Am I Sick? Emotional Instability in Teens - Psychiatry

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Is my emotional instability a sign of illness?


Hello, Doctor: I am a sophomore in high school, and I have been troubled by some issues for quite a while.
I often feel down, and when I am alone in my room at night, I find myself thinking about things until I start crying.
At school, I feel out of place with my classmates; although I pretend to be happy on the outside, I inexplicably start feeling bad whenever I am alone.
I also experience significant distress when facing others' attention; just the thought of having to go on stage makes me gag and feel like I can't breathe.

The main issue is that I thought these feelings would improve over time, but I still find myself crying when I am alone.
At night, I either suffer from insomnia or sleep for an entire day and still feel exhausted.
Recently, I have been dreaming a lot, which seems to worsen my sleep quality.
These issues have persisted since middle school, and despite the ups and downs, there has been no improvement over the years.
I seriously doubt whether I am unwell or if I am just overthinking things.
I am hesitant to see a doctor for fear that I might just be imagining things and that there is nothing wrong with me.

Xiao Budian, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/04/25

Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry


When someone is sick, their body may develop a fever, and their emotions can also become heightened.
If you have a physical fever, it's important to see a doctor.
Similarly, if you're experiencing emotional distress, it's crucial to seek help.
If you're hesitant to see a physician, it's advisable to first talk to a teacher or visit your school's counseling center.
Teachers can also arrange for a collaborating psychologist or physician to speak with you.
They are all willing to help you through difficult times.
Dr.
Wu Enliang

Reply Date: 2022/04/25

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It's understandable to feel overwhelmed by your emotions, especially during your teenage years when many changes are happening both physically and mentally. From what you've described, it seems like you're experiencing significant emotional distress that is affecting your daily life. Let's break down your concerns and explore what might be happening.

Firstly, the feelings of sadness and crying alone in your room suggest that you might be experiencing symptoms of depression. It's not uncommon for teenagers to feel out of place or disconnected from their peers, and this can lead to feelings of loneliness and sadness. The fact that you feel fine when you're around others but then experience a shift in mood when alone indicates a struggle with emotional regulation. This is a common issue among adolescents, as they are still developing their coping mechanisms and emotional intelligence.

Your anxiety about being in the spotlight, such as feeling nauseous at the thought of public speaking, is also a significant concern. This could be related to social anxiety, which is characterized by an intense fear of social situations where one might be judged or scrutinized by others. It's important to recognize that these feelings are valid and that many people experience similar challenges.

The ongoing nature of your symptoms—crying, insomnia, fatigue, and vivid dreams—suggests that this is not just a phase that will pass on its own. Emotional instability can be a sign of underlying mental health issues, such as anxiety disorders or depression, which can persist if not addressed. The fact that you've been feeling this way for several years indicates that it might be beneficial to seek professional help.

It's completely normal to feel hesitant about seeing a doctor or mental health professional. Many people worry that they might be overreacting or that their feelings aren't serious enough to warrant help. However, mental health is just as important as physical health, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. A mental health professional can provide you with a safe space to discuss your feelings and help you develop coping strategies to manage your emotions.

In terms of what you can do right now, consider the following steps:
1. Talk to Someone: If you feel comfortable, reach out to a trusted adult, such as a parent, teacher, or school counselor. Sharing your feelings can help alleviate some of the burden you're carrying.

2. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process your emotions. It can also help you identify triggers for your sadness or anxiety.

3. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can help reduce anxiety and improve your overall mood. These techniques can be particularly useful when you're feeling overwhelmed.

4. Physical Activity: Engaging in regular exercise can significantly improve your mood and reduce feelings of anxiety. Even a short walk can make a difference.

5. Consider Professional Help: If your feelings persist, it may be time to consult a mental health professional. They can provide a proper assessment and recommend treatment options, which may include therapy or medication if necessary.

Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are people who want to help you. Taking the first step to seek help can be daunting, but it is a crucial part of your journey toward feeling better. Your mental health matters, and you deserve support and understanding as you navigate these challenges.

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