I apologize for bothering Dr. Chang again?
However, why is it that some people can last over ten minutes on their first time, while I can only last a minute or even just a few seconds? Is this normal? If it is normal, I would like to ask the doctor how I can control the duration of ejaculation or make it last longer.
I apologize, doctor, as I am really troubled by this, so I have many questions.
I'm sorry, doctor.
MIKE, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/08/14
Dr. Zhang Chengye reply Urology
Hello Mike: Yes, the above situation does not constitute a disease, so there is no need for concern.
This is a response from Dr.
Chang Cheng-yeh, attending physician of the Urology Department at Hsinchu Hospital, Ministry of Health and Welfare.
Reply Date: 2004/08/14
More Info
Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common condition that affects many men at some point in their lives. It is characterized by ejaculation that occurs with minimal sexual stimulation, often before or shortly after penetration, and can lead to distress, frustration, and relationship issues. The duration of time before ejaculation can vary significantly among individuals, and it is important to understand that there is no "normal" duration that applies universally. Factors such as anxiety, arousal levels, and individual physiological differences can all play a role in how long a man can last during sexual intercourse.
For those who experience PE, there are several strategies and treatments that can help improve control over ejaculation and increase the duration of sexual activity. Here are some tips and methods that may be beneficial:
1. Behavioral Techniques:
- Start-Stop Technique: This involves stimulating the penis until you feel close to ejaculation, then stopping until the urge decreases. Repeating this process can help you gain better control over your ejaculation.
- Squeeze Technique: Similar to the start-stop method, this technique involves squeezing the base of the penis when you feel close to ejaculation. This can help delay the process.
2. Pelvic Floor Exercises: Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through exercises like Kegels can improve control over ejaculation. To perform Kegels, identify the muscles you use to stop urination, contract them for a few seconds, and then relax. Regular practice can enhance muscle control and endurance.
3. Desensitizing Products: Over-the-counter creams or sprays containing numbing agents like lidocaine can reduce sensitivity and help prolong the time before ejaculation. However, it is essential to use these products as directed and consult a healthcare provider if you have concerns.
4. Medications: In some cases, doctors may prescribe selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), which are primarily used to treat depression but have been found to delay ejaculation as a side effect. Other medications, such as tramadol, may also be effective. Always discuss medication options with a healthcare professional to determine the best approach for your situation.
5. Counseling or Therapy: If anxiety or psychological factors contribute to PE, speaking with a therapist or counselor can be beneficial. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can help address underlying issues and improve sexual confidence.
6. Communication with Partner: Open communication with your partner about your concerns and desires can help alleviate anxiety and create a more supportive environment. This can also lead to exploring different sexual techniques that may be enjoyable for both partners.
7. Lifestyle Changes: Reducing stress through exercise, meditation, or other relaxation techniques can help improve overall sexual function. Additionally, avoiding excessive alcohol and recreational drugs can also be beneficial, as these substances can affect sexual performance.
It's important to remember that experiencing PE is not uncommon, and many men face similar challenges. If you find that these strategies do not lead to improvement, or if your condition causes significant distress, it may be helpful to consult a healthcare professional who specializes in sexual health. They can provide personalized advice and treatment options tailored to your needs.
In conclusion, while some men may naturally last longer than others, premature ejaculation can be managed effectively through a combination of behavioral techniques, pelvic floor exercises, desensitizing products, medications, and open communication. Seeking help from a healthcare provider can also provide additional support and resources to address this concern. Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are effective ways to enhance your sexual experience.
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