Chest
Hello doctor, I am a first-year college student.
Because swimming is a required course at my school, I have to take off my shirt.
Since I was young, my chest has been larger than that of most boys.
Whenever I play with my classmates, the boys often grab each other, and when they grab my chest, they say, "Your chest is so big and soft, like a girl's." I didn't mind at first, thinking it would be fine as I grew older.
However, during this swimming class, in the boys' locker room, everyone was completely naked.
When I saw that all the boys, regardless of their height or weight, had flat chests, I felt out of place because mine is large and white.
Even my nipples are lighter in color than others.
Plus, my less noticeable lower body makes everyone think I am different.
What should I do? (Someone once suggested that I could build muscle, which would make it firmer and not look like a girl's.
Is that a viable option?)
Zhao, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/01/30
Dr. Luo Qihua reply Plastic Surgery
Hello: For general cases of gynecomastia in males that do not improve after puberty, surgical removal may be considered as a solution.
Please refer to previous responses regarding this issue, and it is best to discuss the matter face-to-face with a physician.
Reply Date: 2004/01/30
More Info
Navigating body image issues, especially during college years, can be quite challenging, particularly when it comes to physical attributes that differ from societal norms. In your case, feeling self-conscious about having a larger chest compared to your peers is understandable, especially in a setting like a swimming class where everyone is exposed.
Firstly, it’s important to recognize that body image concerns are common among college students, and many individuals experience similar feelings of insecurity about their bodies. The transition into adulthood often brings heightened awareness of physical appearance, and societal standards can exacerbate these feelings. However, it’s crucial to remember that everyone’s body is unique, and diversity in body shapes and sizes is completely normal.
Your experience of being teased or commented on by peers can be hurtful and may contribute to feelings of inadequacy. It’s essential to address these feelings constructively. Here are some strategies that may help you navigate this situation:
1. Focus on Self-Acceptance: Begin by practicing self-acceptance. Understand that your body is your own, and it serves a purpose beyond aesthetics. Engage in positive self-talk and remind yourself of your strengths and qualities that are not related to your physical appearance.
2. Physical Activity: Engaging in physical activities that you enjoy can help improve your body image. While some have suggested building muscle to create a more toned appearance, it’s essential to choose activities that you genuinely enjoy. Whether it’s swimming, weightlifting, or participating in team sports, find what makes you feel good and confident.
3. Seek Support: Talk to friends or family members who can provide support and understanding. Sometimes, sharing your feelings can alleviate the burden of self-doubt. If you feel comfortable, consider discussing your concerns with a counselor or therapist who can help you work through these feelings in a safe environment.
4. Educate Yourself: Understanding the biological and genetic factors that contribute to body shape can help you appreciate your body more. Everyone has different body types influenced by genetics, and it’s essential to recognize that there is no “ideal” body type.
5. Consider Your Wardrobe: If you feel uncomfortable in certain clothing, consider experimenting with different styles that make you feel more confident. There are many options available that can help you feel more comfortable while still expressing your personal style.
6. Mindfulness and Body Positivity: Engage in mindfulness practices that promote body positivity. This could include meditation, yoga, or simply taking time to appreciate your body for what it can do rather than how it looks.
7. Challenge Negative Thoughts: When negative thoughts about your body arise, challenge them. Ask yourself if these thoughts are based on facts or societal pressures. Reframe your thinking to focus on the positive aspects of your body and what it allows you to do.
In conclusion, while it’s natural to feel self-conscious about your body, especially in a college environment, it’s important to focus on self-acceptance and engage in activities that promote a positive body image. Remember that everyone has their insecurities, and embracing your unique body can be a powerful step toward confidence. If you continue to struggle with these feelings, seeking professional guidance can provide additional support and strategies tailored to your needs.
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