Psychological trauma
Dr.
Liang, I can't control my thoughts and emotions; my mind is very chaotic.
I feel out of control, sometimes lonely, sad, and in tears.
My background growing up is marked by a lack of complete memories from childhood.
I only feel a strong dislike for my family and harbor resentment towards them; I am unhappy and feel no warmth at home.
I don't want to stay at home; my heart longs to escape, and I am unwilling to let anyone care for or comfort me.
I have no trust in people.
Sometimes I feel like giving up.
I am attracted to girls, not boys.
In elementary school, I was subjected to collective verbal and physical bullying by my classmates, which has led to poor interpersonal relationships.
I rarely chat or talk with classmates and have never been invited to go out or to gatherings.
In high school, I suffered from gastric ulcers, duodenal ulcers, and Helicobacter pylori infection.
After graduating from high school, I couldn't find a job and was bullied by people outside.
Three months ago, I was in a car accident and hit my head.
How can I control my heart and thoughts?
Ms. Chen, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/07/13
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello Ms.
Chen: You have experienced a lot of stress and setbacks in the past, and it's natural for negative memories to resurface and affect your mood.
I suggest reminding yourself that those are all in the past and to stop dwelling on negative memories.
Focus your energy on the present and the future.
During this process, it's normal to feel down or lack confidence at times; be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to take a break.
Typically, feelings of sadness can gradually improve.
If these feelings persist, I recommend seeking medical assistance for support.
Reply Date: 2021/07/13
More Info
Overcoming trauma and managing overwhelming thoughts and emotions can be a challenging journey, especially when one has experienced a series of distressing events throughout their life. Your situation reflects a complex interplay of past trauma, emotional distress, and current life challenges. Here are some strategies that may help you navigate through these difficulties.
Understanding Trauma and Its Effects
Trauma can significantly impact mental health, leading to conditions such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), anxiety, and depression. The symptoms you describe—feelings of loneliness, sadness, and distrust—are common among individuals who have experienced trauma, particularly in childhood. The bullying you faced in school and the lack of a supportive family environment can contribute to feelings of isolation and resentment.
Strategies for Managing Thoughts and Emotions
1. Seek Professional Help: The first and most important step is to seek help from a mental health professional. A psychologist or psychiatrist can provide a safe space to explore your feelings and thoughts. They can also diagnose any underlying conditions and recommend appropriate treatments, which may include therapy and medication.
2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This form of therapy is effective for many individuals dealing with trauma. CBT helps you identify and challenge negative thought patterns and replace them with more positive, realistic ones. It can also teach you coping strategies to manage overwhelming emotions.
3. Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce feelings of anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or grounding exercises (like focusing on your senses) can help you regain control when emotions feel overwhelming.
4. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process your emotions. It allows you to express what you’re going through and can help you identify patterns in your thoughts and feelings.
5. Building a Support Network: While it may feel difficult to trust others, building a support network can be incredibly beneficial. This could include friends, family, or support groups where you can share your experiences with others who understand what you’re going through.
6. Establishing Routine and Self-Care: Creating a daily routine can provide structure and a sense of normalcy. Incorporate self-care activities that you enjoy, such as exercise, reading, or engaging in hobbies. Physical activity, in particular, can help reduce stress and improve mood.
7. Addressing Physical Health: Since you mentioned experiencing physical health issues like ulcers, it’s essential to address these as well. A healthy diet, regular exercise, and adequate sleep can significantly impact your mental well-being.
8. Limit Substance Use: If you find yourself turning to substances like alcohol to cope, it’s important to seek help. Substance use can exacerbate feelings of depression and anxiety and create a cycle that is hard to break.
9. Educate Yourself About Trauma: Understanding how trauma affects the brain and body can empower you. Knowledge can help you recognize that your feelings are valid and that healing is a process.
10. Set Realistic Goals: Start with small, achievable goals. This could be as simple as getting out of the house for a short walk or reaching out to a friend. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
Conclusion
Healing from trauma is a journey that takes time, patience, and support. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and understand that you are not alone in this process. Seeking professional help is crucial, as they can provide tailored strategies and support. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and taking the first step towards healing is a sign of strength. You deserve to find peace and happiness in your life.
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