How to Support Myself Through Mental Health Struggles

Q: How to Support Myself Through Mental Health Struggles

Hello Vane： Growing up in a family with parents who have personality disorders can indeed embed those interaction patterns into your own unique personality traits. <br>Although you may strive not to follow the coping mechanisms of the previous generation, when faced with similar

How can I assist myself?

I grew up in a household where my father constantly threatened death as a means of control.
As I matured, I considered myself a sensible and strong girl.
Perhaps I once resented being raised in such an environment, but I quickly told myself to accept the reality, as they are my parents, and I chose to be forgiving.
However, there is one thing I absolutely detest: I promised myself to never follow in my father's footsteps.
I am grateful for the good relationships I've formed and the academic achievements I've attained.
Everything seemed beautiful until I recently faced setbacks at work, which caused my life to come to a standstill under the pressure I couldn't relieve.
Gradually, I found myself emotionally venting, which ultimately spiraled out of control.
I even resorted to my father's tactic of "threatening to die," and I contemplated suicide.
I don't even know what I was trying to achieve by using suicidal methods; I just knew that my boyfriend was distancing himself from me, which intensified my feelings of defeat.
Over time, I felt increasingly worthless and completely lost, not understanding what was happening.
All I knew was that I was terrified of becoming like my father, and I was truly in pain.

vane, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/02/28

Dr. Chen Wenyu reply Psychiatry

Hello Vane: Growing up in a family with parents who have personality disorders can indeed embed those interaction patterns into your own unique personality traits.
Although you may strive not to follow the coping mechanisms of the previous generation, when faced with similar issues, you may unconsciously revert to those patterns.
You have deeply felt the dysfunctional interactions within your family and have been hurt by them.
You might think that if the previous generation had not behaved this way, we would not be facing these psychological troubles today, right? Now, as you gradually follow in their footsteps, it is essential to reflect on whether this will also affect the next generation.
It likely will, so your issues need to be addressed properly.
I recommend seeking mental health assistance and counseling.
Thank you for your message!

Reply Date: 2004/02/28

More Info

I'm truly sorry to hear about the immense pain and struggles you're experiencing. It sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's understandable to feel overwhelmed given your background and current challenges. Here are some ways to support yourself through these mental health struggles.

Acknowledge Your Feelings
First and foremost, it's important to acknowledge your feelings. Growing up in a threatening environment can have lasting effects on your mental health. It's okay to feel hurt, angry, or confused about your past. Accepting these emotions is the first step toward healing. Remember, it's not about blaming yourself for how you feel; it's about recognizing that your feelings are valid.

Seek Professional Help
Given the severity of your feelings, especially thoughts of self-harm or suicide, seeking professional help is crucial. A mental health professional can provide you with the tools and support you need to navigate these feelings. Therapy can help you process your past experiences, understand your emotions, and develop healthier coping mechanisms. If you ever feel like you might harm yourself, please reach out to a crisis hotline or a mental health professional immediately.

Build a Support System
While it may feel isolating, try to reach out to friends or family members who you trust. Sharing your experiences with someone who understands can be incredibly therapeutic. If you feel that your current relationships are not supportive, consider joining a support group where you can connect with others who have similar experiences. Sometimes, just knowing that you are not alone can provide immense relief.

Practice Self-Compassion
It's easy to be hard on yourself, especially when you feel like you’re not living up to your own expectations. Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend. Remind yourself that it's okay to struggle and that you are doing the best you can under difficult circumstances. Celebrate small victories, whether it's getting out of bed, completing a task, or simply reaching out for help.

Develop Healthy Coping Strategies
Finding healthy ways to cope with stress and emotional pain is essential. Consider engaging in activities that promote relaxation and well-being, such as:
- Exercise: Physical activity can significantly improve your mood and reduce anxiety. Even a short walk can make a difference.

- Mindfulness and Meditation: Practices like mindfulness meditation can help you stay grounded and manage overwhelming emotions.

- Creative Outlets: Engaging in art, writing, or music can be a powerful way to express your feelings and process your experiences.

- Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you gain clarity and release pent-up emotions.

Set Realistic Goals
When you're feeling low, it can be helpful to set small, achievable goals. This could be as simple as getting out of the house for a short walk or completing a small task. Achieving these goals can provide a sense of accomplishment and help combat feelings of worthlessness.

Educate Yourself
Understanding mental health can empower you. Read books or articles about mental health, coping strategies, and personal stories of resilience. This knowledge can help you feel more in control and less isolated in your struggles.

Avoid Comparisons
It's easy to compare yourself to others, especially when it seems like everyone else is thriving. Remember that everyone has their own struggles, even if they aren't visible. Focus on your own journey and progress rather than measuring yourself against others.

Reach Out for Immediate Help
If you ever feel that your situation is becoming unbearable or if you have thoughts of self-harm, please seek immediate help. Contact a mental health professional, call a crisis hotline, or go to the nearest emergency room. Your life is valuable, and there are people who want to help you through this.

Conclusion
You are not defined by your past or your struggles. Healing is a journey, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. By seeking help, building a support system, and practicing self-compassion, you can navigate through these challenges. Remember, it's okay to ask for help, and you deserve to find peace and happiness in your life.

Similar Q&A

Overcoming Life's Challenges: A Guide for Men Facing Bullying and Uncertainty

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. It's important to seek support from professionals who can help you navigate these challenges. Consider reaching out to a mental health professional or a support group to discuss your feelings and ex...

Dr. Lin Mianzhang reply Psychiatry
Hello! Thank you for your hard work! If you are receiving treatment in psychiatry, I recommend discussing with your physician to understand the reasons for your inability to maintain stable employment and how to address the bullying situation. Additionally, you may consider enrol...

Coping with Family Mental Health Issues: Strategies for Your Well-Being

If everyone in the household has mental health issues, with one person suffering from depression and another from anxiety, and you feel overwhelmed to the point of increased irritability, it can be very challenging. It’s important to prioritize your own mental health. Here are so...

Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello, having a family member with a mental illness can indeed create significant stress. The first thing to do is to take care of yourself; when you are in a good state, you will be better able to help your family member. When your family member causes you distress, try to under...

Navigating Mental Health Challenges: Finding Hope and Employment After Trauma

Hello, doctor: I once developed depression after being mistreated by my boss at work, who maliciously withheld my salary and humiliated me. I am not required to serve in the military, and I am currently seeing a doctor and taking medication. I have a history of mental illness for...

Dr. Li Zhengfeng reply Psychiatry
Dear Mr. A-Wen, First of all, welcome to your letter. I apologize for the delay in responding due to issues with our computer system. Mental illness is a chronic condition that requires long-term medication. Stopping medication can lead to instability in your condition. Patients...

Struggling with Mental Health: Finding Direction and Strength in Life

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds very challenging. However, I cannot provide the assistance you need. Please consider reaching out to a mental health professional or a support group for guidance.

Dr. Ding Shuyan reply Psychiatry
Hello, I suggest trying to find a job with a lower difficulty level. Mental illnesses can impair our functioning, but it's often hard for us to judge the extent of that impairment. One approach is to actually try working in the field, but we usually hesitate to settle for lo...