Feeling a bit down?
Two years ago, I visited a psychiatrist about five times and felt much better afterward, so I stopped going (the doctor diagnosed me with adjustment disorder at that time).
Since May, due to increased stress, I have seen the psychiatrist three times (with follow-ups every 3 to 4 weeks).
The same doctor seems to prescribe the same medication, which is one Luvox daily.
The doctor mentioned that I have a bit of perfectionism and a tendency to want to do things well, which leads to avoidance of failure and excessive anxiety.
I have internalized my parents' expectations to perform well, even though they now allow me more freedom; it feels too late for me to change that.
(However, during our discussions, the doctor didn't address how to resolve this issue.)
Despite this, I am able to eat and sleep well, and my interpersonal relationships are fine.
It's just that my overwhelming thoughts significantly reduce my motivation, and I have a bit of an avoidance mindset due to fear of failure.
The doctor said he encounters cases in his practice that are difficult to resolve, and that everyone inevitably faces failure.
I feel like my visits to the doctor are just a repetitive cycle of the same themes, and I wonder if the doctor is getting tired of it.
I also feel like I might be annoying the doctor since I haven't made any changes.
Yesterday, I experienced a sense of stagnation for the first time.
Previously, I would leave feeling a bit more empowered, but now it seems like I just go to discuss my troubles and how I can't seem to overcome them.
I have a lot of negative thoughts, but it seems like the resolution lies within me, rather than being a physical issue.
The doctor can only offer me some comfort and encouragement.
In the end, I asked the doctor if that means I should continue taking the medication.
He said not to worry, as my dosage is light, and I could read more self-help books.
I mentioned that I actually graduated in counseling, and the doctor responded, "Isn't that a bit contradictory?" At that moment, I felt a bit embarrassed, realizing he was right, but it also frustrated me because despite my education, I feel like I can't help myself.
I wonder if my next visit will be my last (in a month).
I want to ask the doctor if it's okay to stop coming, but I'm stuck on whether not taking the medication will lead to excessive anxiety again.
Would missing one Luvox be problematic? The doctor said it's best to take Luvox daily for it to be effective.
If I express this to the doctor, will he think I don't respect him or that his treatment is ineffective?
ia, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2009/07/19
Dr. Wang Zhenyang reply Psychiatry
Hello, online friend: It seems that the psychological distress you are currently experiencing has led you to face some difficulties! Psychiatric treatment involves more than just medication; sometimes psychotherapy is also a crucial component.
Although you have a degree in counseling, understanding the knowledge does not necessarily mean you can escape the vortex of emotions or thoughts on your own.
Perhaps seeking psychotherapy with professional assistance might be more beneficial than trying to handle it rationally by yourself! Dr.
Wang
Reply Date: 2009/07/19
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Overcoming perfectionism can be a challenging journey, especially when it intertwines with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression. It seems that you have been grappling with these feelings for quite some time, and it's commendable that you are seeking help and trying to understand your situation better.
From what you've shared, it appears that your perfectionism is deeply rooted in your upbringing and the expectations you internalized from your parents. This is a common experience for many individuals who strive for excellence, often leading to a cycle of anxiety and fear of failure. The pressure to perform well can create a significant burden, making it difficult to enjoy the process of learning and growing.
You mentioned that you have been seeing a psychiatrist and have been prescribed Luvox (fluvoxamine), which is often used to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and anxiety disorders. It’s important to adhere to your medication regimen as prescribed, as consistency can help manage your symptoms effectively. Missing doses can lead to a resurgence of anxiety or other symptoms, so it’s advisable to discuss any concerns about medication with your doctor rather than making changes on your own.
Your feelings of frustration about not seeing progress in therapy are valid. It’s common for individuals to feel stuck at times, especially when dealing with complex issues like perfectionism and anxiety. It’s also understandable to feel that your background in counseling psychology should equip you to handle your own issues better. However, it’s crucial to remember that being a mental health professional does not exempt you from experiencing mental health challenges. In fact, many therapists and counselors seek therapy themselves to work through their personal struggles.
You expressed concern about whether your psychiatrist might be feeling frustrated or annoyed with you. It’s essential to communicate openly with your doctor about your feelings and concerns. A good therapeutic relationship is built on trust and transparency. If you feel that your sessions are becoming repetitive or unproductive, it might be helpful to bring this up during your next appointment. This could lead to a more focused discussion on your goals and how to achieve them.
Additionally, exploring other therapeutic modalities may be beneficial. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for perfectionism and anxiety, as it helps individuals challenge and reframe their negative thought patterns. Mindfulness and acceptance-based therapies can also provide tools to manage anxiety and perfectionistic tendencies by encouraging a more compassionate and present-focused mindset.
You mentioned that you are considering whether to continue seeing your psychiatrist. It’s important to weigh the pros and cons. If you feel that the medication is helping you maintain a baseline level of functioning and that therapy provides some benefit, it may be worth continuing. However, if you feel that you are not gaining anything from the sessions, it might be time to consider a different therapist or approach.
Lastly, remember that overcoming perfectionism is a process that takes time and effort. It’s okay to have setbacks and to feel overwhelmed. The key is to be gentle with yourself and recognize that progress is not always linear. Celebrate small victories and allow yourself to experience the full range of emotions without judgment. Seeking support from friends, family, or support groups can also provide additional encouragement and understanding as you navigate this journey.
In summary, continue to communicate openly with your psychiatrist, consider exploring different therapeutic approaches, and be patient with yourself as you work through these challenges. Perfectionism can be a heavy burden, but with the right support and strategies, it is possible to find a healthier balance in your life.
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