Please consult a doctor?
Hello Dr.
Chang,
I have a question I would like to ask you.
I am currently 23 years old and have had many sexual experiences, but I find myself troubled each time.
Whenever I have intercourse for the first time, I ejaculate very quickly—within less than a minute.
However, during the second time, I can last about 30 minutes.
I would like to know if this qualifies as premature ejaculation and if there are ways to help me last longer during the first time.
I personally feel that it might be premature ejaculation, and I would appreciate your guidance on how to improve this situation.
MIKE, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/08/09
Dr. Zhang Chengye reply Urology
Hello MIKE: What you are experiencing is a normal phenomenon, so there is no need to worry too much.
This is a response from Dr.
Chang Cheng-yeh, attending physician of the Urology Department at Hsinchu Hospital, Ministry of Health and Welfare.
Reply Date: 2004/08/09
More Info
Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common concern among men, and it can be particularly distressing for those who experience it. Based on your description, it seems that you are experiencing a significant difference in your ejaculatory control between your first and subsequent sexual encounters. This is not uncommon; many men find that they can last longer during subsequent attempts after the initial ejaculation. However, if you consistently find that you ejaculate within one minute of penetration, this can indeed be classified as premature ejaculation.
There are several strategies and treatments available to help manage and potentially improve your situation. Here are some tips and methods that may help you last longer during your first sexual encounter:
1. Behavioral Techniques:
- Start-Stop Technique: This involves stimulating yourself until you feel close to ejaculation, then stopping until the urge decreases. This can help you gain better control over your ejaculation.
- Squeeze Technique: Similar to the start-stop method, this involves squeezing the base of the penis when you feel close to ejaculation, which can help delay it.
2. Desensitizing Products:
- Over-the-counter creams or sprays containing numbing agents (like lidocaine or benzocaine) can reduce sensitivity and help you last longer. However, be cautious with these products, as they can also numb your partner.
3. Pelvic Floor Exercises:
- Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles through Kegel exercises can improve your control over ejaculation. To perform Kegels, identify the muscles you use to stop urination, then contract and hold them for a few seconds before releasing. Aim for several sets of 10-15 repetitions daily.
4. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques:
- Anxiety can exacerbate premature ejaculation. Practicing mindfulness, deep breathing, or other relaxation techniques can help reduce performance anxiety and improve your control.
5. Consult a Healthcare Professional:
- If your concerns persist, consider speaking with a healthcare provider or a urologist. They can provide a thorough evaluation and discuss potential treatments, including prescription medications that can help delay ejaculation.
6. Communication with Your Partner:
- Open communication with your partner about your concerns can alleviate some pressure and help you both find ways to enjoy intimacy together, even if it takes time to address the issue.
7. Lifestyle Factors:
- Maintaining a healthy lifestyle through regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep can improve your overall sexual health and performance.
8. Psychological Counseling:
- If anxiety or psychological factors contribute to your premature ejaculation, speaking with a therapist or counselor may be beneficial.
In summary, while your experience of ejaculating quickly during your first sexual encounter may be classified as premature ejaculation, there are various strategies and treatments available to help you improve your control. It’s important to remember that you are not alone in this experience, and many men face similar challenges. Seeking help from a healthcare professional can provide you with personalized advice and treatment options tailored to your needs.
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