Adjustment Disorder
Hello Dr.
Su: I have been struggling with a psychological disorder for a long time, from middle school to university.
Whenever I see a boy or a group of boys walking past me or brushing against me, I start to feel anxious, my palms sweat, and my whole body trembles.
I really want to overcome this, but I can't seem to find a way to solve it.
Please provide me with some advice.
Thank you.
Tina, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2013/10/22
Dr. Su Zongwei reply Psychiatry
Could this lead to social issues? If so, there are many reasons for it.
A detailed assessment is necessary.
You should consider seeking outpatient consultation with a psychiatrist to evaluate whether treatment is needed.
Reply Date: 2013/10/22
More Info
Overcoming social anxiety, particularly the fear of men, can be a challenging journey, but it is certainly possible with the right strategies and support. Social anxiety is characterized by an intense fear of social situations where one may be judged or scrutinized by others. This fear can manifest physically, as you described, with symptoms like sweating, trembling, and an overwhelming desire to escape the situation. Here are some tips and strategies that may help you manage and eventually overcome your social anxiety:
1. Understanding Your Anxiety: The first step in overcoming social anxiety is to understand it. Recognize that your feelings are valid and that many people experience similar fears. Understanding that you are not alone can help reduce feelings of isolation and shame.
2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This is a highly effective treatment for social anxiety. CBT helps you identify negative thought patterns and replace them with more positive, realistic ones. A therapist can guide you through this process, helping you to gradually face your fears in a controlled and supportive environment.
3. Gradual Exposure: Start with small, manageable social interactions. For example, practice making eye contact with men or saying hello to someone in a safe environment. Gradually increase the complexity of these interactions as you become more comfortable.
4. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay grounded in the present moment and reduce anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can help calm your body and mind before and during social interactions.
5. Challenge Negative Thoughts: When you find yourself feeling anxious, take a moment to challenge those thoughts. Ask yourself if they are based on facts or assumptions. Often, our fears are exaggerated and not reflective of reality.
6. Build Social Skills: Sometimes, anxiety stems from a lack of confidence in social skills. Consider joining a social skills training group or participating in activities that encourage interaction, such as clubs or classes. This can help you practice and improve your communication skills in a supportive environment.
7. Seek Professional Help: If your anxiety is significantly impacting your life, consider seeking help from a mental health professional. They can provide you with tailored strategies and support, including medication if necessary.
8. Connect with Supportive People: Surround yourself with friends or family members who understand your struggles and can provide encouragement. Sharing your experiences with someone you trust can alleviate feelings of loneliness and fear.
9. Set Realistic Goals: Set small, achievable goals for yourself regarding social interactions. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, as this can help build your confidence over time.
10. Educate Yourself: Learning more about social anxiety can empower you. Understanding the condition can help you feel more in control and less fearful of your symptoms.
11. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Understand that overcoming social anxiety is a process that takes time. Allow yourself to feel anxious without judgment, and recognize that it’s okay to have setbacks.
In conclusion, overcoming social anxiety, especially the fear of men, is a journey that requires patience and persistence. By employing these strategies and seeking support, you can gradually reduce your anxiety and improve your confidence in social situations. Remember, it’s important to take small steps and celebrate your progress along the way. If you find that your anxiety is overwhelming, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional for guidance and support.
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