Feeling Misunderstood: Navigating Mental Health Challenges at 30

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I am thirty years old, and I have felt this way for about five years since I was twenty-five.
I feel like everyone looks down on me, like I am an outcast.
I often hear comments like "shameless," "pervert," "voyeur," "black little bird," "masturbation addict," and so on.
It drives me crazy, and I feel like I want to hurt someone; that feeling is very distressing.
I have very few friends.
I read a book called "Reject Anxiety," and I try breathing exercises, relaxation techniques, and distraction methods, but I feel they are ineffective.
It feels like society is punishing me.
I have seen a doctor and get medication every three days, but I feel like using my health insurance card too often is not good.
Is this how it is at Changhua Hospital? Once, after taking the medication, I couldn't go to work for three whole days; I was in a daze and slept heavily.

Yang, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/12/13

Dr. Zhou Sunyuan reply Psychiatry

Your feelings of discomfort are indeed valid, and you should continue to seek care from a mental health professional.
If you experience any discomfort related to medication, please report it to your physician promptly for appropriate management.

Reply Date: 2004/12/13

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It sounds like you are going through a very challenging time, and I want to acknowledge the pain and frustration you are feeling. At 30 years old, feeling misunderstood and isolated can be incredibly difficult, especially when you perceive that others view you negatively. The feelings of being labeled and judged can lead to significant emotional distress, which may contribute to anxiety, depression, and even anger.

From what you've described, it seems that you have been trying various coping strategies, such as reading self-help books, practicing breathing exercises, and attempting to distract yourself. While these techniques can be beneficial for some, they may not always provide the relief you need, especially if the underlying issues are more complex. It’s important to recognize that mental health challenges often require a multifaceted approach, and what works for one person may not work for another.

Your experience with medication is also noteworthy. It’s not uncommon for individuals to feel groggy or lethargic when starting a new medication, especially if the dosage is not right for them. It’s crucial to communicate with your healthcare provider about these side effects. If you feel that the medication is impacting your ability to function at work or in daily life, it may be worth discussing alternative options or adjustments to your treatment plan. Mental health medications can take time to find the right fit, and it’s essential to work closely with your doctor to find a regimen that supports your well-being without debilitating side effects.

Feeling like society is punishing you can be a heavy burden to carry. It may be beneficial to explore the root causes of these feelings. Have you experienced any specific events or traumas that might have contributed to your current mindset? Sometimes, unresolved issues from the past can manifest in our present lives, leading to feelings of inadequacy or anger. Therapy can provide a safe space to explore these feelings and help you develop healthier coping mechanisms.

Additionally, building a support network is crucial. While you mentioned having few friends, consider seeking out support groups or community resources where you can connect with others who may share similar experiences. Feeling understood and supported by others can significantly alleviate feelings of isolation.

Lastly, it’s important to practice self-compassion. You are not alone in your struggles, and many people face similar challenges. Acknowledging your feelings without judgment can be a powerful step toward healing. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you haven’t already, consider reaching out to a mental health professional who can provide guidance tailored to your specific needs.

In summary, navigating mental health challenges can be complex and requires a combination of self-care, professional support, and community connection. Don’t hesitate to advocate for yourself in your treatment journey, and remember that it’s okay to seek help when you need it. You deserve to feel understood and supported.

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