Navigating Mental Health: A Second Conversation on Healing and Resilience

Q: Navigating Mental Health: A Second Conversation on Healing and Resilience

Social Marginalized Person： I have received your email expressing "thank you" and sharing "your current situation." In fact, if you frequently say "thank you" and share "your current situation" with others, you will definitely make many friends. <br>If I'm not mistaken, those who

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Hello Dr.
Yeh,
This is my second time communicating with you.
I saw your reply last time, and I really appreciate your help! It seems that my previous email was removed (I have a rough idea of the reason).
Initially, I wanted to send another email after seeing your response to express my gratitude and share my situation, but I later thought it might be better not to disturb you.
However, after thinking for a long time, I decided to send another email to thank you for your assistance and to update you on my current situation.
I refer to myself as a social outcast because I harbor resentment and feel the urge to retaliate against those who have wronged me in the past (including the person who caused my psychosomatic disorder).
This is why my former department head severed ties with me (I was his student, and we used to have a good relationship).
The department head believes that resolution is better than closure, but I argue that if problems could be resolved, there would be no need for courts! Should I simply accept my misfortune because of the person who caused my psychosomatic issues? Meanwhile, I indirectly told the school counselor not to concern themselves with my matters (after all, they are unable to counsel someone like me, who they consider a "talent").
It may sound a bit like the tone of Black Jack! Indeed, I aspire to be a doctor like Black Jack, but various societal factors prevent me from doing so.
Today, during computer class, I struggled with the assignment and asked a few people for help, but they were unwilling to teach me, even pretending they didn't know how.
After reading your email, I wanted to connect with them, but I felt helpless...
I've always wanted to get along well with them, but the reality is different.
Because of this, I want to become like Black Jack.
I also plan not to attend future class reunions and will only maintain contact with a select few, treating the rest as if I don't know them in return for their "kindness."

shehui bianyu ren, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/03/04

Dr. Ye Baozhuan reply Psychiatry

Social Marginalized Person: I have received your email expressing "thank you" and sharing "your current situation." In fact, if you frequently say "thank you" and share "your current situation" with others, you will definitely make many friends.
If I'm not mistaken, those who harbor a lot of hatred inside also possess a great deal of love, but it is buried deep within; you should try to uncover it.
I agree not to attend future reunions; just think about how boring that would be (I attended one reunion where a classmate who is now a mother kept complaining to me that her son only scored 98 in math, which was quite frustrating).
However, you must promise me to maintain good relationships with a few of them, okay?

Reply Date: 2004/03/04

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Navigating mental health can be a complex journey, especially when feelings of resentment and social isolation come into play. Your reflections reveal a deep struggle with emotions, relationships, and self-identity. It's commendable that you are reaching out for support and expressing your feelings, as this is a crucial step in the healing process.

From your message, it seems that you are grappling with feelings of anger towards those who have wronged you, which can lead to a sense of being on the fringes of society. This feeling of being a "social outcast" often stems from unresolved trauma or negative experiences that can manifest as mental health issues, such as anxiety or depression. It’s important to recognize that these feelings are valid, but they can also hinder your ability to connect with others and move forward in a positive direction.

The notion of wanting to "get back" at those who have hurt you is a common reaction to trauma. However, holding onto such feelings can be detrimental to your mental health. It may be beneficial to explore these feelings in a therapeutic setting. A skilled therapist can help you process your emotions and develop healthier coping mechanisms. They can guide you in transforming feelings of anger into a more constructive energy that can fuel your personal growth rather than hinder it.

You mentioned a desire to be like "Black Jack," a character who embodies a certain rebellious spirit and independence. While it's natural to admire traits in fictional characters, it's crucial to find your own path and identity. Instead of emulating someone else, consider what qualities you admire in that character and how you can cultivate those traits within yourself. This could involve pursuing your passion for medicine or finding ways to help others, which can be incredibly fulfilling and may help you connect with like-minded individuals.

Social connections are vital for mental health. It sounds like you have a desire to connect with your peers, but past experiences have made it difficult. Building relationships takes time and effort, and it’s okay to start small. Perhaps consider reaching out to one or two classmates with whom you feel a slight connection. Engaging in shared activities or study groups can create a more comfortable environment for interaction.

Moreover, it’s essential to practice self-compassion. Acknowledge that everyone has their struggles, and it’s okay to feel lost or frustrated. Instead of focusing on what others think of you, try to shift your focus inward. What are your strengths? What do you enjoy? Engaging in activities that bring you joy can help improve your mood and self-esteem.

Lastly, consider seeking support from mental health professionals who can provide guidance tailored to your specific situation. They can help you navigate your feelings of resentment and isolation, and work with you to develop strategies for building healthier relationships and coping with your emotions.

In conclusion, while the journey through mental health challenges can be daunting, it is also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. By addressing your feelings, seeking support, and taking small steps towards connection, you can begin to reshape your narrative and find a path that leads to healing and resilience. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and there are resources and people willing to support you along the way.

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