Emotional Numbness: Insights into Mental Health Struggles

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I have a very serious problem.
First, let me explain my family situation.
My parents have a very impatient personality, and I am their only child, so they have high expectations for me.
I feel the same way, but both my father and I are quite stubborn.
As a result, we have had major arguments every two to three days since I became aware of my surroundings.
Each time, I tremble all over, crying and feeling wronged.
Two years ago, I realized that I exhibited some obsessive-compulsive behaviors, but they would improve after a week or two of rest.
However, I have been experiencing various minor symptoms that I am aware of, though they are not severe.
Last week, I suddenly became completely numb to emotions, such as laughing or crying, as if there were no external stimuli.
I find myself questioning why I should laugh or feel sad, and just thinking about it leaves me completely numb.
I cannot immerse myself in stories or movies because I cannot feel anything.
Even worse, I struggle to understand simple concepts, like why 1 plus 1 equals 2.
I know it is 2, but it feels like I have lost the ability to comprehend it deeply.
I cannot grasp what 50 or 100 means; I cannot accept it.
I am very anxious about how I have become this way.
I have sought medical help, but I cannot articulate what my condition is, making it difficult for the doctor to understand.
I have taken medications like Xanax, but they seem ineffective.
I am desperate for you to provide me with a detailed explanation and an overview of my situation.
Thank you.

m, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2001/10/13

Dr. Li Junren reply Psychiatry

Hello, I apologize for the late response due to my trip abroad.
The situation you are currently facing is the result of a long-term and complex interplay of various issues.
Medication may help alleviate some of your symptoms, but it seems unlikely to fully resolve your predicament.
Factors such as your background, environmental stressors, personality traits, or other elements not mentioned in your letter are likely playing significant roles.
The feelings of "numbness" or "incomprehension" you described may be self-defense mechanisms that arise under excessive stress.
A more comprehensive approach would involve psychological counseling or therapy to help you reorganize the problems and internal conflicts you are facing.
You can seek this type of assistance at a psychiatric department in a medical center or a specialized psychiatric hospital, such as various public health institutions.
Such treatments will require time, and the process may touch upon some underlying issues you may not want to confront, but in the long run, it should bring about positive changes for you.
I hope you can have a face-to-face discussion with a psychiatrist or a mental health professional about your concerns.

Reply Date: 2001/10/13

More Info

It sounds like you are experiencing a profound emotional numbness that is deeply affecting your mental health and overall well-being. This condition can often arise from prolonged stress, trauma, or unresolved emotional conflicts, particularly in a challenging family environment like the one you described. Let’s delve into the potential causes and implications of your emotional numbness, as well as some strategies for addressing it.

Understanding Emotional Numbness
Emotional numbness is a psychological state where an individual feels disconnected from their emotions. This can manifest as an inability to feel joy, sadness, or any emotional response to situations that would typically elicit such feelings. In your case, it seems to have developed after a history of familial conflict, high expectations, and possibly underlying anxiety or obsessive-compulsive behaviors.

1. Family Dynamics: Growing up in a household with high expectations and frequent conflicts can create a significant amount of stress. The emotional turmoil from these interactions can lead to a coping mechanism where you shut down emotionally to protect yourself from pain. This is often a subconscious response to overwhelming feelings of anxiety or fear.

2. Trauma and Stress: The experiences you’ve described, including the pressure from your parents and your own struggles with obsessive behaviors, can contribute to a heightened state of stress. When the body and mind are under constant stress, they may resort to numbing emotions as a way to cope. This can be a protective mechanism to prevent further emotional pain.

3. Cognitive Disturbances: Your mention of feeling disconnected from basic concepts, such as understanding simple arithmetic, may indicate a deeper cognitive or emotional disruption. This can occur when the brain is overwhelmed and struggles to process information effectively. It’s not uncommon for individuals under significant stress to experience difficulties with concentration, memory, and emotional processing.

Strategies for Recovery
1. Seek Professional Help: It’s crucial to continue seeking help from mental health professionals. If you feel that your current provider is not understanding your situation, consider finding a therapist who specializes in trauma, anxiety, or obsessive-compulsive disorders. They can provide tailored strategies to help you navigate your feelings and experiences.

2. Therapeutic Approaches: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can be particularly effective for addressing emotional numbness. It helps individuals identify and challenge negative thought patterns and develop healthier coping mechanisms. Additionally, therapies such as Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) focus on emotional regulation and mindfulness, which may help you reconnect with your feelings.

3. Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help you become more aware of your emotions and sensations in the present moment. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or grounding exercises can help you reconnect with your body and emotions. Start with simple practices, such as focusing on your breath or engaging in activities that require your full attention, like drawing or walking in nature.

4. Journaling: Writing about your feelings and experiences can be a powerful tool for processing emotions. It allows you to express thoughts that may be difficult to articulate verbally. Try to write daily, even if it’s just a few sentences about how you feel or what you experienced that day.

5. Physical Activity: Engaging in regular physical activity can have profound effects on mental health. Exercise releases endorphins, which can improve mood and reduce feelings of numbness. Find an activity you enjoy, whether it’s dancing, walking, or yoga, and incorporate it into your routine.

6. Social Support: Connecting with friends or support groups can provide a sense of belonging and understanding. Sharing your experiences with others who may have gone through similar situations can help alleviate feelings of isolation and promote healing.

Conclusion
Emotional numbness can be a challenging and distressing experience, but it is important to remember that you are not alone, and there are effective strategies to help you regain your emotional connection. By seeking professional help, practicing mindfulness, and engaging in supportive relationships, you can work towards understanding and overcoming this state. It’s a journey that takes time, but with persistence and the right support, you can find your way back to a more vibrant emotional life.

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