exacerbated by stressors in your life, and it’s important to identify what might be triggering these emotional responses. Keeping a journal to track your feelings and the situations that lead to them can be a helpful tool in understanding your emotional patterns.

You mentioned that your doctor seems to think your condition is not severe because it fluctuates between good and bad days. However, it’s crucial to recognize that emotional instability can manifest in various ways, and just because there are moments of relief doesn’t mean the underlying issues should be ignored. It’s essential to have a healthcare professional who takes your concerns seriously and provides the appropriate support and treatment.

Here are some strategies that might help you cope with your emotional instability:
1. Seek Professional Help: If you haven’t already, consider reaching out to a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. They can provide a proper assessment and recommend therapy or medication if necessary. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for depression and can help you develop healthier coping mechanisms.

2. Develop Healthy Coping Mechanisms: Instead of resorting to self-harm, try to find alternative ways to cope with your emotions. Activities such as exercise, art, writing, or talking to a trusted friend can be beneficial. Engaging in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep breathing exercises, can also help you manage overwhelming feelings.

3. Build a Support Network: Surround yourself with people who care about you and can provide emotional support. This could be friends, family, or support groups. Sharing your feelings with others can help alleviate the burden and provide you with different perspectives.

4. Establish a Routine: Creating a daily routine can provide structure and a sense of normalcy. Incorporate activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good about yourself. This can include hobbies, exercise, or even simple tasks like cooking or gardening.

5. Limit Stressors: Identify the sources of stress in your life and see if there are ways to reduce or manage them. This might involve setting boundaries with others, prioritizing self-care, or seeking help with responsibilities that feel overwhelming.

6. Educate Yourself: Understanding more about depression and emotional instability can empower you. Knowledge about your condition can help you recognize symptoms and triggers, making it easier to manage them.

7. Emergency Plan: If you ever feel like you might harm yourself or have thoughts of suicide, it’s crucial to have a plan in place. This could include contacting a crisis hotline, reaching out to a trusted friend or family member, or going to the nearest emergency room.

Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and taking the first step towards seeking support is a sign of strength. You deserve to feel better and to have the tools to manage your emotions in a healthier way. Your life is valuable, and there are people and resources available to help you through this challenging time.

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