Social Anxiety Disorder
Hello Doctor, I have had social anxiety since childhood, and I often experience the following issues: 1.
I hesitate to greet people or speak too softly, so others can't hear me, which makes me feel rude.
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I dislike social settings, which make me very uncomfortable.
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I get so nervous when speaking in public that I either cry or experience gastrointestinal discomfort and feel the urge to have a bowel movement.
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I struggle with communication and often leave conversations hanging without being able to find topics to discuss.
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I feel anxious and may stutter when talking to strangers.
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I am afraid to answer the phone or make calls.
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During group discussions, even though I have other thoughts, my mind goes blank when it's my turn to speak.
There has been some improvement; at least I can make phone calls now, but I still feel very nervous.
I no longer cry when speaking in public, but I feel awkward.
Now that I have been working for over two years, I have been subtly told that I am not proactive enough, and I am encouraged to ask more questions and share my opinions.
However, I have always been afraid to ask questions (I don't know how to ask or can't think of questions on the spot, and I'm afraid of asking the wrong thing), which has caused issues at work, making others perceive me as not being proactive.
Recently, a colleague at my new job pointed this out, saying that I seem to want to slack off and don't say anything.
Hearing this made me very sad.
I know I should express my opinions and ask questions, but conversing with others puts a lot of pressure on me and makes me anxious.
I tell myself to stay calm, reminding myself that it's just talking to others, but I can't seem to overcome this barrier.
I have told my family, and they all say I should overcome it, but I have been unable to do so from the past until now.
My job requires me to interact with many people, and I feel that the pressure has increased since entering the workforce, making me increasingly exhausted both mentally and physically.
My gastrointestinal health has also deteriorated, and I find it difficult to switch careers.
(1) Doctor, do you think these issues indicate social anxiety disorder? I have taken online tests related to this and the results indicate moderate social anxiety disorder.
(2) Do I need to see a doctor or undergo psychological counseling? (3) Although I keep trying to calm myself and not overthink, I still feel a lot of fear and tension.
Are there other methods to help me manage my anxiety? Thank you, Doctor.
Yang, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/07/29
Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry
Hello, (1) Could this be social anxiety disorder? I have taken related online tests and the results indicate moderate social anxiety disorder.
A: It is possible that it is social anxiety disorder.
(2) Should I see a doctor or seek psychological counseling? A: If it is very distressing, it is advisable to see a doctor or undergo psychotherapy.
(3) Although I try to stay calm and not think too much, I still feel a lot of fear and tension.
Are there other methods to help me not feel overly anxious? A: Learning relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, mindfulness, and progressive muscle relaxation can be helpful for some individuals.
Dr.
Wu Enliang.
Reply Date: 2022/07/29
More Info
Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) is a common mental health condition characterized by an intense fear of social situations where one may be judged or scrutinized by others. Your description of symptoms, such as difficulty initiating conversations, fear of public speaking, and physical symptoms like gastrointestinal distress, aligns well with the characteristics of SAD. It’s important to recognize that these feelings are valid and that many people experience similar challenges.
Understanding Your Symptoms
1. Fear of Interaction: Your reluctance to greet others or speak up in conversations is a hallmark of social anxiety. This fear often stems from the belief that one will be negatively evaluated by others, leading to avoidance of social situations.
2. Physical Reactions: Symptoms like crying during public speaking or experiencing gastrointestinal discomfort are common physiological responses to anxiety. The body’s fight-or-flight response can trigger these reactions, making social interactions feel overwhelming.
3. Difficulty with Communication: Struggling to find topics to discuss or feeling blank during group discussions can be frustrating. This often occurs when anxiety takes over, making it hard to think clearly.
4. Impact on Work: The pressure of needing to be more proactive in your job can exacerbate your anxiety. The fear of being perceived as unengaged or passive can create a cycle of stress and avoidance.
Addressing Your Concerns
1. Diagnosis: Based on your symptoms and the results from online assessments indicating moderate social anxiety, it is likely that you are experiencing Social Anxiety Disorder. However, a formal diagnosis should be made by a mental health professional who can conduct a thorough evaluation.
2. Seeking Help: It is advisable to consult with a healthcare provider or a psychologist. They can offer a proper diagnosis and recommend treatment options, which may include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), medication, or a combination of both. Therapy can provide you with strategies to manage anxiety and improve your social skills.
3. Coping Strategies: While it’s commendable that you try to calm yourself, additional techniques can help manage anxiety:
- Cognitive-Behavioral Techniques: Challenge negative thoughts by questioning their validity. For instance, if you think, “I will embarrass myself,” ask yourself, “What evidence do I have for this thought?” This can help reframe your thinking.
- Exposure Therapy: Gradually expose yourself to social situations in a controlled manner. Start small, such as greeting a coworker, and gradually increase the complexity of interactions.
- Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can help reduce overall anxiety levels and improve your ability to cope in stressful situations.
- Role-Playing: Practice conversations with a trusted friend or therapist. This can help you feel more prepared and less anxious in real-life situations.
Moving Forward
It’s essential to remember that overcoming social anxiety is a process that takes time and effort. Many individuals with SAD find that with the right support and strategies, they can significantly improve their social interactions and overall quality of life.
Consider reaching out to a mental health professional who can guide you through this journey. You are not alone in this struggle, and there are effective treatments available that can help you manage your symptoms and lead a fulfilling life.
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