Short duration of sexual intercourse?
A few days ago, I went for a sexual release.
Initially, it was a situation where the woman was on top and the man was on the bottom.
After about twenty thrusts, I ejaculated.
I had been isolated from sexual activity for a long time, approximately two years, relying solely on masturbation to relieve my urges.
My sexual experience is limited to fewer than ten encounters, and I have had a habit of masturbation since middle school, often engaging in it.
During those ten sexual encounters, none lasted more than three minutes.
I am concerned that I may have symptoms of premature ejaculation.
I have asked others, and they told me that this is normal due to my young age and lack of experience, but I am still very worried.
I would appreciate your guidance, doctor.
A-Rui, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/06/28
Dr. Xu Wencang reply Urology
Based on your condition, it is difficult to diagnose premature ejaculation (less than one and a half minutes, making it hard for women to achieve satisfaction).
You may want to observe further.
Reply Date: 2015/06/28
More Info
Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common concern among young men, and it can be particularly distressing for those who are just beginning to explore their sexual experiences. Based on your description, it seems that you have experienced ejaculation occurring relatively quickly during sexual activity, which has led you to question whether this is indicative of a problem.
Firstly, it’s important to understand that PE is defined as ejaculation that occurs with minimal sexual stimulation before, during, or shortly after penetration, and it can happen consistently or intermittently. For many young men, especially those who are inexperienced, it is not uncommon to experience rapid ejaculation. Factors such as anxiety, excitement, and lack of experience can all contribute to this phenomenon.
In your case, having had limited sexual experiences and relying primarily on masturbation for sexual release may have conditioned your body to respond differently during actual sexual encounters. Masturbation often allows for a greater degree of control over the timing of ejaculation, which can create a contrast when transitioning to partnered sexual activity.
Here are some insights and recommendations that may help you manage your concerns regarding premature ejaculation:
1. Understanding Normalcy: Many young men experience PE, especially during their first sexual encounters. It is often a result of excitement and anxiety rather than a medical condition. As you gain more experience, you may find that you develop better control over your ejaculation.
2. Communication with Partners: If you are engaging in sexual activity with a partner, open communication can help alleviate anxiety. Discussing your concerns with your partner can create a more relaxed atmosphere, which may help you perform better.
3. Techniques for Control: There are several techniques that can help you manage premature ejaculation. These include:
- The Stop-Start Technique: During sexual activity, when you feel close to ejaculation, stop all stimulation until the urge decreases, then start again. This can help you learn to control your arousal levels.
- The Squeeze Technique: Similar to the stop-start method, this involves squeezing the base of the penis when you feel close to ejaculation, which can help delay it.
4. Mindfulness and Relaxation: Anxiety can exacerbate PE. Practicing mindfulness or relaxation techniques can help reduce anxiety levels and improve your sexual performance. Techniques such as deep breathing or meditation can be beneficial.
5. Consulting a Professional: If your concerns persist or worsen, it may be helpful to consult a healthcare professional, such as a urologist or a sexual health specialist. They can provide personalized advice and may suggest behavioral therapies or medications if necessary.
6. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can also contribute to better sexual health. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep can improve your overall well-being and potentially enhance your sexual performance.
In conclusion, while your experience may feel concerning, it is essential to recognize that many young men face similar challenges. With time, experience, and possibly some techniques to manage your responses, you may find that your concerns about premature ejaculation diminish. Remember, sexual health is a journey, and it’s perfectly normal to have questions and seek guidance along the way.
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