I suddenly feel like crying today?
I am 15 years old and a male student preparing for the entrance exam.
Recently, I have been experiencing several thoughts and feelings that have become quite intense.
This feeling suddenly appeared, and after looking at some online depression scales, I noticed I have the following symptoms: I often feel like crying, feel down, have no appetite, feel a tightness in my chest, feel uneasy, feel irritated, have difficulty concentrating on tasks, and think or act slower than usual, but I don’t have thoughts of death or self-harm.
After all, I am quite afraid of dying and pain, and I don’t want to have scars.
I still have dreams for the future, but currently, I did not get into a school through the admission process (most of my classmates did), so I am alone in the library preparing for the exam.
I spend almost the entire day there.
During breaks, I go outside to sit and look at the lawn because my grades are average (PR5X).
I find it really difficult to solve problems and suddenly feel a loss of motivation.
However, I am unwilling to settle for a lower-ranked school, so I continue to encourage myself.
I also have a crush on a girl, but we rarely talk (we are in different classes) and will attend different high schools, which makes me think we will hardly have any interaction in the future.
I often sit near their class during breaks, watching the lawn, wanting to see her (it’s very close to where I study).
I see her playing with the boys from her class, and I feel a bit...
I don’t know how to describe it.
For example, I wish we were in the same class.
Recently, these issues have been constantly on my mind.
This morning, as usual, when I was alone preparing to study, I usually bring my MP3 player, but I didn’t today.
This sudden feeling of sadness came over me, with a tightness in my chest.
I wanted to cry but couldn’t (this happened about 5-6 times today).
I had no motivation to write notes.
In the afternoon, while I was in the library, I read a few books on this topic, but they didn’t help much.
I feel that this will definitely affect my exam preparation, and I don’t want to let my emotions stay so low or feel hopeless.
If I have these feelings, should I face them and cry it out, or should I try to think about something else and change my mindset? Do you have any suggestions? These symptoms mainly started today, and who knows how long they will last...
I don’t want to continue like this.
A Tsai, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2012/05/24
Dr. Li Zhengfeng reply Psychiatry
Hello: First of all, thank you for your letter.
Based on your description, you are currently experiencing a state of depression, which can be likened to a cold of the mind.
Although it is troubling, it is treatable.
For mild depression, you may try non-pharmacological treatments, such as appropriate exercise and engaging in enjoyable recreational activities, which can lead to improvement.
If these methods do not yield satisfactory results, psychological counseling and support can be arranged, and finally, medication treatment can be considered.
Wishing you a speedy recovery, thank you.
Reply Date: 2012/05/24
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It's clear from your message that you're experiencing a significant amount of emotional distress, which is not uncommon for someone your age, especially during stressful periods like preparing for exams. Adolescence is a time of great change, both physically and emotionally, and it's normal to feel overwhelmed at times. However, the feelings you're describing—such as sadness, lack of motivation, difficulty concentrating, and physical sensations like chest tightness—are concerning and warrant attention.
First, it's important to acknowledge your feelings. It's okay to feel sad, anxious, or overwhelmed, especially when facing pressures like exams and social dynamics. The fact that you're aware of these feelings and seeking help is a positive step. Here are some strategies that might help you cope with your emotional distress:
1. Talk About It: Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can be incredibly beneficial. This could be a friend, family member, or a school counselor. Sometimes, just verbalizing what you're going through can provide relief and clarity.
2. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you process what you're experiencing. It can also serve as a way to track your emotions over time, which might help you identify patterns or triggers.
3. Physical Activity: Engaging in physical exercise can significantly improve your mood. It releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters. Even a short walk outside can help clear your mind and reduce feelings of anxiety.
4. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can help calm your mind and reduce feelings of distress. These techniques can help you focus on the present moment rather than getting lost in negative thoughts.
5. Limit Isolation: While it might feel comfortable to spend time alone, isolating yourself can exacerbate feelings of sadness and anxiety. Try to engage with others, even if it's just a small interaction. This could be as simple as saying hello to classmates or participating in group study sessions.
6. Seek Professional Help: If your feelings persist or worsen, it might be beneficial to speak with a mental health professional. They can provide you with coping strategies tailored to your situation and help you work through your feelings in a safe environment.
7. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your study material into manageable chunks. Setting small, achievable goals can help you regain a sense of control and accomplishment, which can boost your motivation.
8. Stay Connected with Your Interests: Engage in activities that you enjoy, whether it's listening to music, reading, or pursuing a hobby. These activities can serve as a distraction and provide a sense of joy amidst the stress.
9. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Ensure you're eating well, getting enough sleep, and staying hydrated. These factors can significantly impact your mood and energy levels.
10. Express Your Emotions: If you feel like crying, allow yourself to do so. Crying can be a natural release of pent-up emotions. Alternatively, if you find it difficult to cry, consider other forms of expression like art or music.
It's crucial to remember that you're not alone in this. Many teenagers experience similar feelings, especially during high-pressure situations. The key is to find healthy ways to cope and to reach out for support when needed. Your feelings are valid, and taking steps to address them is a sign of strength. If you ever feel overwhelmed, don't hesitate to seek help from a professional who can guide you through this challenging time.
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