Emotional Instability: Anxiety and Coping Mechanisms - Psychiatry

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Emotional issues, anxiety, emotional instability?


Sometimes when I argue with others, I can't control myself and feel very anxious.
Since childhood, I've been accustomed to hitting the wall to vent my emotions and would secretly hide to cry.
Around middle school, I started to engage in self-harm, but I've gradually stopped.
However, during really low periods, those thoughts still come up.
Is it normal to feel this way...? I really dislike losing control when I'm angry.

Liu, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/11/27

Dr. Qiu Junda reply Psychiatry


Hello.
Regardless of whether it is normal or not, this is an inappropriate emotional expression pattern, especially with self-harming behavior.
It is recommended to seek consultation and evaluation from a mental health professional to facilitate early improvement.

Reply Date: 2022/11/27

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Emotional instability, particularly characterized by anxiety and difficulty in managing emotions, can be a challenging experience. It appears that you have been grappling with these feelings for a significant period, which can lead to distress and impact your daily life and relationships. Understanding the nature of your emotions and developing effective coping mechanisms is crucial for your mental well-being.

From your description, it seems that you have a history of using physical outlets, like hitting walls or self-harm, to cope with overwhelming emotions. While these behaviors may provide temporary relief, they are not healthy long-term solutions. Emotional outbursts, such as anger during conflicts, can be a manifestation of deeper issues, including anxiety, frustration, or even unresolved trauma. It’s important to recognize that feeling anxious or angry is a normal human experience, but how we manage those feelings can make a significant difference in our lives.

The first step in addressing emotional instability is to develop awareness of your triggers. Keeping a journal can be a helpful tool for tracking your emotions and identifying patterns. Note what situations lead to feelings of anxiety or anger, and how you respond to them. This can provide insight into your emotional responses and help you understand the underlying causes.

Coping mechanisms are essential for managing emotional instability. Here are several strategies that may help:
1. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay grounded and present, reducing anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can promote relaxation and help you regain control during moments of emotional upheaval.

2. Physical Activity: Engaging in regular physical exercise can significantly improve your mood and reduce anxiety. Activities like running, swimming, or even walking can release endorphins, which are natural mood lifters.

3. Creative Outlets: Channeling your emotions into creative activities, such as drawing, writing, or playing music, can be therapeutic. These activities allow you to express your feelings in a constructive way.

4. Talk Therapy: Seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide you with tools to manage your emotions more effectively. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for anxiety and emotional regulation, as it helps you identify and change negative thought patterns.

5. Support System: Surround yourself with supportive friends or family members who can provide a listening ear. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can alleviate the burden of emotional distress.

6. Establish Boundaries: If certain situations or people trigger your anxiety or anger, it may be necessary to set boundaries. This can help you protect your emotional well-being.

7. Self-Compassion: It’s essential to practice self-compassion. Understand that everyone experiences emotional struggles, and it’s okay to feel the way you do. Instead of criticizing yourself for your emotions, try to treat yourself with kindness and understanding.

8. Professional Help: If you find that your emotional instability is significantly impacting your life, it may be beneficial to consult a mental health professional. They can provide a proper diagnosis and treatment plan tailored to your needs.

In conclusion, while experiencing emotional instability is not uncommon, it is essential to address it constructively. By developing awareness of your emotions, employing healthy coping mechanisms, and seeking support when needed, you can work towards achieving greater emotional stability. Remember, it’s okay to seek help, and taking steps to understand and manage your emotions is a sign of strength, not weakness.

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