Sometimes I feel like crying all the time?
Hello, doctor.
I am someone who tends to express all my happy thoughts openly.
However, I often find myself crying in solitude.
Sometimes, even when I want to be happy, I don't understand why I can't feel that way.
Can you tell me what I should do? Thank you!
Xiao Yun, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/06/23
Dr. Zhao Mengqi reply Psychiatry
Hello, Xiaoyun: Crying is a form of emotional expression and release, often considered a "remedy" for human emotions.
It's important not to suppress your feelings too much, as this might be better for you.
Given your age, you are likely still a student, and there may be many things around you that are troubling you (such as academic pressure, relationships with parents, interactions with classmates, and your own expectations).
When everything feels overwhelming, a little "remedy" can help.
You don't have to "cry in secret," but if you find yourself in a prolonged state of unhappiness, it's advisable to seek help from others (such as teachers, parents, classmates, close friends, or a mental health professional) to prevent it from affecting your daily life.
Additionally, developing healthy lifestyle habits and engaging in recreational activities and exercise are excellent ways to relieve stress, so you might want to give them a try.
Reply Date: 2004/06/23
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It sounds like you're experiencing a profound sense of sadness and emotional turmoil, which can be incredibly challenging to navigate. Many people go through periods where happiness feels elusive, and it's important to understand that you're not alone in this struggle. Your feelings are valid, and seeking help is a crucial step toward healing.
First and foremost, it's essential to recognize that unexplained sadness can sometimes be a symptom of underlying mental health conditions, such as depression or anxiety. These conditions can manifest in various ways, including persistent feelings of sadness, difficulty experiencing joy, and emotional numbness. It's not uncommon for individuals to feel overwhelmed by their emotions, even when they are surrounded by positive experiences or supportive people.
Here are some steps you can take to address your feelings of sadness and work toward finding happiness again:
1. Seek Professional Help: One of the most effective ways to understand and manage your emotions is to consult a mental health professional. A therapist or counselor can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings and help you explore the root causes of your sadness. They can also offer coping strategies tailored to your specific situation.
2. Practice Self-Compassion: It's important to be kind to yourself during this time. Acknowledge that it's okay to feel sad and that you don't have to force yourself to be happy. Allow yourself to experience your emotions without judgment. Journaling, as you've mentioned, can be a helpful outlet for processing your thoughts and feelings.
3. Engage in Activities You Enjoy: While it may be difficult to find joy in activities you once loved, try to engage in them anyway. Sometimes, the act of participating in enjoyable activities can help lift your mood, even if it doesn't feel that way initially. This could include hobbies, exercise, or spending time with friends and family.
4. Establish a Routine: Creating a daily routine can provide structure and stability, which can be comforting during times of emotional distress. Include activities that promote well-being, such as regular exercise, healthy eating, and sufficient sleep.
5. Connect with Others: Isolation can exacerbate feelings of sadness. Reach out to friends or family members, even if it's just to talk or spend time together. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can lighten the emotional burden and help you feel less alone.
6. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, or yoga can help you manage stress and improve your emotional well-being. These techniques encourage you to stay present and can reduce feelings of anxiety and sadness.
7. Limit Negative Influences: Be mindful of the media you consume and the company you keep. Surround yourself with positive influences and limit exposure to negative or toxic environments that may contribute to your feelings of sadness.
8. Consider Medication: If your sadness persists and significantly impacts your daily life, medication may be an option to discuss with a healthcare provider. Antidepressants can help regulate mood and alleviate symptoms of depression, but they should be considered as part of a comprehensive treatment plan that includes therapy.
In conclusion, while it may feel daunting, taking proactive steps to address your feelings of sadness can lead to improvement over time. Remember that healing is a journey, and it's okay to seek help along the way. You deserve support and understanding as you navigate these challenging emotions. Don't hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional who can guide you through this process.
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