It may be school phobia?
I am currently on a leave of absence from school, and I will be starting classes again in September.
However, just thinking about anything related to school makes me very anxious.
I have been experiencing insomnia since the third year of junior high school, and I often tell my parents that I have stomachaches, headaches, dizziness, nausea, and other reasons to avoid going to school.
I originally thought that high school would be different, but it has been the same, and I feel that it has even gotten worse.
Whenever I mention to my mom that I might have some mental health issues, she immediately dismisses it and tells me not to say such things.
Right now, I really don’t know what to do.
If I don’t go back to school, things will get really bad.
Can you tell me what I can do right now?
wuwu, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2019/06/15
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello: It is advisable to first calm down and clarify the reasons for your anxiety about school, whether it is related to exams, homework, interpersonal relationships, or other factors.
Then, prepare and adjust accordingly for the possible causes, and patiently adapt step by step.
Initially, you may feel more nervous, but if you persist for a while, your anxiety levels will usually start to decrease.
If you are still very troubled, seeking medical assistance can be an option.
Wishing you a wonderful high school experience!
Reply Date: 2019/06/15
More Info
School anxiety is a common issue that many students face, and it can manifest in various ways, including physical symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, and feelings of nausea. Your situation, where you have experienced anxiety since middle school and are now feeling even more overwhelmed as you prepare to return to school, is not uncommon. It’s important to address these feelings and find effective coping strategies to help you manage your anxiety.
First and foremost, it’s crucial to understand the root causes of your anxiety. Reflect on what specifically triggers your feelings of fear or discomfort about school. Is it the pressure of academic performance, social interactions, or perhaps past experiences that have left a mark? Identifying these triggers can help you develop a plan to address them. For instance, if you find that social situations are particularly anxiety-inducing, consider practicing social skills in low-pressure environments or discussing your feelings with a trusted friend or family member.
One effective strategy for coping with anxiety is gradual exposure. This involves slowly and systematically facing the situations that make you anxious. Start by imagining yourself in school settings and gradually work your way up to visiting the school or attending a class. This can help desensitize you to the anxiety-provoking stimuli and build your confidence over time. You might also consider creating a list of small, manageable goals related to your return to school, such as attending a single class or meeting with a teacher.
Additionally, practicing relaxation techniques can be beneficial. Techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can help calm your mind and body. These practices can be particularly useful when you start to feel overwhelmed. For example, when you notice your heart racing or your thoughts spiraling, take a moment to focus on your breath. Inhale deeply for a count of four, hold for four, and exhale for four. Repeat this several times until you feel more grounded.
It’s also important to communicate your feelings to someone who can help. Since you mentioned that your mother may not fully understand your situation, consider reaching out to a school counselor or a mental health professional. They can provide you with support and coping strategies tailored to your specific needs. If you feel comfortable, you could also ask your mother to accompany you to a counseling session, so she can better understand what you’re experiencing.
Moreover, maintaining a healthy lifestyle can have a significant impact on your mental well-being. Ensure you are getting enough sleep, eating nutritious meals, and engaging in regular physical activity. Exercise, in particular, is known to reduce anxiety and improve mood. Even a short daily walk can make a difference.
Lastly, remember that it’s okay to seek help and that you are not alone in this experience. Many students struggle with school anxiety, and there are resources available to support you. Whether it’s through counseling, support groups, or talking to friends who may have similar experiences, connecting with others can provide comfort and reassurance.
In summary, coping with school anxiety involves understanding your triggers, gradually facing your fears, practicing relaxation techniques, communicating your feelings, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and seeking support. By taking these steps, you can work towards managing your anxiety and making your return to school a more positive experience. Remember, it’s a journey, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time.
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