I really want to change my current complacent and lazy personality?
My work attitude is very passive; I often procrastinate when faced with setbacks and shift blame when I make mistakes.
I feel that doing more will lead to errors, while not doing anything will avoid mistakes.
Since I am helping out at my in-laws' company, the people there have no leverage over me.
I often struggle to make decisions and tend to lose interest quickly.
Although my friends see me as optimistic and cheerful, I lack confidence in myself.
I really want to change my current complacent and lazy personality.
Do you think I need to see a psychiatrist? P.S.
I recently took the Taiwan Depression Scale from the Dong Foundation, and my score was 30.
Ru Bi, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/05/17
Dr. Lin Yanhong reply Psychiatry
Hello, a score of 30 on your depression scale may indicate that you haven't been feeling well lately.
Whether or not to see a doctor is ultimately your decision, as one doesn't need to be ill to seek medical advice.
If you feel you need help, you can reach out to a physician.
Regarding your desire to change your complacent and lazy personality, I appreciate your honesty and willingness to self-reflect.
However, I may not be able to assist you, as you are not my employee; otherwise, you would have been let go by now! Without appropriate pressure, change can be difficult.
Dr.
Lin
Reply Date: 2004/05/17
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It sounds like you're grappling with significant challenges related to procrastination, self-doubt, and perhaps a lack of motivation. Your situation is not uncommon, and many people experience similar feelings, especially when they are in environments where they feel pressure or lack support. Let's break down your concerns and explore whether seeing a psychiatrist might be beneficial for you.
Firstly, procrastination can stem from various underlying issues, including anxiety, fear of failure, perfectionism, and low self-esteem. In your case, it seems that the fear of making mistakes leads you to avoid tasks altogether, which is a common coping mechanism. This avoidance can create a cycle where the more you delay, the more anxious you become about the tasks at hand, leading to further procrastination.
Your mention of feeling optimistic and cheerful around friends, yet struggling with self-confidence, suggests a disconnect between your public persona and your internal experience. This duality can be exhausting and may contribute to feelings of inadequacy. It’s important to recognize that many people wear a "mask" in social situations, presenting a version of themselves that they believe others want to see, while hiding their true feelings of insecurity or anxiety.
The score of 30 on the Taiwanese Depression Scale indicates that you may be experiencing moderate depressive symptoms. While this score alone does not diagnose you with a mental health disorder, it does suggest that you might benefit from further evaluation. Depression can manifest in various ways, including a lack of motivation, feelings of hopelessness, and difficulty concentrating—all of which can exacerbate procrastination.
Seeing a psychiatrist could be a valuable step for you. A psychiatrist can provide a comprehensive evaluation to determine if there are any underlying mental health conditions contributing to your procrastination and self-doubt. They can also discuss treatment options, which may include therapy, medication, or a combination of both. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), for example, is particularly effective for addressing procrastination and anxiety by helping individuals reframe their thoughts and develop healthier coping strategies.
In addition to professional help, there are several self-help strategies you can implement to begin addressing your procrastination and self-confidence issues:
1. Set Small, Achievable Goals: Break tasks into smaller, manageable steps. This can help reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed and make it easier to start.
2. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself when you make mistakes. Understand that everyone makes errors, and they are a part of the learning process.
3. Establish a Routine: Create a daily schedule that includes specific times for work and breaks. Having a routine can help you develop a sense of structure and accountability.
4. Limit Distractions: Identify what distracts you and try to minimize those distractions during work periods. This could mean turning off notifications on your phone or finding a quiet space to work.
5. Seek Support: Talk to friends or family about your struggles. Sometimes, just sharing your feelings can alleviate some of the pressure and help you feel less isolated.
6. Reflect on Your Values: Consider what is important to you and how your current behavior aligns with those values. This reflection can motivate you to take action.
In conclusion, while it may not be necessary to see a psychiatrist immediately, your score on the depression scale and your feelings of self-doubt suggest that it could be beneficial. A mental health professional can provide you with the tools and support you need to overcome procrastination and build your self-confidence. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and taking the first step towards change is a significant achievement in itself.
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