The behavior of elementary school students picking at the wall?
Dear Dr.
Song,
Hello.
My son is a second-grade elementary school student.
He has an introverted personality, is timid, and easily anxious.
During a casual conversation yesterday, he mentioned that during recess, he lightly scratches the wall with his fingers.
He said that because his nails are too long, it feels uncomfortable, so he trims them with scissors every couple of days to keep them short and neat.
I asked him if it would be okay not to scratch the wall, and he replied that if he doesn't do it, he feels strange and uncomfortable inside, and he also feels an urge to walk over to the wall.
This behavior has been going on for about two weeks.
I didn't press him further because he feels it's not a big deal and doesn't think there's a need to elaborate.
I am confused about whether I should actively address his behavior of "wanting to do it for some unknown reason," or if I should ignore it, hoping it might disappear on its own one day.
I apologize for my concern about whether he might have some psychological issues, and I would greatly appreciate your guidance on this matter.
Thank you very much!
aming, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2014/10/07
Dr. Song Chengxian reply Psychiatry
Dear concerned parents, it is quite common for children in the preschool to elementary school stages to exhibit some repetitive behaviors; however, this does not necessarily indicate a pathological condition.
If these repetitive behaviors are affecting the child's normal activities or interpersonal interactions, it is advisable to seek an evaluation from a pediatric psychiatrist or psychologist.
Wishing you all the best! Sincerely, Dr.
Song.
Reply Date: 2014/10/07
More Info
Understanding wall scratching behavior in anxious second graders can be quite complex, especially when considering the emotional and psychological development of children. Your son's behavior of scratching the wall may be a manifestation of his anxiety, which is not uncommon among children who are introverted or shy.
Children often express their feelings and cope with anxiety through various behaviors, some of which may seem unusual to adults. In your son's case, the act of scratching the wall could serve as a self-soothing mechanism. It may provide him with a sense of control or relief from the discomfort he feels when he is anxious. The fact that he feels "weird" or "uncomfortable" when he refrains from this behavior suggests that it has become a compulsive action for him, similar to how some individuals with anxiety or obsessive-compulsive tendencies might engage in repetitive behaviors to alleviate their distress.
It's important to recognize that children often don't have the vocabulary or understanding to articulate their feelings of anxiety. Instead, they may resort to physical actions that help them manage their emotions. In this context, your son's wall scratching could be a way for him to cope with feelings of unease or anxiety that arise during school or social interactions.
As a parent, your instinct to address this behavior is commendable. However, it's crucial to approach the situation with sensitivity. Here are some steps you might consider:
1. Open Communication: Continue to engage your son in conversations about his feelings. Encourage him to express what he feels when he scratches the wall and explore any underlying emotions. This can help him articulate his anxiety and may provide you with insights into his thought processes.
2. Monitor the Behavior: Keep an eye on the frequency and intensity of the scratching. If it appears to escalate or if it begins to interfere with his daily life, it may be time to seek professional guidance.
3. Teach Coping Strategies: Introduce your son to alternative coping mechanisms for managing anxiety. This could include deep breathing exercises, mindfulness techniques, or even physical activities that allow him to channel his energy in a positive way.
4. Consult a Professional: If the behavior persists or worsens, consider consulting a child psychologist or counselor. They can assess your son's emotional health and provide tailored strategies to help him cope with anxiety. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is often effective for children dealing with anxiety and can help them develop healthier coping mechanisms.
5. Create a Supportive Environment: Ensure that your son feels safe and supported at home. Encourage him to engage in activities that promote relaxation and joy, such as art, sports, or spending time with friends.
6. Educate Yourself: Familiarize yourself with anxiety in children. Understanding the signs and symptoms can help you better support your son and recognize when professional help may be necessary.
In conclusion, while your son's wall scratching behavior may be concerning, it is essential to approach it with understanding and care. By fostering open communication, teaching coping strategies, and seeking professional guidance if needed, you can help him navigate his anxiety and develop healthier ways to cope with his feelings. Remember, early intervention can make a significant difference in a child's emotional well-being.
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