High psychological stress?
The doctor’s previous letter mentioned that it’s okay not to force oneself to fit in, and that it doesn’t matter if one feels out of place.
However, you also implied that avoidance prevents one’s thoughts from being validated and hinders the development of social skills.
Currently, I find myself wanting to be alone in public settings.
What does this signify? Aside from my mother, with whom I still communicate, I feel like a stranger to my sister.
I’m unsure how to improve my situation.
Could you please share your thoughts on this?
shi, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/03/04
Dr. Wang Yaoting reply Psychiatry
Hello: It's difficult to truly understand your situation and provide assistance through text descriptions in online Q&A.
I recommend that you seek an evaluation at a nearby psychiatric or psychosomatic clinic as soon as possible.
I wish you the best in finding answers soon :)
Reply Date: 2021/03/04
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Understanding social withdrawal from a mental health perspective is a complex issue that often intertwines with various psychological conditions, personal experiences, and societal expectations. Your situation reflects a nuanced interplay between the desire for solitude and the potential implications of social withdrawal on mental health.
Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge that social withdrawal can manifest for numerous reasons. Some individuals may find solace in solitude, feeling more comfortable and at ease when alone. This can be particularly true for those who may identify with traits associated with introversion or even certain personality disorders, such as Schizoid Personality Disorder, which you mentioned in previous discussions. For these individuals, social interactions may feel draining or overwhelming, leading them to prefer isolation.
However, as you pointed out, prolonged social withdrawal can also hinder the development of social skills and the ability to engage meaningfully with others. It can create a cycle where the lack of interaction reinforces feelings of inadequacy or anxiety in social situations. This is particularly relevant if you find yourself feeling anxious or uncomfortable in public settings, as you mentioned wanting to be alone in large crowds. This desire for solitude can sometimes be a coping mechanism to manage social anxiety or fear of judgment.
Your relationship with your family, particularly with your mother and sister, is also a critical aspect of your social dynamics. The feeling of estrangement from your sister, who you describe as a stranger, can be particularly distressing. Family relationships often serve as a foundational support system, and when these connections feel strained or distant, it can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and isolation. It may be beneficial to explore ways to reconnect with your sister, even if it starts with small, low-pressure interactions. This could help rebuild that familial bond and provide a sense of belonging.
From a therapeutic perspective, it’s essential to consider the balance between solitude and social interaction. While it’s perfectly valid to enjoy your own company, it’s equally important to challenge yourself to engage with others, even in small doses. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can be particularly effective in addressing social anxiety and withdrawal. It encourages individuals to confront their fears gradually, helping to reframe negative thoughts about social interactions and build confidence in social settings.
Moreover, engaging in structured social activities, such as joining a club or group that aligns with your interests, can provide a more comfortable environment to practice social skills. These settings often foster a sense of community and shared purpose, which can alleviate some of the pressure associated with traditional social interactions.
Lastly, it’s crucial to maintain open communication with your mental health professional about your feelings and experiences. They can provide tailored strategies and support to help you navigate your social withdrawal and work towards a healthier balance between solitude and social engagement. Remember, it’s okay to take your time in this process, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness.
In summary, while it’s natural to seek solitude at times, it’s important to remain aware of the potential implications of prolonged social withdrawal on your mental health. By gradually challenging yourself to engage with others, seeking professional support, and nurturing your familial relationships, you can work towards a more balanced and fulfilling social life.
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