Interpersonal anxiety
I have been running a lottery ticket outlet for ten years, and I have developed a distaste for this kind of work that relies on luck for income.
In fact, my parents manage the business, and I only assist them.
Running a business means dealing with all kinds of people, and being too honest often doesn't work in my favor.
Recently, with the New Year approaching and many people coming in, I feel overwhelmed and have even thought about crying.
I ended up locking myself in my room and avoiding going downstairs to manage the store, which has led to feelings of social anxiety.
I constantly feel the need to reduce my interactions with others.
What should I do to adjust my situation? Should I consider changing my career path?
Chen, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2011/08/26
Dr. Zhou Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
If there is anxiety in social interactions, several psychiatric diagnoses may present with such symptoms.
It is recommended to seek help from a qualified psychiatrist for appropriate evaluation and treatment, which may lead to improvement.
Reply Date: 2011/08/26
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Coping with social anxiety, especially in the context of working in a family business like a lottery station, can be quite challenging. Your feelings of discomfort and anxiety when interacting with a diverse range of customers are valid and not uncommon. Many people experience social anxiety in situations that require frequent social interactions, and it can be exacerbated by the pressure of working in a family-run business where expectations may be high.
Firstly, it’s important to understand that social anxiety is a common issue that can affect anyone, regardless of their background or profession. It often stems from a fear of judgment or negative evaluation by others, which can lead to avoidance behaviors, such as isolating oneself in a room instead of engaging with customers. This avoidance can create a cycle where the anxiety worsens over time, making it even harder to face social situations.
Here are some strategies you might consider to help manage your social anxiety while working in your family business:
1. Gradual Exposure: Instead of avoiding social interactions altogether, try to gradually expose yourself to them. Start with small interactions, such as greeting regular customers or making small talk. As you become more comfortable, you can gradually increase the complexity and length of these interactions.
2. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay grounded in the present moment and reduce anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can help calm your nerves before and during social interactions.
3. Set Realistic Goals: Set achievable social goals for yourself. For example, aim to engage in a certain number of conversations each day or week. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, to build confidence.
4. Seek Support: Talk to your family about your feelings. They may not be aware of the extent of your anxiety and could provide support or adjustments to your responsibilities that make your role more comfortable. Additionally, consider seeking professional help from a therapist who specializes in anxiety disorders. They can provide you with tailored coping strategies and support.
5. Reframe Your Thoughts: Work on changing negative thought patterns associated with social interactions. Instead of thinking, “Everyone will judge me,” try to reframe it to, “Most people are focused on themselves and are not judging me as harshly as I think.”
6. Consider Your Role: If you find that the anxiety is overwhelming and persistent despite trying various coping strategies, it may be worth considering a change in your role within the family business. This doesn’t necessarily mean leaving the business altogether, but perhaps taking on responsibilities that require less direct interaction with customers or exploring other career paths that align better with your comfort level.
7. Self-Care: Prioritize self-care activities that help you recharge and reduce stress. This could include hobbies, exercise, or spending time with supportive friends or family members.
8. Professional Guidance: If your anxiety significantly impacts your daily life and functioning, it may be beneficial to consult with a mental health professional. They can help you explore the underlying causes of your anxiety and develop effective coping strategies.
In conclusion, navigating social anxiety in a family business requires a multifaceted approach. By gradually exposing yourself to social situations, seeking support, and possibly reevaluating your role, you can find a way to cope with your anxiety while still contributing to the family business. Remember that it’s okay to prioritize your mental health and seek the help you need to thrive in both your personal and professional life.
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