Overcoming Premature Ejaculation: Seeking Solutions for Lasting Intimacy - Urology

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Hello, doctor.
I've been experiencing premature ejaculation since middle school.
During this time, I've had two or three girlfriends, so I have quite a bit of sexual experience.
However, every time I engage in intercourse, I can't control myself and ejaculate within a maximum of three seconds, even when using a condom.
Additionally, I can achieve an erection in just one second when I see something that excites me, which has caused me a lot of distress.
Is there any method to help me resolve this issue? It has troubled me for many years.
Do you have any recommendations for doctors in the southern part of Taiwan? There are so many options available, and I would appreciate your assistance.

b, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2012/05/25

Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology


Hello, this website does not allow for the recommendation of physicians.
I apologize for that.
I suggest you consult a specialist in sexual function.
Additionally, there are various methods or medications that can help improve the issue of premature ejaculation, so you may want to seek advice from a qualified physician nearby.
If you have any further questions, feel free to ask, and we can discuss and research together.
Please note that online responses should only be used as a reference; it is essential to seek medical attention at a healthcare facility when necessary.
This message is from Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai, Director of the Urology Department at Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan.

Reply Date: 2012/05/25

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Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common sexual dysfunction that affects many men, often leading to significant distress and impacting intimate relationships. Your experience of ejaculating within seconds of penetration is not uncommon, and there are various approaches to managing and potentially overcoming this condition.

Firstly, it’s important to understand that PE can be classified into two types: lifelong (primary) and acquired (secondary). Lifelong PE occurs from the first sexual experiences, while acquired PE develops after a period of normal sexual function. Given that you have experienced this since your early teens, it may be classified as lifelong PE.
Several factors can contribute to premature ejaculation, including psychological factors (such as anxiety, stress, or relationship issues), biological factors (such as hormonal imbalances or neurotransmitter levels), and even certain medical conditions. Understanding the underlying cause is crucial for effective treatment.

Here are some strategies that may help you manage and overcome premature ejaculation:
1. Behavioral Techniques:
- Start-Stop Technique: This involves stimulating the penis until you feel close to ejaculation, then stopping until the urge decreases. This can help you gain better control over your ejaculation.

- Squeeze Technique: Similar to the start-stop method, this involves squeezing the base of the penis when you feel close to ejaculation, which can help delay it.

2. Desensitizing Products:
- Over-the-counter creams or sprays containing numbing agents (like benzocaine or lidocaine) can reduce sensitivity and help delay ejaculation. However, it’s important to use these products as directed to avoid affecting your partner’s experience.

3. Condoms:
- Using thicker condoms can decrease sensitivity and help prolong the duration of intercourse.

4. Pelvic Floor Exercises:
- Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through Kegel exercises can improve control over ejaculation. To perform Kegels, identify the muscles you use to stop urination, contract them for a few seconds, and then relax. Repeat this several times a day.

5. Counseling or Therapy:
- If anxiety or psychological factors are contributing to your PE, speaking with a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual health can be beneficial. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can help address underlying issues and improve sexual confidence.

6. Medications:
- In some cases, doctors may prescribe selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), which are typically used to treat depression but have been found to delay ejaculation as a side effect. Other medications, such as tramadol, may also be considered.

7. Consult a Specialist:
- Since you mentioned seeking recommendations for doctors in the southern region, I suggest looking for a urologist or a sexual health specialist. They can provide a thorough evaluation and tailor a treatment plan specific to your needs.

8. Lifestyle Changes:
- Reducing stress through relaxation techniques, regular exercise, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle can also improve sexual function.

It’s important to approach this issue with patience and an open mind. Many men experience PE at some point, and with the right strategies and support, it is possible to improve your sexual health and intimacy. Remember, communication with your partner about your experiences and concerns can also foster understanding and support as you work through this challenge.
If you have further questions or need specific recommendations for healthcare providers, I encourage you to reach out to local health services or sexual health clinics in your area. They can provide you with the necessary resources and support tailored to your situation.

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