Struggling with Punctuality and Career Challenges: Seeking Solutions

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Hello, doctor.
Before I ask my question, I want to mention that I have previously inquired about this issue on the Taiwan e-hospital platform, but since the problem remains unresolved, I am seeking your advice again.
I understand that the issue lies with me.

First, I have finally found a job and have been working for over two years, but I have a serious problem with being late.
While others may be late by up to 30 minutes, I am always at least an hour late.
Although I am not late every day, it has still become a point of criticism for my employer.
I have reflected on the reasons for this; sometimes I simply cannot get out of bed, and even when I wake up early, I still want to sleep a little longer.
Additionally, I sometimes linger in bed.
At my age, why am I still behaving this way? I have a diagnosis of schizophrenia and a medical certificate that exempted me from military service.
I genuinely want to change, but I feel helpless.
Besides my lack of time management skills, I was bullied during my school years, which led me to become indifferent and develop a habit of being late.
I started as a scavenger, and due to my medical certificate and exemption from military service, no company would hire me.
Even when I was hired, I was often let go within a month due to tardiness and oversleeping.
I am fortunate to have a company that is willing to employ and tolerate me, but to be honest, I feel like I am testing their patience.
In six months, if the company reduces its current outsourcing, I might find myself without a job.
I just had a phone call with my supervisor, who asked me to write a report regarding my issues.
They mentioned that if outsourcing is reduced, there will be no suitable positions for me at the headquarters.
I have been late numerous times since I joined the company over two years ago.
Previously, my family would wake me up, but now that I live alone, I really do not want to return to the days when I could not find any work and had to scavenge to survive, especially now that I am in my forties.
Second, during my time in this job, I have been attending tutoring sessions to prepare for the national exam.
However, due to work commitments, I have not made significant progress in my studies.
I feel that work is affecting my ability to study, but I cannot afford to be unemployed and without income.
Honestly, I do not know where to start with my national exam preparation.
Most of the time, I am too tired from working during the day, which makes it difficult to study at night.
Sometimes, I find it hard to concentrate on my studies; I am unsure if it is because I lack interest in administrative subjects or something else.
I often do not even want to open my textbooks.
I know I want to make my late mother proud, but my current situation is truly dire.
I realize I cannot focus on two things at once, but I genuinely want to pass the national exam.
I do not want to face a bleak future.
Who can help me?

Jason, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/07/16

Dr. Tang Jiahong reply Psychiatry

I believe you are feeling quite troubled by these setbacks.
You've worked hard.
(1) Regarding the reasons for your tardiness, if it is due to waking up too late, you might consider methods to advance your circadian rhythm, such as taking melatonin before bed or exposing yourself to bright light in the morning.
Going to bed earlier and waking up earlier will give you ample time to prepare for work.
If the reason for being late is procrastination due to wanting to do other things until the last moment, then it may be necessary to address the psychological factors involved.
(2) For the national examination, there is no guaranteed method for passing; we can only assess the likelihood of passing based on your current situation.
It is advisable to evaluate the probability of achieving this goal from various aspects, including your mental state, inherent intelligence, previous grades, practice exam scores, and study environment.
If the probability is too low, it might be worth considering other life directions, as life is not limited to one path and is not simply black and white (even if you do not pass, life still holds its value).

Reply Date: 2021/07/16

More Info

It sounds like you are facing significant challenges in both your professional life and personal well-being. The issues you've described, including chronic tardiness, feelings of inadequacy, and the struggle to balance work with studying for a national exam, can be overwhelming. However, it's important to remember that you are not alone in this, and there are strategies you can employ to improve your situation.

Addressing Punctuality Issues
First, let's tackle the issue of punctuality. Chronic lateness can stem from various factors, including sleep issues, time management problems, or even anxiety. Here are some strategies to help you improve your punctuality:
1. Establish a Routine: Create a consistent daily routine that includes a set wake-up time. This can help regulate your body clock. Aim to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, even on weekends.

2. Limit Snooze Button Use: If you find yourself hitting the snooze button, consider placing your alarm clock across the room. This forces you to get out of bed to turn it off.

3. Prepare the Night Before: Lay out your clothes, pack your lunch, and organize your work materials the night before. This reduces the number of decisions you need to make in the morning and can help you get out the door faster.

4. Set Multiple Alarms: Use multiple alarms at intervals to remind you when it’s time to get up and when it’s time to leave for work.

5. Reflect on Your Motivation: Consider the consequences of being late. Reflecting on how it affects your job security and relationships with colleagues may motivate you to change.

Managing Work and Study
Balancing work with studying for a national exam can be challenging, especially when you're feeling fatigued from your job. Here are some tips to help you manage both:
1. Create a Study Schedule: Dedicate specific times during the week for studying. Treat these times as non-negotiable appointments. Even short, focused study sessions can be effective.

2. Utilize Breaks Wisely: If your job allows, use breaks during the day to review notes or study materials. This can help you make progress without feeling overwhelmed.

3. Set Realistic Goals: Break your study material into manageable sections. Setting small, achievable goals can help you feel a sense of accomplishment and keep you motivated.

4. Seek Support: Consider joining a study group or finding a study partner. This can provide accountability and make studying more enjoyable.

5. Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure you are taking care of your physical and mental health. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep can improve your focus and energy levels.

Seeking Professional Help
Given your history of mental health challenges and the impact they have on your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. A mental health professional can provide support and strategies tailored to your specific needs. They can help you work through feelings of anxiety, depression, or any other emotional struggles you may be facing.

Conclusion
It's commendable that you recognize the need for change and are seeking solutions. Remember, progress takes time, and it's okay to seek help along the way. By implementing some of these strategies and possibly seeking professional guidance, you can work towards improving your punctuality, balancing your work and study commitments, and ultimately achieving your goals. You are capable of overcoming these challenges, and taking small steps can lead to significant improvements in your life.

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