Depression: When to Seek Help for Yourself and Your Partner - Psychiatry

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Hello Doctor: I would like to ask, in the past couple of months, my girlfriend's depression seems to have affected me, and my emotions have become very unstable, often feeling down.
Online depression tests indicate that I may have depression and suggest seeking medical attention as soon as possible.
Are these online tests accurate? Do I need to see a psychiatrist? Additionally, I seem to be experiencing separation anxiety regarding my girlfriend.
Should I seek counseling or see a mental health specialist for separation anxiety? I have also heard that I might have adjustment disorder.
Should I pursue counseling or see a mental health professional for adjustment disorder? Thank you, Doctor, and I wish you a Happy New Year!

Huang, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2024/02/10

Dr. Qiu Junda reply Psychiatry


Hello: Online tests can serve as an initial screening.
Visiting a mental health specialist can provide further assessment and treatment (including counseling).
It does not necessarily mean that you have a disorder.
Your girlfriend's situation is similar to the adjustment disorder you mentioned.
She can also seek counseling from a mental health professional.
Thank you.

Reply Date: 2024/02/10

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It's understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed given the circumstances surrounding your girlfriend's depression and how it has started to affect your own emotional well-being. Let's break down your concerns regarding depression, separation anxiety, and adjustment disorders, and discuss when it might be appropriate to seek professional help.


Understanding Depression
Depression is a complex mental health condition that can manifest in various ways, including persistent sadness, loss of interest in activities, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, and difficulty concentrating. It's important to recognize that depression can be contagious in a sense; when someone close to you is struggling, it can lead to feelings of sadness, anxiety, or even depressive symptoms in yourself. This phenomenon is sometimes referred to as "emotional contagion."

Online Tests and Their Accuracy
Regarding the online depression tests you've taken, while they can provide some insight, they are not definitive diagnostic tools. They can indicate the presence of depressive symptoms but should not replace a professional evaluation. If these tests suggest that you might be experiencing depression, it would be wise to consult a mental health professional. They can conduct a thorough assessment and provide a diagnosis based on established criteria.


When to Seek Help
1. For Yourself: If you find that your mood is consistently low, you're experiencing anxiety, or you have difficulty functioning in daily life, it is advisable to seek help from a mental health professional. This could be a psychologist or psychiatrist who can provide therapy or medication if necessary.
2. For Your Girlfriend: Supporting someone with depression can be challenging. Encourage her to seek professional help if she hasn't already. You can offer to accompany her to appointments or help her find resources. It's essential to maintain open communication and let her know that you're there for her without judgment.


Separation Anxiety and Adjustment Disorders
- Separation Anxiety: This condition is often characterized by excessive fear or anxiety about separation from attachment figures. If you feel an overwhelming sense of distress when apart from your girlfriend, it might be beneficial to explore this with a therapist. Therapy can help you develop coping strategies and address the underlying fears contributing to your anxiety.

- Adjustment Disorder: This is a stress-related condition that can occur when someone has difficulty coping with a significant life change or stressor. Symptoms may include anxiety, depression, or behavioral issues. Like separation anxiety, adjustment disorders can be effectively treated through therapy. A mental health professional can help you process your feelings and develop healthier coping mechanisms.


The Importance of Professional Support
Both you and your girlfriend could benefit from professional support. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore your feelings, learn coping strategies, and improve your emotional resilience. It’s also a place where you can gain insights into your relationship dynamics and how to support each other effectively.


Conclusion
In summary, it’s crucial to prioritize your mental health while supporting your girlfriend. Seeking help from a mental health professional can provide you with the tools you need to navigate this challenging time. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and taking that step can lead to significant improvements in your well-being. As you both work through these challenges, fostering open communication and mutual support will be key to your relationship's resilience.
Lastly, I wish you both strength and healing as you navigate this journey together. Happy New Year!

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